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Parenting is a tough job. Most parents will agree with this statement. However, there is an issue if they do the reward system. In my own perspective, there is a downside to doing this. It can make a child be a spoiled brat. For example, they will not do their homework if you are not going to give something to them. Does it make sense?


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Yeah parents are really fond of awarding their children when they have some great achievements and this is the bulls to the children self-confidence.

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Yes parents should awards their kids when they get  some achievements because rewards is a motivation factor of something and this can motivate some one to continue doing a good job. This can also apply to kids when they are awarded for their good performances at school then they feel motivated to perform even much better and this doesn't mean that they will misbehave towards their parents infact they will be more disciplined because they know that their parents care for them.
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I was thinking if it is really good or not. Some parents can do this with their children. The question is are children will not be spoiled?
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It  will depend with the parents how much and what they award their kids. Kids shouldn't be awarded with money but with gifts like textbooks,new pens and new school uniforms .
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That's a good idea. It is not ideal to give them money as a reward. Unlike in China, most kids are being rewarded with red lucky envelope with money in it.
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I like your lunch so very much its useful for everyone thanks for your opinion thanks a lot
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What do you mean @AjayyadavArlove ? Are we talking about lunch here?:ermm:

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Yes appreciation is must when kids do or get some achievements. It's a kind of appreciation. It encourage kids to achieve more and more. But make sure they don't take it as a advantage. 
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We need to be as moderate as possible. Kiddies are smarter than in the past. I must admit that. The millennial kids are so curious about everything nowadays. Although we have set limitations in giving rewards to them.
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Yes.Parents should award their kids,if they achieve something in their life.It will create the environment,such that,they will do everything to get the rewards.
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Yes. Reward is the form of appreciation. Kids will know appreciating others when they do something good. It is also like a lesson. 
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@CreatingTheWorld You are right that children need to have some rewards from their parents. I hope they will not overdo it.
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Yes! Rewards can help increase your child's self-esteem. When a child earns a reward, he knows he has done something good and something you approve of. Rewards if done right by parents can make your child do more of the things you want them to do. But as you say there is always the other side to a coin, there are also pitfalls to rewarding your child's achievement. Make sure you don't over-reward. Too much of anything is bad. Give credit to where it is due. Let them understand that these rewards are just acknowledgement for their efforts. That they should work hard not only because there is a gift but because they are doing it for their own sake, for their own dreams and future. Let them not lose their intrinsic motivation because of these rewards or gifts that are just meant to be extrinsic motivators. 

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I do agree that it needs to make it a balanced way. If the child will be spoiled, he or she cannot do their role in studies. It is like a fuel for the child to do things with the reward system. It is the downside for parenthood.
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Absolutly yes, when the kids got any achievemnts even it just a little achievements parents shoul give kind of rewards. Rewarding a good grade on a test or essay with praise and a high five is effective for motivating your child to do well the next time around.
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I respect your opinion. What if they will not do their homework unless you gave them a reward. Some kids are like this nowadays. 
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As a parent, you are your child's first and most important teacher. When parents and families are involved in their children's schools, the children do better and have better feelings about going to school. In fact, many studies show that what the family does is more important to a child's school success than how much money the family makes or how much education the parents have. There are many ways that parents can support their children's learning at home and throughout the school year. Here are some ideas to get you started!
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I agree that biological parents need to support their kiddies in education. It is a part of parenting.
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I think being happy with their achievement is a good thing. But rewarding on every achievement may  not be good because they may only do things if they get rewarded. And that kind of habit can negatively backfire if they get into the bad habit. 
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I agree. Children will be abused by this idea. They can be spoiled for being rewarded.
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I got your point, parent's should also be aware if they're already feeding to much to their child in a way that they won't work for the achievement itself anymore but for the reward instead.
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Just like we punish children, we should also gift them when they do well. So the answer is yes. This can serve as a good source of motivation encouraging them to do better and stay away from negative vices. So it is a good way to encourage children. 
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I do agree with you. There is nothing wrong if we do give them rewards. As long as it will not make them spoiled.
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Definitely. The role of the parent is to help with the growth of the child. Rewards and words of encouragement should be the tactics parents should use to make the kids work harder and get more interest in their studies.
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In a timely fashion, parents need to set limitations in giving rewards to their children.
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Yes. This acts as an encouragement to the children to even work harder. My mom used to buy me gifts whenever I performed in my academic work. She would ask me to name whatever I wanted and she would only provide if I gained desirable results 
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I hope it would not be in the best interest of kiddies to ask for more. Sometimes it can lead to bad motivation way for them.
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Parents should reward their kids because it'll encourage the kids to be a better human. If rewards aren't given kids would start behaving differently than kids who got reward. It's a way to keep your kids happy so that they won't ask for anything else.
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I hope it would not result in bad things. Some kiddies will not do anything without any rewards to be given.
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Yes. At some point, the kids will be spoiled if you will give them awards most of the time. You can still give them awards but not most of the time. If you think that they really deserve the reward you should still give them the award so that they will feel flattered sometimes. Like if they graduated from school, they are on the top of the class or honor roll. You can still give special awards on their birthday or special celebrations. These are a few samples that you can give them awards once in a while. 
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I agree. It needs to be in balanced way. If not, it will come to the point of spoiling the kiddies. I know that parenting is a learning process and this is one of them.
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Yes parents should reward their kid for their achievement. Reward is a positive reinforcement which encourages and motivate people to work hard and achieve more.
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I do agree with you. It just needs to be controlled not to lead to spoiling them. Some spoiled brats are products of excessive use of a reward system.
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Rewarding should be given when rewards fit the archievement. My parents taught us to be responsible. When we helped with the house chores we would be given tellies. my parents had a board, the board had all the goodies we liked but they had to be bought with tellies, it would take a whole week to be able to afford 1 goddie from the board.without tellies no goodies. As r grew up we where told that of we pass certain grades at school we would get certain items we wanted like a laptop,a bike and so forth. That pushed us to work hard,do our homeworks without being told. I remember 1 time my little brother didn't do his chores for 3 days because he felt it was lame, when the week ended we had enough tellies to buy what we wanted and he didn't. I bought chocolate and my sister bought ice cream. He wanted us to share with him even though he didn't work,he kept making fun of us,we refused, he was so upset he didn't talk to us for the whole of next week but that next week he did all his chores and bought a goodie 
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During my childhood years, my parents cannot afford to give me material things. Like you, they tend to give goodies instead of tangible toys and the like. For them, they can give something to make their kiddies be responsible in making household chores.
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Depends on the "achievement" and the "reward". The leftist teachers that have usurped the American public school system now reward anything and everything, even halfhearted participation, so that there are no losers or hurt fee-fees. This is not preparing a child for the realities of adulthood, where competition decrees there shall be winners and losers, and most of the time there is no consolation prize for the loser.

Rewards should be commensurate with the achievement, and not handed out wholesale in a phony manner.
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I agree that parents need to be careful when giving a reward system to their kids. You have a point that we need to balance disciplining them by experience to be a loser or a winner in certain things. It is a way for them to grow with learning.
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Yes, they should. I have not tried it. But hope it will help parents in parenting. But it should not spoil the kid too. Some kids turns violent if they didn't get the gift which they wish to have has reward.
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Overdoing it is not the best option, and I agree with that idea. We still need to balance the idea of doing it.
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Parenting is a tough job. A reward system is fine as long as it is not overdoing it. Some parents are so into this especially if they do not have time with their kids. They do not know that it is the making of spoiled children in the future.
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People will be proud of their child's accomplishments, and awarding their kids makes them feel that their work is valued. Celebrating your child's success is an incredible way to nourish and encourage their progress and growth.
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yes, parents should always award their children for good achievements if they don't award they should at least give them appreciation.
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Yes it very good to award our children for when they make some achievement like getting first position school but it shouldn't be every time so they don't get spolt by it.
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