What to do with an office mate who tells bad things about you behind your back? - Answeree
I have an office mate who used to be my super friend. we were so closed. then one day she just keep telling my other office mates bad things about me. When we were still friends, I told her one big secret. then, I just knew that most of my office mates already know the secret. She even keep things personally even when we were in the office. I tried talking to her but she is pushing me away. i messaged her in facebook and did not even bother to read it.
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If a co-worker or even you boss is trying to make you look bad,then you can't just ignore them.You should confront it.Backstabbing is something most people will have to deal with at a point in their lives.

I think the first thing to do is to actually figure out if you are a victim of sabotage and if so,who is behind it.One tricky thing about finding your saboteur is the fact that their actions are subtle.

Have a talk with the person.Give your colleague a chance to explain her action. That may resolve the issue.Maintain a professional tone throughout the coversation and cite evidence of your suspicion.

Be prepared for the backstabber to Deny so don't back down.If the two of you can't resolve the issue,alert your manager to resolve the issue.

You may go straight to the manager if you think that confronting the person won't solve the issue but a good rule of thumb is to do this only if their is a business impact e.g the deadline for a project was not met.If the backstabber*s end result has a negative impact on a business outcome,it is easier to make a case.This will not make your colleagues see you as a jealous,difficult person.
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I want to be as professional as possible that is why I don't want my manager to know that I am affected by this issue. Thank you for the advice, but for now I think I will just ignore her.
Well,if you think that will work,then do it..but I think it would be better to confront the person with evidence of your suspicion if you don't want the manager to know..my own advice though....
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Well, the straightaway option is to avoid him and let him do whatever he is doing on your back. Your character and your cool response will let him down eventually. In every office, such nerds exist, but it's up to you how you react.
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Well the best way to get rid off it is to confront or approach your office mate personally and calmly and let the two of you talk about your concern. Do it in a professional way and do not let your emotion get ahead of you.
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Insecurity can ruin a friendship even how strong the foundation is. That person is not your true friend, she's a wolf under a sheep's clothing. That serves as a lesson to you to never trust someone easily and never share your secrets with someone in just one sitting. You cannot do something about that. Just continue being true to yourself, because you know yourself more. Kill her with kindness. 
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For me the best way to do first if he/she did not want to talk to you or keep on ignoring you, let it be. Time will answer the reason why. Just don't be affected by what she/he is broadcasting against you...it will pass...Nobody knows the truth, except you. It's their loss. Just be calm, do your responsibility. What is important is that you don't do anything wrong with them. And don't even fight back, it can worsen the situation. Let the purest of your heart win over them. Stay positive always, keep the best in you.
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In every office, there are always one person who talks our behind. Avoid that kind of people. There is no use in explaining yourself to them. So just avoid them by your activities.  
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If an office mate tells bad things about, you behind your back you should teach him the Lesson, so that he will not do that in his life.
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