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This is a debate that has been debated for a very long time in different platforms, and it has never received satisfactory answers. Cheating has become a household name where by it's being accepted by everyone regardless of the pains it brings along. To forgive or not to forgive depends entirley on an individual and the love that you have for one another. We have seen in instances where a spouse has cheated on the other but they chose to forgive, why because their love was strong enough to bypass all the faults of one of the partner. It's not easy, it takes a lot of grace and love to forgive a betrayal. I guess the saying that goes "love conquers all" is true to some extend. If you truly married for love you can easily forgive and move on. Usually it's not the love that dies but the trust. It may take time to trust again but the love will always be there as long as you both are alive.
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Accepting it despite the pains it brings a long is quite a mature and strong hearted act that can keep the relationship going.
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Yes I would say so... 

When a wife/ husband cheated, there must be a reason behind it. If everything work out well, everybody is happy , then  why would they cheat...?
To forgive only isn't enough either... The couple needs to work on their communication. So they know better  what their spouse want or wish and what love language does their spouse speak? Cause everyone have their own love language. 
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Yes. I agree. If their happy with the relationship, why cheats??. As you said, couples needs to work on their communication. 
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There really must be a reason behind it because someone doesn't just wake up and choose to cheat for no good reason.
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When asked, only 23% of men who had cheated and 17% of women who had cheated said it was a one-time thing. That means that most people who cheat do it multiple times. In fact, 47% of women who had cheated and 44% of men who had cheated said that it was a pattern (more than five times), and the average affair lasts six months. In the end, only you can decide what's right for your relationship, but you should be aware that it is almost always a repeat act.
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Ifhe cheats once, forgive him, he cheats the second time, forgive him again. The third time he cheats take action. Because if you forgive him again, he'll get used to being forgiven all the time and it will hence become a trend yet no one wants to have such a husband. 
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You shouldn't give someone more than three chances or they will for sure take advantage of your emotions.
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Forgiveness is major aspect of life because everyone needs forgiveness, and no sin is too big or small to earn forgiveness, as for another chance will depend on the intuitive perception of the people involve. unforgiveness puts makes us prisoner of our own self, but forgiveness sets us free. In holy book it is stated 'forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those that trespass against us' which means it is a two way thing. Forgiveness is a major part of any relationship. 
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For me, it's a yes. A husband and wife should be together in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, till death do they part. There are some instances that one of them will not remain faithful and cheating, or worse affair will come in between. Giving chances to your wife or husband when they cheat is too hard to swallow, but if you have kids you will be confused if you will forgive him or her because you know that the future of your kids will be at stake. No one wants an incomplete family and may affect your children holistically. Forgiveness and giving chances is one of the hardest thing to do but if you learn to forgive, you will set your heart free from grudges and you will be truly happy. 
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Forgiveness and consideration for the other persons feelings are one of the key aspects for a long lasting relationship.
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It depends the situation. If wife/husband cheats in relationship whether to forgive or punish him is depends on the situation. Somebody cheats even forgive them. In that case it is not wise decision. So it is totally depends on the situation.
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Mostly it's hard to forgive a person who has cheated on you. But most people tend to forgive for various reasons like if you still love that person, if kids are involved, public shame,...but for I can be able to forgive but it's hard to forget which will course trust issues. So if u forgive the person who cheated on you will you be able to trust him/her again. I wouldn't !!
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If he/her provides money for yoy,yes you can give him/her another chance,if not you must divorce imediatly and try to sue him/her and get as much money you can!
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Yes it is wise to give him/her a chance because nobody is perfect here on earth except in heaven,so we should keep an open mind.
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It is subjective to mean, it depends with the circumstances that led to that cheating and if he is ready to admit and change for the better..on your part as the wife you should seek counseling services and also engage in constructive activities that will refrain you from thinking about that incident as it has detrimental effects 
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well i think only u can answer that one personaly i think u have to have trust in a relationship if u dont have trust u dont have anything a relationship is built with trust so ask yourself could u trust again
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Personally speaking, it is fine to have a second chance to save the marriage. You can draw a line if he did not keep his promise, then it is about time to end the relationship with him.
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It depends with the situation but still it will be hard for me to trust again. If your patner is willing to change and he is sorry then I will forgive them. If they have cheated severaly, or they still don't feel guilty I won't. It is very hard to trust someone once they do that. 
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I have seen a lot of people looking for answers to this question. Its a very tricky one I must add. I would say it depends on what you feel at that moment. But it has to be your decision. But base that decision on a few factors; will you be able to let the issue rest without having to bring it up every now and then. Would you be able to love them the same and will you be able to trust your partner again. Once a person cheats it destroys trust and it also affects how you view yourself. Some people end up feelings like they are not enough and even go to the extend of stalking the person thier partner cheated n them with to compare themselves to them. This is a very unhealthy behaviour and it can lead to depression. So before you forgive, ask yourself those questions and ymif you can't then it's best to let go.  
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If you have kids, i would advice you leave that marriage, if your partner continue cheating, but if you have kids, please don't leave, try to forgive for the seek of the kids, because children from broken homes go through psychological problems.
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Well to me I would say it a matter of choice biblically you can only leave your partner when he has committed adultery but you can forgive your spouse if you want to continue the marriage.
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i suggest you to give the chance to your partner because anyone can done a mistake. so, partner should give the chance and improve patience level. it will keep the relation more beautiful and strong.  
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This will depend on the situation if the cheating was so bad and not forgivable most likely he/she will not give it another chance. Sometimes if love is there possibly they will be given the chance and give try to make their relationship work.
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Love for the money will make man blind and make to forgive saying that is love and getting money. 
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The cheating thought was a misunderstanding or belief  which was induced by some people around us. If we didn't done anything wrong we didn't have to worry about rumors. Truth will come out one day.
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