Why Do I Ask????
I am an 80's kid from South Africa and still not married or anybody asking for my hand. Shoooore, the are those who will come with falls intention and saying words they know we want/need to hear. Don't get me wrong, I am happy single and being a full mom to my baby girl.
I am asking this mostly for her and her pears as well, as she is/they are growing up fast and already saying she does not want to get married at all or have someone in her life.
Our Elders (alive and the desist) are probably the ones to blame, but I feel at fault too for not letting the past be the past, so I can open up my heart to someone special..... HAD TO SEPARATE THIS TO BE CLEAR
at home I am not seen as a mother or a fully grown women especially at church, reason being, all my friends have been married and some got divorced but "still, I wait".
Growing up, marriage was see as an achievement and important for us all so that we build a stable, healthy and reliable families and a team (polygamy). This was mostly done because our elders did not wish for us to be adulteress and promiscuous nation.
What do you think???