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Hi guys /girls, I am new here so my first post is regarding my little 6yr old sister.

She is very independent usually but one issue we have is that she needs prompted on when to zip her jacket up, which is everyday that it's raining.  When we ask her to zip it up, she always wants it done by me or our mum so my question is, how can we get her to zip it herself (she knows how to) without needing prompted to do so? 

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You could try to tell her softly "you can do it by yourself, you're a big girl now", or maybe try out "N" darling, we won't always be around to help you, so it is important that you do it by yourself". If she doesn't want to do it anyway, maybe you could try to not help her at all, perhaps that way she'll finally see  that she has to do it by herself.
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Kids will always be kids. They will always seek help and attention even when they can do something on their own. I guess it's just the attention that she is seeking. She must be a last born as well, she expects you to do it for her because you are her big sister. Anyway you are someone she is looking up to, when she sees you doing something she will obviously try to emulate it. So do not give up zipping her up, she will eventually start walking away when you are around so that she can do it herself. It may even get to a point of her asking or telling you not to touch her jacket anymore. It is just a matter of time before she grows out of being zipped up. Continue being the big sister that you are and enjoy the phase,  she is also enjoying it to the fullest.
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I think you little sister is seeking attention and this is one way she can get some from you or your mom. She knows how to do this but in the morning when you are running late and it is raining she wants to feel that she is not just being booted out the door and on the way to school. She wants to feel that people are looking at her and caring about her too. Instead of telling her to zip up her jacket why not just help her out and make her feel loved and wanted in the morning. My daughter was not such a morning person and she was always grumpy and did not want to get out of bed, take her shower, or even get her hair brushed before we had to run out the door. I had to make a game out of all this and do special things to make the morning easier to get through. Instead of fighting with her about zipping up her jacket make a rewards system for this. If she does it on her own you have a bowl where you add a penny to the bowl. If she refuses to do this on her own and you or your mom do this then you take away one of her pennies and put it in your bowl. She will start to see that she will gain more by doing it on her own than making you do it for her.
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You can ask her to fasten her own jacket (or other clothing) by using a firm voice and asking her to "fasten your jacket."gartener's fingers gently push down the zip of her jacket, as if extracting it from her closet and fastening it herself. Once she is fastened, you can offer her a calm "yes," mean that you are content with her performance, and end the conversation. If she isn't fastening her own jacket, ask her to fasten it with her hands, like this: "I think you should fasten your jacket. What do you think?" Once she is fastened, you can offer her a calm "yes," mean that you are content with her performance, and end the conversation.
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To get a 6-year-old to fasten their own jacket, practice with them regularly, make it fun by using a song or game, break down the process into simple steps, and provide positive reinforcement and encouragement.
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