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Some parents are not in support of giving any sort of punishment to their children even when it's obvious the kids are doing something very wrong. It's their personal decision but for those who offer punishments, what do you normally do? 

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I disciplined my kids alot and I believe it the duty of all parents to do same, no need leaving kids to go wild in the name of either pampering or spoiling them. I have always believed in the carrot and stick approach of discipling a child and I really advocate for this, let the kids know when they're wrong and right too.

The carrot and stick approach is a two way thing . Reward and punishment. A child get rewarded when he or she deserves it and get rebuked or punished when he or she is wrong. Punishment mustn't necessarily be about coporal punishment like flogging but ceasing their play things, stopping them from playing during their play time, not allowing them watch their favorite station, making them repeat a certain chore or giving a new chore to be done etc will help put a child in check.
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This is a good answer. I think it can work if applied well and in love.
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Remember the old popular saying that goes this way - “Spare the rod and spoil the child“. This is something that should not be taken lightly but very seriously because once a child takes to a behavioral pattern and if the parents or guardian doesn't do anything about it, such child would take that behavior as a norm and would keep repeating it over and over again without stopping. Children learns quickly that most people tend to comprehend and it's the reason why when they do some things that surprises you as a parent, you shouldn't be amazed.


Even in the holy book Bible, it says teach a child the way he or she should behave and once he or she grow that they may not part from it. I'm totally in support of dishing out punishment to kids when they behave bad. Flogging slightly, taking away their toys and grounding them are my favorite punishments.
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Although I am not yet a father, but I have so many children as students that I discipline on daily basis. And so, I will be speaking from the perspective of teacher, which I guess it would reflect the attitude of a father on how a child can be punished. From personal experience, I have discovered that children of nowadays are more unruly than how it used to be back in the days. And they are very disrespectful and uncourteous too.

Basically, what I do is to ensure that I don't spare the rod so that they don't go wayward in life. Anytime they mishave is either I punish them by flogging them or give them physical punishment that would make them realized what they've done is wrong. And I also make sure the lesson is learnt so that it won't be of waste of time for me and to them too. This is usually achieved by making sure they see the reason behind why they were punished. I even go as far as councelling them through admonition, which is primarily targeted to psychologically sharpen them up and also to make them to be remorseful for whatever they've done.

But one thing I don't do is to discipline them out of wickedness. I ensure that they are punished out of love, so that I don't get to inflict injuries on their body. Surprising, this method has been working for me, as they turn a new leaf from their attitudinal approach to their academics, and how they relate with their teachers.
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This is a good answer. I think it can work if applied well and in love.
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Parents punish their kids in different ways, though I don't agree with some of their methods, I believe punishment for kids is a must do.

Punishment doesn't have to come in the form of hate or hurtful ways, It can be in the form of discipline. In order to teach kids that every action we take has to be accounted for, discipline has to be put in place, and also punishment if they behave badly. I got really disciplined and sometimes punished by my parents while growing up. As much as I hate to admit it, some of my parents actions which I hated as a child has made me the better person I am today. Hence, bringing up a child without discipline and caution when they do the wrong things will only make them behave worse when they get older.

We should remember that whatever a child is taught at home is what he takes to the outside. The actions of a child reflects on the entire family. Certain misbehaved actions by our kids which we overlook as parents might not be overlooked when they exhibit such behaviors outside. It might even get them in trouble. So it's better we nurture our kids with discipline and if need be, punishments too.
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Everyone makes mistakes and as kids, I think they need to be punished for their actions. Children are little and most times, they do not understand the consequences of their actions. It is the responsibility of the parents to make them understand and discipline them when necessary.

If this isn't done properly, children will go on doing what they feel like and this is one of the ways in which miscreants are created in society. Children must be taught the difference between right and wrong and it isn't something of a question or a choice about it.

In the end, we are all a part of the society and nobody has the right in my opinion not to teach their children the difference between right and wrong to function properly in the society unless they want to build a world for them elsewhere. It is a moral, social and religious obligation towards them.
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Childre are gifts from God and needed to be care for and giving adequate knowledge to sustain them to be fruitful. They are like an assignment from God to nurse a obedient servant to live in the course of God. Many parents have failed and failing in carrying out the assignment diligently all because of lack of absolute truth. There is a saying that goes like this " spare the rod and spoil the child". At a tender age, a child doesn't know the difference between good and bad. But it is the responsibility oof the parent to punish such child once he/she does that bad thing. The punishment wwill send a long time signal to the child that such things is bad. Such moral will stay with the child forever.

Also when a child reaches teenage age actually this is the most important age that a child needs the parent most. Because this is when he/she graduate to freedom level. Such child must be told the good, bad and ugly at this age in serious and absolute reality. And severe punishment will be prefered .

However, as important as it is to punish a child, it us also important to made the chid free. And thus is done by love
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Hi there,

My name is Nesim and I hope I would give you concise but good enough answer to make it through.

The most important thing to do when it comes to kids is to make them behave like a good people.

Out of 100 people there is one good only.(today), out of 100 people 2 are pyschos, at least 4 are hipocrits(masked), and all the rest are bad as f...

So in order to raise your kids to become not just good people but the great ones is rather far more difficult then your probably thinking. A lot of talking(every single day) like a lot is actually the best way.

Never over-do-it! You can't fight your kids, never try and do something you think should be good for them rather try and show them the good way. 

I think much much more is to be covered but real, comprehensive, smart talk usually wins. You statle them with your talk. Try and say only what really matters and never talk too much of "why you doin' this, you can't behave like that", rather explain exactly why not and they should stop doing so many bad things.

Hope this helps.
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Not every wrong Doing deserves a punishment specially in case of children. Since the children are at the learning stage of the life so they must be taught to feel that they have done something wrong which they must not have done. They must be taught in a practical and subjective way that they can harm someone, someone's sentiments or hurt someone's feelings by doing something wrong. They must be given more chance so that they can learn from their own mistakes in a comprehensive way. I think this is the best method to punish your children by not punishing them and making them feel what they have done wrong.
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You can restrain your child from having certain privileges as punishment, for example not watching Television, or going out to play, in African culture part of discipline includes a spank but today that is gradually giving way to voice talk and explanation.  
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Corporal punishment is not accepted anymore. If you do, then you definitely violate children's rights. The best way is to talk to them in a nice way. Children are like adults when thinking nowadays. They can understand things easily and we need to keep guiding them. Look back when you were still a child, then do what you think is right by not hurting them physically and emotionally.
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Correction to a child does not mean that you don't love them. Caning or flogging your child moderately will remind him/her that they are in the wrong.

I use punishments also to correct my children. I can sometimes deny them time to watch their favorite cartoons so that they make up for not finishing their homework. So that time, they will use it for doing homework. Other times I wouldn't buy them their favorite pizza if they didn't finish their chores and I let them understand why I did that. 
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Best way to me to do it is take something they like to do there game system or there chrome book or tablet it bothers them more then anything else or ground them
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In dealing with your child's attitudes or behaviour, both the parents should take equal and joint decision.Whenever a child make a mistake for the first time, he should be scolded mildly.But he does not improve himself just by scolding,he should be punished and even be told the reason for punishment.
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Children have to be disciplined. That's the only way they will know the difference between right and wrong behavior. If not, they will never do right. They will do things thier way and 100% of the time it never ends well.
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There is no one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to disciplining children, as different methods work better for various children. Generally, most parents choose a punishment that is appropriate to the misbehavior, and which will help the child learn the lesson without harming them. Some common methods of discipline include:

1. Time-Out: The child is given a set amount of time to sit quietly in a designated spot and think about their misbehavior.

2. Loss of Privileges: Taking away privileges such as television or video games for a set amount of time can be an effective punishment.

3. Extra Chores: Assigning extra chores can be a good way to teach children responsibility and discipline.

4. Positive Reinforcement: Rewarding good behavior with praise and rewards can be a great way to help children learn the right way to act.

5. Natural Consequences: Letting children experience the natural consequences of their misbehavior can also be an effective way to teach them a lesson. For example, if a child breaks a toy, they may have to go without it until they can afford to replace it.
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It's important for parents to use positive reinforcement, set clear boundaries and consequences, and offer guidance and support to encourage good behavior and emotional regulation in their children. Discipline should be age-appropriate and based on empathy, communication, and understanding.
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The type of punishment will vary depending on the severity of the misbehavior. Generally, I prefer to use non-physical forms of discipline, such as time-outs, logical consequences (e.g. taking away a privilege or toy), or having the child do a chore to compensate for their misbehavior. In more serious cases, I may also use a form of positive reinforcement, such as rewarding good behavior and punishing bad behavior. I also try to have an open dialogue with my child, so that they understand why their behavior was wrong, and how to avoid repeating it in the future.
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The best punishment to give to a kid when he or she misbehaves is by withdrawing something that he likes or fail reward because certain mistakes.
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Calmly and firmly explain the consequences if they don't behave. For example, tell her that if she does not pick up her toys, you will put them away for the rest of the day. Be prepared to follow through right away. Don't give in by giving them back after a few minutes.
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child get rewarded when he or she deserves it and get rebuked or punished when he or she is wrong. Punishment mustn't necessarily be about coporal punishment like flogging but ceasing their play things, stopping them from playing during their play time, not allowing them watch their favorite station, making them repeat a certain chore or giving a new chore to be done etc will help put a child in check.
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