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I'm really socially awkward, I find it difficult to talk to people face to face, and more if I have a crush on a guy I "met??" a couple days ago. I'm a 16 y/o guy who likes guys. So... from what I suppose he is a guy between 20 to 25 y/o, at least he looks like one. I met him while I was omw to the institute, I was running late and he was going out with his dog. He was holding the entrance door for me, so I gave my thanks and he responded with a warm smile. I legit couldn't get him out of my head all day long and now I wish I had talked more with him that day. What should I do? Should I try to talk to him and see if I can ask him out? Or just leave it as friends? Oh and yeah he lives in the same building as me. The age of consent in Spain is 16 y/o "Individuals aged 15 or younger in Spain are not legally able to consent to sexual activity, and such activity may result in prosecution for statutory rape or equivalent local law. Spain statutory rape law is violated when an individual has a consensual sexual contact with a person under age 16."

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I don't care whether the age of consent in Spain is 16years old ..forgive me for coming hard on you. I'm doing this because I don't want you to make the same mistake that young girls make today.I weep when I see young girls walking on the street with unwanted pregnancies. It all starts from the statement"I love that boy..he is so cute"

You are too young to be in a relationship.You don't even know what love is. What you are feeling is not love. Its infatuation..its just a passing fancy..it will fade with time.A whole slew of young girls feel this way..its normal..they think they are in love..they may have this feeling for their teacher or the boy sitting next to them or their neighborhour..

Young girls tend to be attracted to older people like their teachers..they want to experience the fantasy they formed in their head probably due to the movies they watch or stuffs like that.

My advice to you is to focus on your studies..know what you want to be in the future..wait till you are in your twenties before you think of going into the dating game.By then,you will be mature and you will understand life better.

Unless you want to end up with an unwanted pregnancy at a young age,you may consider dating that boy but I will strongly advise against it.

If I were you,I won't slough off this piece of advice...
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Indeed this is true I am glad you see things from this perspective because this is quite right.
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Oohh my goodness, to tell you the truth love is a very tricky issue, it's not as easy as it may seem or sound. First and foremost you a very young to even start falling in love with guys. Surely if my guess is right, you must be in high school or something like that right? Let me give you a piece of advice as a young woman note, not a young girl. I say young woman because I have been there done that. Men will always be here they are not going anywhere. You have a lot to look forward to and achieve concentrate on your schooling first,get a degree or certificate so that in any eventuality you will have something to fall back on. You already want to ask the guy out without even knowing him? Just because he opened the door for you doesn't mean he likes you. He was probably just being a gentleman, please get to know his name first be a friend before anything else. You will be making the biggest mistake of your life if you make that move. I can assure you he doesn't feel anything for you or he might not even noticed you or how you feel that's the sad truth unfortunately.
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First off dating an older guy is not fine because of your age. You are young and there will be many crushes in your life. This guy you are talking about more than likely is in a relationship and has someone in his life. Guys are after one thing at this age and it is sex and a relationship. You have many years ahead of you and need to not get your heart broken at such an early age. My granddaughter dated a guy that was a few years older than she was and I saw what it did to her. Her parents let it go and allowed her to go out with him and finally put her on birth control. Now she is heading off to college and her head is all messed up wondering about the relationship with him and if she will ever see him again or not. She is young and has a lot going for her and this can really stop her from reaching her goals in life worry about a guy that is older than she is and wondering if he has found another person or not.
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Brilliant facts now I understand even more this is quite outstanding,this is a brilliant consecutive idea to the question at hand.
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An adult is a person above 18 years. You are below and so you are a child.

Actually your bust has not grown enough and if you become pregnant giving birth will pose a problem. It may be by operation.

Keep away from men and study if you are in school.
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I share your point of view,infact I think we agree on this,am glad you see things this way because it is indeed the best.
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You should marry with him, if you.like someone,who is 7 Years older than you. Age is a Number. It should not decide the relationships of your life.
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Enlighting one another and sharing of adequate information is what we are all there for, i find you to be quite enlightening on this matter.
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According to me, Age is just a number. If you like someone, you can express your feelings to them. Age doesn't decides anything. Mind set decides all. If you are not really bothered about age, then don't think about it. 
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Generally convincing and understandable I am now seeing things in a different point of view after reading this answer.
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You have to adhere to the laws of your country to avoid leading your love ones to problems. You guys can be friends till the legal years of consent, friendship is not illegal, it is better to kick start any relationship with friendship instead of jumping into a love relationship blindly. 
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I find this article quite reasonable and knowledgeable infact most people might not see it this way,am glad you do.
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My friend  All is  fair in love and war. If you life some one first prepare yourself and think about it that it is only your attraction or realy. Making choices is important. Then tell her
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I find this article quite reasonable and knowledgeable infact most people might not see it this way,am glad you do.
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As they always say age is just a number but to me a huge age difference to me is worrying . You can get married to a man seven years older than you but to the man,you can also be the same age mate as his daughter, so the man will be marrying his own child.
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I share your point of view,infact I think we agree on this,am glad you see things this way because it is indeed the best.
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I know a girl who married a guy 10 years older than her and they are happy and have kids

It depend on that person if he is good or no

Age is not a problem 
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Very true and adequate people should start opening there eyes and seeing things this way.This is very useful information with accuracy,I find this information quite outstanding and relatively important.
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You should follow your heart and do what your heart tells you to do,and by doin this you will live a happy and more enjoyable life whereby you will be doing what your heart wants you to do.
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Loving someone is not because of age preferences. It will happen and is considered destined to love someone who is older than you.
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there isint really anything u can do about age difference it is what it is u yourself will know what is right and what is wrong do what makes u happy
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To be honest with you, I understand where you are coming from, with literally everything you mentioned.  The age you have reached is the age of first time experiences. Its a very exciting and tricky age that one. And 9/10 advises from people don't really get through to you, you end up doing what you want because it seems exciting.  But one thing you should keep in mind is, we don't see what other people from the outside see. We see danger in what you are about to persue, you see everything good. So, be careful when you decide to ignore the advises I have seen n this post, if you decide to to take the advices, take it as a learning block and you will do fine. 
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I think you should really leave it as friends for the mean while then if you come across him at any time just take his phone number,then you'll call him talk to him find out if the person is in a relationship if he's not you can go ahead to tell him.
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Age Difference Relationship Advice

What should I do if I like someone who is 7 years or more older than me?

It's natural to be attracted to people of all ages, and it's also natural to have feelings for someone who is older than you. However, it's important to remember that relationships with large age differences can sometimes be difficult, especially if you are at different stages in your life. If you are considering pursuing a relationship with someone who is significantly older than you, there are a few things you should consider:

Age of consent: First and foremost, you need to be aware of the laws in your state or country regarding age of consent. In most places, there are laws that prohibit sexual relationships between people who are significantly older and younger than each other, even if both parties are consenting. It's important to be aware of these laws and to respect them.

Life stage differences: People who are significantly older or younger than each other may be at different stages in their lives. This can lead to conflicts and misunderstandings, as each person may have different goals, expectations, and interests. It's important to have open and honest communication about these differences and to make sure that both partners are on the same page.

Societal attitudes: In some societies, relationships with large age differences may be met with negativity or disapproval. It's important to consider how your relationship may be viewed by others and to be prepared to handle any negative reactions.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to be true to yourself and to be honest with your feelings. If you feel a strong connection with someone who is older than you and you think that the relationship could work, then it's worth exploring. Just be sure to consider all of the factors mentioned above and to communicate openly and honestly with your partner.
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Assuming that the age of consent in Spain is 16 years old, it is not illegal for a 16-year-old boy to have a consensual sexual contact with a person who is at least 20 years old, as long as both individuals are aware of the teenager's age and agree to the activity. If the person is older than 25, the age of consent in Spain is 18 years old.

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If you like someone who is 7 years or more older than you, it might be best to try to talk to them and see if they can answer some questions about themselves. If they doesn't seem like the kind of person you want to be friends with, you could try to try to ask them out on a date. This person might have to be older than you, and might have something to with your age. If you can't or don't want to ask, you could try to stay in touch and see if there's anything between you and him.
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Oh and yeah he lives in the same building as me. The age of consent in Spain is 16 y/o "Individuals aged 15 or younger in Spain are not legally able to consent to sexual activity, and such activity may result in prosecution for statutory rape or equivalent local law
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It's not so bad to get attracted to someone older than you and it's not also bad to have feelings towards someone but right now your education matters most to you because you have enough years ahead so relax
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