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You don't get angry with children. You teach them to behave they way you think is right.

Anger is a learned response. You had to learn when to be angry and how to act in each case. Well, you can learn to act some other way. First you need to realize that children are not your enemies, they are merely untrained. 

Example: You don't scold a kid because he can't read, you sit him on your lap and read to him. In time he will start to read to you. That is how a kid learns to read. Anger has nothing to do with it.

The same approach works with any other behavior you want a kid to learn. Kid says a bad word. You respond with dramatic horror and move to protect him. "Do you know what that word means?" He doesn't. "Well, I think it's really STUPID to say a word when you don't know what it means! You don't say that word any more." "That's a good boy."

Anger has no place in the scene.
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There’s nothing wrong with feeling anger. It’s a normal human feeling. We are, however, responsible for our actions when we feel anger. Try detaching from the things that are triggering the feelings. Make sure you are taking care of your own needs. If you’re tired or hungry or stressed because you’ve taken on too much, address those issues and it might be easier to deal with frustrations of parenting. 
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It is constant struggle for parents to become calm everytime there are arguments with their kids. As for me, i count 1-10 before my anger explodes  and remind myself that my child is God's gift to me. And God is so patient with me too. I also try to divert my anger by listening to music or taking time to inahale and exhale.
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answered by VISIONARY (9,060 points) 5 21 52
Growing up many children are forced to be in a home where the parents fight, angry words are said to one another, or there is no love what so ever that is given to the children. This makes a lasting impression on the child and they grow up feeling this is normal and the way it should be. Where in fact this is not the way it should be. I grew up in a home such as this and when I had my daughter I swore I would not be like my mom and I refused to just take my anger out on her. It was hard at first but as she grew up and the joy she brought me made it all the easier to not revert back to my childhood with her. You are the one who has to make this work for you and make the decision to change the life cycle and the way you are with your children. This will not be easy because of the way you grew up. Instead of yelling and getting mad take the time to sit down and talk to your kids like adults. You will be surprised at how they respond and how much they need this too. I never treated my daughter as a child I always talked to her like I would talk to my friends. This was one of the best things I ever did because it brought us closer together and even today she still calls me when something is wrong or she needs advise with her own kids. 

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