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Say you have someone like a family member who just hates you for existing (ex, hates that you take up space, hates that you eat food, etc.). How would I be able to make peace with that person?

Side note: Not making peace with that person and just ignoring that person is not an option.

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You would need to have a plan to make peace with that person. You could try doing things that the person hate about being mad at you, like eating something that the person does not hate. Another plan is to talk to the person about what they hate about being mad at you. This will help you to understand how you feel and how to make peace with it.
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This is not such an easy task and maybe it will never happen. In the end, you might just have to accept the fact that this person does not like you and will stay mad at you forever. In the end, it might be up to you to accept this fact and move on with your life and just let it go. You can do yourself more harm than good dwelling on these issues. Just keep in mind that not everyone will like you and be your friend. Keep the friends you have close and do them no harm. they will stay your friend for a long time to come. If you feel like you need to make amends with this person try sending them a letter in the mail. All that they can do is rip it up and throw it away or they can answer you back.
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It is quite an awkward situation when you have to live around people who are not so happy with, or they tend to hate everything that you do. Most of the times, if you look deep into the reasons you will find that they feel threatened about you. Otherwise there is usually no good reason for they're hostility towards you. I believe such people have issues in their lives and the only way to get rid of them is by getting it out on someone else. I have been a victim before with my brother inlaw. He always seemed to be irritated whenever i was around my sister and i always used to wonder why. So for my own sake amd sanity i prayed about the whole situation, then i forgave him for whatever it was that was bringing friction towards me, and i moved on. He's the one who has issues if he doesn't deal with it he will suffer on his own. So the best thing is to pray and if they get convicted they will talk to you if not, you have no cause to worry yourself don't carry baggage that doesn't belong to you let they bear ot themselves.
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A very good example. Anything that make you feel something bad is solved by a prayer. Amen to that and keep it up. :)

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This is one tough situation. Since you want to make peace with him or her, then you should try your very best to make him/her like you eventually. However, making this as an obsession will not bring you any good. So I suggest start by not getting in his/her way. With this, I mean do not keep close contact with his/her friends or occupy the same social space. 

Also, try to ignore if he/she ever gets mad at you for no reason. This will require great patience but you have got to endure all this if what you want is peace. Try to do good every now and then. 

The next best thing I thought is to be distant, and hope that with your absence, he/she will come to realize that there's nothing to hate about you because you're family.
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Yes that's a good one, stay what you are. Do things as you do because it's not your fault if they are irritated with you.
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First you have to decide in your heart to forgive and let go of every pain between you the person. Second give some time, because time heals, thirdly also maintain a friendly deposition with respect.  Irrespective of his/her behavior do not react the same way he does but proof to him that you have let gone of the past. Give a smile where necessary, when you show love in the midst of hate, you are quenching that fire of hate, but when you return hate for hate you are burning it more. So apply this principle though the result may not be immediate for it is certain.  
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Second one is a nice answer. Time flies and both must realize to feel better with each other and forget about the bad feeling of the past
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It's tough to live under other people's standards, especially people whom you get to see everyday and you are living in just one roof. It's hard when the people who you expected to encourage, to love you unconditionally, to support you every step of the way are the people who degrades you, belittles you and might be the reason why you lack self-confidence. Remember this people is your family, they just know what's best for you and just challenges you to become braver when you go out of your comfort zone, because you will experience more worse outside of the four-walled space where you live in. Imagine this as a motivation, continue being true to yourself and stay optimistic! Wherever you maybe in your next journey, no one will love you and can replace the love of your family for you. 
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If it's not your fault, I think just ignore them. Ask if they need help when they're facing a problem, they will be shame for hating you. Another way is make a distance with them, avoid to meet them in any occasion if it would make them better.
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Agreed, continue what you do and don't mind them. You are who you are and if they feel bad about it then go with the flow
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It's an occurrence that exists in every family. You get that someone just hates you. As for me I will just go straight to the person and ask s/he why they feel so much threatened with my existence. I do like to be open and they should be able to tell me. I have done that so many times in the past and the concerned parties have ignored that and never talk to me so I get they had a problem with me of which they don't even understand. 
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Hard question tho. But I guess I'll stay with His or her presence and show some of my good traits. In that way I guess I can satisfy His impression about me and I'll make my mood always happy in order for them to join my vibe.
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It will not likely happen to my immediate family. But it happened with our relatives on both sides of my parents. I do not care if they hate us.
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Simple, I'll let the person have a space or break, give the person time to calm and think, but in the same time I make sure that I keep moving and let him/her see my effort.
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Just keep in mind that not everyone will like you and be your friend. Keep the friends you have close and do them no harm. they will stay your friend for a long time to come. If you feel like you need to make amends with this person try sending them a letter in the mail. All that they can do is rip it up and throw it away or they can answer you back.
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don't ignore the person.

be open to listening to what they have to say.

keep your voice calm when they're upset

try to talk things through.

acknowledge their distress but don't feel like you have to back down if you disagree - your opinion is important too.
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Reflect on the situation.

Apologize and acknowledge their feelings.

Listen actively and empathize.

Communicate openly and calmly.

Offer solutions and compromises.

Give time and be patient.

Seek mediation if needed.

Set clear boundaries.

Be consistent in positive changes.

Understand reconciliation may take effort from bo

th sides.
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Dealing with a family member who harbors resentment or expresses negativity can be challenging. Here are some suggestions to try and make peace:

1. Communication: Try to have an open and honest conversation. Ask them about their feelings and concerns. Be calm and attentive, expressing your desire for a positive relationship.

2. Seek Understanding: Understand their perspective and try to empathize with their feelings. This doesn't mean accepting negativity, but acknowledging their emotions can be a first step.

3. Set Boundaries: Clearly define boundaries for respectful behavior. Let them know what kind of treatment is unacceptable, and communicate your expectations for a more positive relationship.

4. Family Mediation: If the situation doesn't improve, consider involving a neutral third party, like a family therapist or counselor, to facilitate discussions and offer guidance.

5. Self-Care: Focus on your own well-being. Surround yourself with supportive friends and engage in activities that bring you joy. Taking care of yourself emotionally is important.

6. Choose Your Battles: Not every disagreement needs to be resolved immediately. Pick your battles and focus on creating a healthy environment for yourself.

7. Professional Help: If the situation remains challenging, seeking professional advice from a therapist or counselor for yourself or the family member might be beneficial.

Remember, it's not always possible to change someone else's feelings, but you can control how you respond and take steps to create a positive environment for yourself.
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