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I have a friend who keeps on whining about life. I had tried giving so many good words to be motivated. It seems it is not working. How can you help him?


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Here's what I try. Make sure to use more positive words around such people when you see they are down. 


  • Bad days wont stay forever. Every bad and good days don't last. 
  • There is always something good outcome out of everything. 
  • When you do your best. End result does not matter as you enjoyed the process. 


Like this you can motivate them and that can definitely helps out them internally in the mind. 

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I think you have great approaches to let a person feels comfortable sharing his or her personal miseries in life. It takes time for him or her to blurt out what's the reason why he or she is demotivated.
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encourage. When you encourage someone, you give him or her the courage or confidence to do something, like when you encourage your little brother to play harder by yelling his name from the sidelines of the soccer field.
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He knew that I am a cheerer whatever things that he can do in his life. Perhaps he was so affected by this pandemic. You have a point that I need to keep on encouraging him.
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Motivate him/her. Tell him/her tat this is the last straw, we have to talk now!

Give him/her something to do, and tell them they have to do it because of something very important that it could be life changing.
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There is really nothing to do but to talk. I agree that it needs to have a heart-to-heart talk. I will try to give some samples about life that he is luckier than the others.
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You can start by saying 'I understand your condition' and that you are willing to help through advice. And let your words be honest, do not say what you do not mean or understand because you may end up hurting the person the more. Give meaningful advice in line with the person situation and not the type that will aggregate the situation.  
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That's a good start to let a friend open his or her heart out, especially if he or she is having problems in life. It is not easy to let him or her spill out what he or she really feels about something or someone.
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People whine not because they want to hear your opinion, but because they only want their opinions heard. No amount of words will ever console a whining person. You can help that person, a friend in particular, by not engaging him/her in this kind of setting. 

Set or invite your friend to a very positive environment, like family gatherings, weddings, and whatnot. Make sure you always create a positive mood when you are around him. Because he is a negative person, he won't be able to talk much of it in a positive environment. 

Don't go with him to bars, nightclubs, rallies, or anything that would encourage him to make any ill comments about anything. It's either you be like him or him be like you.
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Honestly, I stay away from whiny, grumbling,  complaining, pity-me-blame-others people. I've had enough problems on my own. These people are toxic (not helpful) to me in my endeavors to finding joy and happiness for me, and for myself.
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You're encouraging someone feel like they're able to do something, there are three ways to tell someone to try something and four ways to tell someone to continue doing something.


Three ways to tell someone to try something:

  1. Go for it - I'm thinking to apply for job in mumbai then we should say you should difinitely go for it you have all the qualifications.
  2. give it a try- I don't really know if i'm gonna like this chinese food acutually it's pretty great you should give it a try.
  3. give it to best your shot - i am absolutely terrible at playing golf, i really don't think that i wana win this game just give it a shot you'll never know until you try.

Four ways to tell something to continue:
  1. Keep at it - wow this food is delicious i think that if you keep at it you'll be a great chef.
  2. stick with it - learning how to play the guitar is so hard stick with it that guitar is too expensive for you to quit now.
  3. hang in there - i don't know why all this bad stuff keeps happening to me oh hang in there  i'm sure things will get better soon.
  4. Don't give up - improving my english is so hard maybe I should just stop trying what of course not don't give up if you give up then who's watch all of my english videos.
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I would say something to encourage him: - 

Man is not depressed on everything, sometimes we have to lose something to get something.

 A golden morning comes after every dark night. 

Cheer up up and a new and better start man...
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I usually encourage people by pointing out their weaknesses first, then dropping down their strengths. In this way, they can weigh down their worth in society.
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When ever am encouraging some one I always let the person know that there is nothing impossible for God, and that life doesn't give us what we expect so we have to be hardworking and smart as well.
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When i try to encourage others to do something i tell them or rather show them how strong they are wish they don't know and the positive side of it
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When a child or an adult is well in certain field either in school or job you should encourage them by telling them things like

1 congratulations

2.keep it up.

3 well done

4.You will definitely make it.

,5.You will conquer the world.

6.Success is your portion.
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And let your words be honest, do not say what you do not mean or understand because you may end up hurting the person the more. Give meaningful advice in line with the person situation and not the type that will aggregate the situation.  
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Be genuine and sincere: Authenticity is key when offering encouragement. Be sincere in your words and tone, and express your genuine care and support for the person.
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