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I just met this girl.She reluctantly gave me her number.I don't call her everyday though because I don't want to look desperate. She doesn't know my intention yet.I just need some good advice on how to go about this without looking desperate.

I really want to date her.Pleases,advise..
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Know that she gave you her number for a reason. It will be ok to tell her how you feel because that will make her feel you are confident and not afraid to go after what you want or desire. Phone calls are meant to only set dates. So only call her to set dates. Call her and set a date to go have fun that's what dates a meant for. When you both are having fun and enjoying yourselves surprise her or tell her how you feel. That would be a good time to tell her or over lunch or dinner. Whichever you choose. 
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Thanks a bunch for the advice..I backed out because of the red flag I noticed during our conversation on the phone.....she is not worth my time..

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First you need to be congratulated on taking a step to say hi, You have actually gained some points on getting her number. I know that is usually the hardest part for guys when they show interest in a girl. Anyway the fact that she was able to give you her number that is an indication that she may be feeling the same way too, lets just say that the feeling is mutual. Girls like to be approached, they don't want to be seen as the ones making the move. that's why they play hard to get sometimes but if you push a bit you just could end up being the lucky one. here is a tip, if a girl gives you her number she expects you to call her, i don't know if you called on the first day, or you took some days before you did it. since you have been calling her i guess you have your ground and can be able to talk to her freely. why don't you take the first step and ask her out am sure she is looking forward to it, do not waste time otherwise you will loose her trying not to look desperate. A simple date will get things rolling maybe a lunch date or a movie will do, then on the date get to know each other better. do not try to do anything funny just be friends and you can move on from there ALL THE BEST.
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Thanks a bunch for your reply..I read your write up with a fine toothed comb and I learnt a few things from it..I put a call through to her the third day and I have been calling her since then..the last chat we had put me off though.. she already knew my intention and wasted no time in turning me down..she didn't say that verbally ..Her gesture spoke so loud..

I guess I'm gonna have to move to someone else who will  be more open and ready to be in a relationship.. One will keep trying though..
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Your point is really good, seems like you are an experienced person in these cases. Nice one there.
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Well, the first thing you should do is ask her out on a date. This will let her know that you're interested in her, and she can then decide whether or not she wants to date you. If she says yes, then you can take it from there. If she says no, that's okay too. Just be grateful for the opportunity to get to know her better.

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Be clarified, mysterious, and respectful. Choose a private setting and try to notice these things, if she really likes you in that way, she must be dressing herself good, her hair must be open or looks stunning and she'd blush hard when you say a joke or something cheesy, she sure finds way to touch you subtly or doesn't mind you touching her on her shoulders or arms. But don't overdo the touching part as it may come across as a creepy over a long time without expressing your intentions. If that all fits then don't wait for long! Just clarify your intentions with her whether you wanna be friends or mingle together but in a very subtle way coz girls really do have a sixth sense on noticing such things & be a mystery to her and make her think about you all the time that'll make her go crazy about you! Good luck & enjoy!

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That's a really good advice as we, girls really like the guy to be mysterious as it brings a lot for both to be playful with each other & I hope this guy got laid with her lol!
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just tell her what you really feel..just follow your heart and thats it...you can do it..and make sure you will get to know her more
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She's right. Go for it if it's your heart's desire and don't let an instance to lose her.
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Take away desperation and expectation in any relationship then you will be fine. Important thing to note is a good relationship grows, it starts as a friendship where you get to know each other, and understand each other likes and dislikes. So just get the conversation going and start with being good friends. 
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If you have feelings for her. First you to feel your importance in her life. Then look that the you have for her is logtime or for small time.  Then directly tell her about your feeling to her.
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That was sweet if she gave her number. She may be also interested about you too but don't be assured. Just keep on talking to each other and know each other's differences and character and then if had a chance, ask her on a date
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You know you're falling in love when someone begins to take up major real estate in your thoughts. So as you approach a girl you need to sound confident and sure of yourself. To make her fall in love with you show appropriate affection, and show your good intention to her. Let her know you like her company and do not forget to give her a small memento. This will remind her of you and will let her know that you like her. 
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Just be patient with her and give her some time some women are like that. Show that you respect her and how sincere your intentions are with her. You are always on her side. Don't pressure her even if you really like to have a date with her. If you want her, you should understand her reason if she is not that open to you. Talk with her at times so she will know that you are there on her side no matter what happens. You can be her friend and a shoulder to cry on. You have to do these things to get her attention. Try to be close with her family somehow it will help you also to become closer to her as she sees how pure your intentions are to her. Of course, never give up on her and make sure that you will do everything for her not only just to impress her. Show the real you so that she will know you more little by little and somehow she will start to be comfortable with your presence. Hopefully, she will start to be open to you.
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With what you have describe you sound desperate, if you truely know that you are desperately in love with her then go for her, go now or it will be too late
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Ok if you want to date her for the sake of love then you need to tell her immediately and if she wants to be dated also for the sake of love, then she would gladly accept it.

If you want to date her for something else, then I don't think it's the goal of dating and she may not accept it
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First, you should try to be honest with her about what you're feeling. This will help her feel more comfortable with you. Additionally, it may be helpful to talk about your feelings with her in a public place. She may not be comfortable discussing her feelings with someone who isn't familiar with her experiences. It's important to be open and honest about your feelings with her. If she doesn't feel comfortable discussing your feelings, it may be helpful to step back and ask her why she's avoiding you. If she doesn't want to date you, then it may be helpful to find someone else to date.
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if a girl gives you her number she expects you to call her, i don't know if you called on the first day, or you took some days before you did it. since you have been calling her i guess you have your ground and can be able to talk to her freely. why don't you take the first step and ask her out am sure she is looking forward to it, do not waste time otherwise you will loose her trying not to look desperate. A simple date will get things rolling maybe a lunch date or a movie will do, then on the date get to know each other better. do not try to do anything funny just be friends and you can move on from there ALL THE BEST.
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Well for her to give you her number that means she doesn't really hatr you so try to be nice and caring towards her make her your friend and make her feel she is important
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Given the fact that she gave you her number, I believe you are good to good. Ask her out on a date and ask her if she is seeing someone at the moment if don't let her know that you have feelings for but wish to take it slowly. If you delay, you might not be the only person on her dm and end up losing her to someone else.
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