The truth is fault finders hurt the ones they see faults in. We all have faults, we fail and miss the mark. Most of the time these are not intentional and when someone comes along and highlights your faults with anger or mockery or disdain, it hurts. Sometimes people put on a brave face and do their best to “suck it up” but there is a wound within the soul that desperately needs to be healed. And it does not matter if you are a man or a woman.
And what about all the times when we ourselves are the fault finders? How many times have we hurt someone with our words because they did not measure up to our standard? The truth is we all suffer fault finding and we have all been guilty of finding fault in others. Scripture says that offenses must come but woe to him through whom the offense comes! And remember, offenses are caused by the WORDS and ACTIONS that have been released. Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words can destroy you!
There is one person, however, that never deliberately looks for your faults. He does not look for them and neither does He base His decisions concerning you on them. In fact, He never examines you from a natural human perspective. He does not see anything wrong with you. He is NOT a “fault finder”. He is your Father. He is the one that made you, that loves you, and that sees you perfect, holy and pure.
This truth is often hard for us to grasp, especially when we are feeling hurt because of some fault finder. The problem is not with God but with the way we see and think about ourselves. We engage the words that have been spoken and very quickly join in the fault finding. This is how we justify and defend ourselves. However, this causes us to spiral into a realm that we should not be venturing into.