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Getting married and dating is two different things. While there are people that will feel okay getting married to any religion, there are people that can't marry someone older than them. What do you think about marrying someone older than you? 
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If men older then me it's okey. :) And if age difference is few years I think it is also ok. The older you getting , the less you feel the difference in age

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Nice question no matter what happens the society will not accept such relationship especially if the girl or the lady is much older than the guy.

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I think for women it is the preferred option. It seems customary in the UK for the man to be a couple of years older although there are marriages where the woman is older and these days no one thinks much of it.

I have dated men younger than myself and generally find that although the age gap might not be a problem at first it does matter in the end. Dating someone your own age or just a couple of years either side is fine because you grew up at the same time and have the same memories, There's nothing worse than a partner not knowing what you are talking about because they are too young to remember something that happened in the past.

I also think that women who marry men old enough to be their father can cause problems. I have a friend who married a man 25 years older than herself and it failed very quickly because he wanted a completely different lifestyle to her. She longed to go out and party while he had done all that and wanted a quiet life. There are many things to be considered if you are thinking of marrying someone where there is a large age gap.
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Obviously we have no choice not to because at the end of the day it's best for us,we have to be able to stand up for what is right.
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Actually, getting married to someone older than I am is ideal for me. I think it is so for majority of ladies. Most ladies, I would say 90 percent do not want to look older than their partners. Our society puts men as the lead in marriage so it is expected that a man should be older and mature enough too.

I know it is the opposite with males although there are some exceptions. Most males I know frown at the idea of marrying someone older than they are. They feel there would not be a certain level of respect in the marriage. Even the rest of society will keep making snide remarks. All of this puts the man in a position where his ego is hurt especially if the woman is completely independent.

I feel like if there's love, respect and understanding between two people, age should not be a problem. Marriage is not a class for age and ranks and status. It is for two souls to unite as one.
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This quite a positive mindset and perspective it will change people's way of thinking because you are quite optimistic.
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I know people will find it strange but I love age gap relationships I don't know why it doesn't matter if boy is older or girl I like it . I think why I like it so much is because I love the fact that after having differences there are so many couples exist who made a beautiful couples even after age gap there differences doesn't able to apart them and this is amazing. 
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I have never gave this a thought whenever I thought of dating because I believe one age is inconsequential in a relationship or marrisge. I can marry anyone of any age provided we are compatible. In my years of marriage I have come to realize that what break down marriages is individual indifferences like ego, pride, finances, infidelity etc than age related issues.

A person that wants to be good will be irrespective of age differences.i take example from some teenagers that can be very stubborn and disobedient to the elders,while some olders one become more respectful. So one can be older than one and behave better in marriage but a younger one will just be misbehaving. So I can marry an older partner without thinking twice about it.
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Basically this point of view is very very legit and understandable let's hope people can take it in the right way.
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Marriage is the legal union between two people who saw themselves, loved themselves and wish to commit themselves together as husband and wife in order to start up their own new family. This is exactly what I have known marriage to be of from day one, it was never said to be a union between two people of the same age or people with different age variations. This proves that literally marriage have nothing to do with someone's age, so in essence two people who are of the same age can get married together and those of different age can also get married and live together as husband and wife. All that matters is that both the couples found love between themselves and wish to live out their lives together as husband and wife with the possibility of having their own kids. So, to answer your question, I can definitely marry someone who is older than myself.
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I find this article quite reasonable and knowledgeable infact most people might not see it this way,am glad you do.
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There are many marriages where one is older than the other. I think marriages where the partners are of same age is rare. We have older men marrying young women and we have older women marrying young men.

Actually it depends on who is the apple of your eye. Age is just a number.
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True, in many marriages one is usually older than the other, but if the man is older, it is easily acceptable by society. But on the other hand, if a woman is older then the same society criticizes marriage.
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Highly true and justifyable I made some research of my own and found this to be quite reliable.
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Yes. You can marry someone,who is older than you. Age is a number. It should not decide the relationships of your life. If you Love him, then you should do the same otherwise not.
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Your idea is legit and I would rate it a five out of five because of the wisdom in the paragraph above.
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Yes I can, two things will determine this to happen, provided the age difference is not too much and provided i am in love with the person, because without love nothing stands, women mostly marry men older than them, but in special occasion men do vice versa. 
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Wonderfully presented and am sure it is based on a high level of research and understanding from you as an individual.
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Yes ofcourse you can do it. All is fair in love and war. But first be her best friend. Well known about her.. I also loved a girl who older than me.
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By reading this I have managed to add up on my knowledge about this topic this is very useful information about the topic.I understand what you are trying to say, keep it up.
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Yes you can. Sometimes love and fate could guide a young man/girl to marry an older person, As long as the person aware and understand that there could be some problem in the marriage life, for example, there's possibility you will not have a kid if you marry a 50 years old woman. Or maybe when the young woman reach the golden age of 35, the husband is to old to counterbalance his wife.

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Indeed this is true I am glad you see things from this perspective because this is quite right.
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Yes you can, it's up to you to decide if you are really in love with your partner then why not you can get married ,because there is no rule against it.
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I am okay with it prefarably for a man to be abit older. A very big gap is also worrying according to me. Marrying also your age mate depends on the maturity of the both of you. 
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In few countries, marrying a man older than the girl age is common, The family themself find an older man for their daughter in case of arranged marriage. But, if a young man marries a woman older than his age then the whole society gets against him.
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I find this information quite useful, indeed I share your point of view and I understand you,this is quite reasonable.Very true and adequate people should start opening there eyes and seeing things this way.
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I don't think 

Because  just i don't love that I don't know why but you feel like you are dating a woman like your mother it's not good for me 
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This message Is quite clear and deeply thought through I believe it is a way forward for all.
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There is nothing if you are going to get married older than you. The most important is that both couples are in love and love each other.
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Yes, it also depends on how old one of the other is, but if you can, there is no law that prevents it, as I believe, I am not very sure either
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Love defines marriage it doesn't matter what the age difference are,by love "all is well",age is just a thing we all know,but love is still unknown,it is a power that is unlimited,but age has a limit
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Age differences are socially acceptable age holds that a person should never date someone whose age is less than half their own plus seven years. Relationships with age gaps may actually be happier than similarly aged couples.
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Age is just a number. The important thing is how well your relationship is. That all the matters. If you have respect, communication, friendship, loyalty and honesty then you have everything you need. Sometimes we base our decision on what people will.say, not how how a situation makes us feel. People don't live your life and nomatter what you do, people will always talk. Do what makes you happy, it won't be nice looking back at life and realising how you missed opportunities to make yourself happy just because you wanted to please you family, they lived thier lives the best way they know how, do that for yourself too. 
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As a guy it is ok to marry someone you are older than, but for the woman to be older than the man, it looks somehow in the eyes of the society, but love don't look that.
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Yes you can, it's only a stereotype that men should be older. But if you're a man but loved a woman older than you, it's completely fine. Age is just a number, the love is the one needed if you want to marry someone.
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