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controlling you have a partner that telling you what to wear and what not to wear everytime you go out?
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We respect each others's views. Therefore, that did not happen so far.
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I have a mind of my own, i don't expect anyone to control me, i will accept and respect an opinion, but not being controlled that's a no no for an adult.

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I really hate it when someone controls me and tells me do this and that and don't do that. If I have a boyfriend and realise that he's being domineering, I'll definitely have to break up with you. I love doing my own things in my own way provided that am very comfortable in what am doing and it won't harm me in one way or another. There's some friends of mine who enjoy such partners saying that that is true love simply because he's so much concerned about.

There's certain things a man can tell me to and I'll definitely do and others I can never do. What I usually tell them before we start dating is that , don't try compromise me, if you're not comfortable with how I look, dress or act, you can simply go because being comfortable in a relationship is very crucial.
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Yes. It is the worst feeling if someone controls us. But I have good and understanding partner. Thanks for your answer. 
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Well,it depends on the partners involved because I see my partner as more of a friend than a controlling freak. Telling a partner what you like her or him to wear doesn't seem controlling to me, it more of a person showing genuine concern for a partner than anything negative.


But if it on the other hand the person is purposely being controlling then one should have a talk with the person by letting the person know that one has his or her life to live and as such let live and live.

Again, one should check his or herself too. If what one is doing is disgusting whether in one's habit or otherwise and a partner point it out for correction or adjustment then it should be taken in good fate and necessary actions taken for good and not seen as being controlled.
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Being comfortable is very important in any kind of relationship. Thanks for your answer. 
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Honestly, I don't think that I have any issue with my partner which will result in my partner trying to control me. One thing that I have come to realize about life is that you have to be in harmony with everybody and this entails that you should find the link where you can connect better with the person that you are in a relationship with. In every relationship, there is need for us to understand that the other person is not always perfect and doing things that will make them feel loved is the only way that we can win their hearts.

 When I notice that my partner  is trying to control me, I tend to give them the opportunity  to do this since it is the only way to show them that I love them and I believe that with time, they are going to appreciate every sacrifice that I have made to ensure that our relationship worked.
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You are sounds amazing Jerry, wish you the best with your relationship and long lasting.
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No. I don't. He sometimes advised me on certain things but he never controls me. The final decision is mine. I took his advise mostly. 
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I am not in a relationship right now. My past relationships are not like controlling someone. It is not my cup of tea to do this. A relationship will not work this way. If we limit what our partners do, then they will choose to break free from us. Thus, the relationship will not last long.
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Sometimes I do, but I see it as part of love. The control may be to bring out the best in me. I don't see it as a problem because there are better and positive aspects of my partner that I value and admire.
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Yes i dictate what my partner does, who they're friends with, and more. Regardless of i feel about what my partner does, who my  partner is friends with, or anything else, if i am telling them what they are and aren't allowed to do in terms of those things, I am likely being too controlling
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There is control and advice and I bet being advice is part of a relationship but having a partner who wants to control everything will lead to relationship being sore and breaking up. 
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Giving advise is okay but not to the point where you are pushing his/her ideas to you that would be somewhat as a controller. It is important to put spaces  even in a relationship to  make sure that there  are  boundaries  that needs  to be met and understand and  not just something wants to  take over your decision making simply because you are in a  relationship. 
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Controlling behavior can be incredibly detrimental to a relationship it can lead to emotionally abusive and toxic, causing anxiety and poor mental health. But sometimes caring arises a sense of selflessness and love. You need to define the reason and figure out the causes behind his controlling behavior.
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You get control by your husband only for me what i should wear or not is decided by mother in law. She didn't like to wear jeans,kurta etc modern dress is not liked by her. So she tell my husband to tell me not to wear all this dress. She can wear night dress. I cannot wear it at home. The dress my husband told is good for me turn to be said by him again didn't wear it again. So compare to me , you have been controlled by one person in house. Not only in the matter of dress, the food that i should eat, how many times i have to bath etc all are decided by the mother in law and son.
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Am not yet married yet but i think as a married person that you are, there clothes that you are not suppose to wear, so if your gets angry over what you wear then you two need to visit the mall.
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I've already had a controlling partner and a respectful partner. But in my case, I never yet controlled someone before, if she wants it then go, if she requested me to go somewhere else then we go. I don't want to use my ego to control my girlfriend because she may fall out of love
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No, I do not find my partner controlling me. My partner and I have a mutual respect for each other and we both have autonomy in our relationship. We are both free to make our own decisions and decisions that effect both of us are made together.
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Every couple has different experiences and preferences. However, if you are finding that your partner is controlling you, it may be that they are making decisions based on their own needs rather than those of the relationship. It is important to remember that love and love relationships are not about control.
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Sometimes people confuse being advised and being controlled.when a partner is advising you on what to eat or wear and what he or she would like you to look like.
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We all respect each other and any views because love and trust are the key for a successful  marriage and a happy couple forever.
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Controlling your partner wether in marriage or in relationship is not done at all. He or she is not your slave or maid. That is marriage or relationship harassment.
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if someone feels controlled by their partner, it's essential to address concerns about boundaries and freedom within the relationship. Open communication, setting clear expectations, and understanding each other's needs are crucial in ensuring a healthy and respectful relationship dynamic.
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