When do you draw the line in helping people or loved ones?

Question

When I can and have the means, I help. But how do you keep the balance?

Answer 1

There are some people who want to live an irresponsible lifestyle with absolutely no accountability for themselves. Rather than carry the weight of their own moral obligations, they allow other people to do it for them instead. Other people work their butts off to sustain the needy but these needy persons show no absolute regard to make an effort themselves. Most often than not, they may make their situation seem deserving of approval and admiration, so as to make it look like a need that they get help in return. 

Before deciding to help, try to know yourself and your needs first. Is it easier for you to say Yes or No when you are honoring your most important priorities? Is your help not going to be detrimental to your health and finances in the long run? Will you be able to sustain the help? Until when?

Comments

Thank you for answering. You make good, helpful points-- practical and balanced. It's a win-win for all involved. The recipient is helped and uplifted bringing back his/her dignity and hope in life. The giver is happy for helping make the receiver happy and filled with hope.

Thanks.

Answer 2

I stopped helping anyone if I had seen them being abusive. Some people are so insensitive and take advantage of the kindness of people. I do not want to be victimized by these people. The wors scenario is they cannot even say thank you after helping them out.

Comments

HAHAHAHA. Oks lang yan. Marami talagang ganyan. Kakamustahin ka lang kapag marami kang pera.

Answer 3

You must only help them because they need your help. Do not help them if the only reason is they can't afford somewhat or something that they want.

It is very simple, "If you give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. If you teach a man how to catch a fish, you feed him for his lifetime"

Answer 4

I try to keep the balance by providing support when needed, and by guiding you to where you want to be. However, I cannot always be there for you, and the amount of support I can provide can be difficult to manage. I hope that you can find comfort in my arms as you go through the tough times.

Answer 5

Everything depends on the nature of help. Remember when we help others genuinely it has a way of benefiting us spiritually.  Rather than draw a line, define the help and the extent it is supposed to save.