Let me start by asking you a question before i answer you, are you a christian? Do you believe in God? I don't know why you have selectively chosen christians to answer your question when anyone can air their views. Anyway i will answer because i am a christian. From my point of view, i don't think it is right for you to have a wife who is already taken by someone else. First of all before you get her to be your wife, what are your grounds on wanting her as your wife besides being in love with her, what's the motive behind it, and what do you want to achieve. These are some of the questions i would like you to answer. Don't you think it would be wrong to do what you want to do? She belongs to someone else and for that it just doesn't seem right. You can be in love from a distance, and if you have a conscience you would keep off. As the bible says thou shall not covet your neighbours wife.