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Why is it so hard for my girlfriend to stop saying terrible lies behind my back?

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She has lost respect and interest in you. Shes suppose to be ur girlfriend that means she suppose to represent u. Speaking only good things about u infront of u and behind u. When she start telling lies, and going behind u who know what else she will do. This person is no longer trust worthy.. This is not loving or caring of her. Meaning she dose not care about how u feel or how others will look at u. And she dose not love u enough to forgive u so thats where the lies springs from. Hope yall can work it out tho or go ur separate ways
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I strongly agree with you, lying is disrespecting at the same time.  
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True when lying comes in between the equation, this is an alarm to tell you this person is not fit for you. 
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I agree it is no longer a relationship, maybe she's doing that indirectly to mean it's over. 
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I'm so sorry to hear this words mate but if you can't love someone then don't disrespect them because it deepens the pain. Hopefully that girl could read this. :(

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I believe it is because she truly does not love you and she does not like what you do. She is not a woman that you can trust and not one that you want to spend the rest of your life with. It is time to take a deep look into your relationship and make a decision about her and if you want to let this go on or have it stopped now. It may happen that you will need to stop seeing her and try and find a woman who is good to you and really loves you. 
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See what  I  believe is that in relationships there has to be transparency which in this case it's lacking alot, some people lie coz they are pathological liars, if it starts to affect you deeply then sadly you have to cut it off cut the toxicity, it's not healthy for your wellbeing. 
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People are different and as such have different qualities and character. You need to talk some sense into her, but not in a quarrelsome manner because during heated conversation it is hard for people absorb the truth. If you let her understand that you like her as a person but the lies behind you is what you don't like. And for a change it is best for her to discuss issues with you first. And you also need to check yourself are you doing things she does not like, I mean it is your relationship and problems in relationships are best ironed out through peaceful communication. 
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What was the reason for that relationship if one of you tend to distroy your reputation. I might not know your true situation why your girlfriend is doing that,  she should not be doing it for you were partners and everything you do in your relationship should be settled just between the both of you not to talk about it to someone else, it'll make it worst. Or your girlfriend just dont have that guts to confront you. Try to talk to her as partner as a lover and as boyfriend. 
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She is not being truthful, seek some time to talk with her and let her say what bothers her. It is a bad habit and if it doe3stop, I would suggest you end the relationship. 
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I'm very sorry if I will say this mate, that's not a good example of a relationship. I'm also sorry to tell you that her love faded due to an unconditional instance. Lying to a person is such a really wrong move to do then why would she do it to her loved one? Specifically to her partner in life? I am very sad to say this mate but you should move on already. Just keep asking questions if you want to for us to help. Read valuable comments in the section below to help you understand. Cheers mate we look forward to you. :)

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Maybe the simplest way to answer this would be that your girlfriend simply doesn't love you if she did she wouldn't be lying to you.
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to be quite honest lies are never good and i am prety sure her lies will bite her hard sooner or later and hopefully she will learn by this she will learn the hard way but that is why we make these mistakes is to actualy learn
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It means she cannot be trusted and it is about time to think. If I were in your shoe, I will give an ultimatum to her and stop. If she cannot do it, then I will cut the relationship with her.
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There is her problem and maybe it has been a part of her that can not change so you have to make her change if not it would wreck your relationship apart.
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There is no one perfect answer to this question, but some possible reasons why your girlfriend might be so difficult to stop saying terrible things behind your back could include a desire to build up a sense of trust, being afraid of being considered unhappy or unhappy with the relationship, or simply being uncomfortable with the power dynamics in your relationship. If your girlfriend regularly tells themself that she loves and wants to be with you, but also tells other family and friends that she is considering distance from you, or is feeling struggling, it might be difficult for her to feel safe telling you the truth. However, if your girlfriend consistently tells you all of the negative things that she thinks you say to her, or often asks you to keep quiet, then she might feel like she has you as an friend rather than a partner.
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When your girlfriends telling terrible lies behind your back it's clear indication that she doesn't love anymore.stop forcing love and out of that relationship 
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There is no one perfect solution to this problem 

– it is important to remember that your partner is your best friend and they will always be there for you. They will not want to be seen as the one in control when they are not. It is also important to remember that your partner will only speak their minds when they are angry or upset 

– there is no reason to keep secrets from your partner. Lastly, it is important to remember that your partner is human and will make mistakes. However, they are also social animals and will need time and space to heal.
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She love you but she do not want others to know about you or your condition , what's ever is your condition . May be she not let down herself in front of friends.
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It may be hard for your girlfriend to stop saying terrible lies behind your back due to personality traits, unresolved issues, or a lack of respect and honesty in the relationship.
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This person is no longer trust worthy.. This is not loving or caring of her. Meaning she dose not care about how u feel or how others will look at u. And she dose not love u enough to forgive u so thats where the lies springs from. Hope yall can work it out tho or go ur separate ways
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This is not loving or caring of her. Meaning she dose not care about how u feel or how others will look at u. And she dose not love u enough to forgive u so thats where the lies springs from. Hope yall can work it out tho or go ur separate ways
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That alone shows that she doesn't love you and she is not proud to have you as a boy friend so it is left for you to make a decision on this matter and take immediate action
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