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To give you an idea,me and my best friend have been friends since school days, higher secondary.Things were ok, until like one day,he grew into this tall slim guy with a flirty nature and quite at ease with women, I on the other hand turned out to be a descent , well behaved guy  not the type who can talk endlessly about irrelevant things to girls and so fundamentally we were different.So, we also joined the same collg and it soo happend that when me and he are trying to make conversation with a girl(or girls), i get ignored.So, even tho a friend, I dint actually enjoy his company.Things got distanced between me and him when he started having random affairs with older women(in the late 20s), who seemd to have some perseverance for him because he looked bigger(taller) than his early 20s age group(I think thats the reason) and also other random girls in collg and never told me anything(became secretive) and Id expect a friend to be open.But we remained friends.

So my younger sister also joined the same collg as a fresher and we were are final year when he started to hang out more frequently with me, hed appear out of nowhere when I go to meet my sis during breaks and this kindoff became a norm after a while.I started feeling weird when once he asked her if she can see him as her own "brother" and she said yes, your like my own brother.After she said that she looked at me as if in a guilty way(or maybe it was my imagination).Another time, me and her were fighting and he interfered saying, hey bro, dont scold our sis, shes soo cute.

So, I started to feel weird about the whole thing.Am i being paranoid?
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It is normal to get jealous when your best friend talk to your sister, but of course you have to erase that one to avoid complication.

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I don't think you're paranoid I think you are just trying to be the big brother here trying to protect your kid sis from getting entangle with the flirty smooth talker friend.it just a brotherly instinct of trying to keep your sister distance  away from your friend that isn't so safe to be with which your kid sis might not know about.
But I think you would have had a heart to heart talk with your sister and let her understand why she shouldn't think of being close friend with your friend let alone even think of dating him, so that your sister will understand why you are against any form of relationship between she and her friend I will advised if you're doing this purely for your sister good and not out of envy, jealousy or bad intentions then you're just right about your actions.
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I don't think there's something wrong with you mentally like you're suffering from paranoia. You are only trying to protect your sister from a randy friend, which is normal. Anyone that loves his sister would do the same thing. It would be more disastrous if your friend begin to have your sister as one of those women flocking around him.
Absolutely, there won't anything wrong if not for his bad reputation with women. I guess that's why you're feeling restless with his actions of feigning he is also a member of the family. That alone is even more scarier than if he was perceived as a total stranger.
However, there won't be need of sweating yourself up over the matter. All you have to do protect sister is by keeping your eyes wide open and your ears on the ground. If anything intimate is going between them you can kindly offer your counsel to your sister on who she's dealing with. If she listens, fine, if she doesn't, you let her be. If she refuse to learn from your wisdom she would definitely do that through experience.
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Your not being paranoid, your just being nonsensical for lack of a better word. You need to realize that your sister is not a young girl anymore, she is a grown girl since you have said she is in collage, definitely she knows what college students do. I can say that you are also jealous of your friend, because he seems to be more aggressive and good looking. He must also be an outgoing guy from the way you describe him, getting the girls to talk to him, even getting closer to your sister. You don't feel good about it because you cannot do these things that he doing so easily. If anything, i think you should get closer to your "brotther" and learn a few tips from him on how to chat up the young girls in your school, that will definitely help you in scoring some points.
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First there is a bond between you and your boyfriend, and your imagination tells you that the bond will be threatened each time you see him with the opposite sex. Especially when you already envisioned who he has grown up to me. What you should do is to disassociates yourself from such thought. 
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I think you should not feel that way against your sister. Why not talk to her if you have an issue like this. It is a good trick not to feel jealous of her.
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I think it's not jealous , maybe you are afraid from him to contact your sister behind you or to to get closer so that friendship or relation turn to something else, because as you know that he is handsome and you want to care about your sister.

maybe now she consider him as brother and maybe one day this will change to love , and the bad point here if she fall in love with him while he is considering her as sister.

so I think there should be a space , because you are the only one who no him better than others.
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I understand your situation well it's really normal to feel that way it's just a feeling of protection for your sister maybe you do have some doubt about yours best friend new character when he is around girls so don't feel bad it's normal.
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May be that best friend of yours is unfaithful and not straightfoward person and you have feeling he will bring some trouble to your sister.you are not jealousy it's care.
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No, you're not being paranoid. It is perfectly understandable to feel jealous when your best friend pays more attention to your younger sister than to you. It is natural to want to protect your family and to be jealous when someone else is getting the attention you feel you should be getting. It is also natural to feel a little hurt when someone you thought was your friend is clearly more interested in spending time with your sister than with you. It is important to communicate your feelings to your friend and to your sister, and to let them both know how you feel.
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Feeling jealous when your best friend talks to your younger sister could stem from a variety of reasons. It could be due to a fear of losing your friend's attention or feeling left out. Jealousy often arises from feelings of insecurity or a perceived threat to a valued relationship. It might be helpful to communicate your concerns with your friend and explore your emotions more deeply.
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  1. Open Communication: If you have genuine concerns or suspicions, consider having an open and honest conversation with your best friend. Approach the conversation in a non-accusatory manner, expressing your feelings and thoughts without making assumptions. Ask for clarification and express your concerns about their reputation of dating multiple people.

  2. Talk to Your Sister: If you feel comfortable, you could also have a conversation with your younger sister to gauge her perspective on the situation. Respect her privacy and feelings, and let her know that you're looking out for her well-being.

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