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From what I've read, it seems that men who date older women because they have their mother's characteristics have an Oedipus Complex.



I'm 20, and my wife is 28. She just has this mature beauty, and she has such a motherly personality, and even talks to me like a loving mother when we cuddle. She just makes me feel warm and safe because she has a motherly age and personality. Not that I don't love my mom and have been neglected and ignored by her, but the way my wife treats me, I don't associate with my mom. It feels completely different, and I love it. She's so motherly, beautiful and sweet, yet my mother, I feel, is nothing like her. You know what I mean?


 Is this the definition of an Oedipus Complex? I love her because she has the characteristics of "a" mother. Not "my" mother.  

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Not at all. Even Freud would never think that of you. 


Rest assured, you have married the woman--your wife now-- to love and behold, and are wiling to care for, protect, defend. To support and have children with to raise and, together, build their character as beautiful as their mother-- your wife. 

 
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I think it is normal to feel that way to your wife. Oedipus complex can be experienced at an early age of 3. It means we can experience such a desire if we want to. It varies from one individual to another and depends on their likings. You do not need to worry about it. 
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This is a question for a more general audience, so it isn't specific to men. If a man dating an older woman because she has a mother's personality, has his own private underworld where he spends time with his killers and murderers, or simply feels neglected by his own family, might find it difficult toyne her because she is his own individual, individual, not a clone of his mother, might feel that he has an Oedipus Complex.
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She just has this mature beauty, and she has such a motherly personality, and even talks to me like a loving mother when we cuddle. She just makes me feel warm and safe because she has a motherly age and personality.
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The Oedipus complex, a concept from psychoanalysis, suggests that children may have unconscious feelings of attraction toward the opposite-sex parent and rivalry with the same-sex parent. It's not typically associated with dating older women. Relationships with age differences are a matter of personal preference and societal norms, but they are not directly linked to the Oedipus complex. The Oedipus complex is more about early childhood development and parent-child relationships.
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Not necessarily. The Oedipus Complex is a concept from psychoanalytic theory proposed by Sigmund Freud, which suggests that a child may experience subconscious, unresolved feelings of attraction or attachment to the opposite-sex parent and rivalry with the same-sex parent. It's primarily used to describe the psychosexual development of children. Adult romantic relationships are complex and multifaceted, and people are drawn to others for a wide range of reasons. Dating an older woman because she has a motherly personality doesn't necessarily indicate an Oedipus Complex. It could simply mean that the person appreciates and is attracted to the nurturing, caring, or supportive qualities of their partner. It's important to remember that Freud's ideas have been widely debated and are not universally accepted in modern psychology. People enter relationships for various reasons, and these dynamics can be influenced by a multitude of factors, such as shared interests, emotional connection, compatibility, and personal preferences.
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