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I see many philanthropists or generous people extend help to a needy person in the form of money, material things, or offer something to do for the needy person. How do you characterize your help to a needy person? How do you know if a person in need should receive the most appropriate kind of help?

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The thing about helping others is that you do it without expecting anything. It should never matter whether you know if the person you are helping is telling the truth about what they need or if it is made up. Because if they are lying and you helped without knowing the full situation, you will still receive your blessings for having a kind heart. They are the ones who will face consequences for being deceitful and taking from other who truly needed the help they received and didn't need. 

For example: If you give $5 to a man on the road who says he is hungry even though you know he may actually use it for beer or cigarettes, you still give believing it will help him eat. You will be blessed. What he chooses to do with the money is on him now, not you.
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Some of these people are false prophets. They pretend to be generous people. If I am going to help people, it does need in the form of tangible things. I can extend my helping hands in teaching them soft skills that they can have their own livelihood. That's more feasible than resulting to dole out.
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Yes this is because you will not be forever there to help them but the soft skills gained will help them in future and many years to come. 
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@Laura I am grateful that you are agreeing with me. I think NGOs need to consider this concern before extending their assistance in helping the needy.
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If your bank account is emptying,you know for shure your phylanthropy is foolish and out of character.The most comon examples of foolish phylanthropy are love/sex afairs when men get scammed by women.
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There is a very short answer to this but you can make it as long as you want.
It all depends on what the helper wants and what the needy wants. As you gave the example of many philanthropists or generous people maybe they are wanting fake fame, maybe even they are truely helping for their inner satisfaction or even in the name of god they follow.
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i gues u never do know and never know if ur giving the right advice or doing the right thing but at the end of the day at least u are trying to help thats very preciouse
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For me when you help you should not announce and you should to it secretly , and all needy people should be helped by those who have good life and can help.

To know if that person is needy or know you should ask about it secretly too.
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You don't need to be a philanthropist to help someone in need. Me personally I can't afford to help by means of money but to give comfort and advice. You can feel a person's aura if he totally need some care and inspiring words. It's wise to help if you sensed a person really needs comfort.
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I go by how I feel when doing it. If it feels like I am helping and I do it smartly I think it is wise. If I feel I am be taking advantage of or did not think it through then I feel it may not be  wise or helpful.

There are certain ways to go about things. I will not give money to homeless but I will buy them food.
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If the person didnt like to live more, then buying and giving food is waste of money,please let her allow to die peacefully. 
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Well, if you are going to help a person in need, it is necessary to ask him, what she/he need or what he wants? Of course you give only them help on what you can give them. 
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Very true I agree with you. This is because the person in need knows best what they lack. 
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Sometimes it's hard to determine the best help to a needy person. But the most important that you can help to me is the basic needs such as food, medical help and shelter. 
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It is good to extend our help to people when they need not judging the fact that they are in poor, but when your help that you offered is misused then you can react.
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Well the help is wise and precise if:

1.You solve the exact problem they have.

2.You do it without boasting.

The help becomes foolish and out of character when:

1.You don't solve the exact problem they have.

2.You boast about it.
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Offering Help To Others

When do you know if the help you are extending to a needy person is wise and precise, or foolish and out of character?

It can be difficult to determine whether the help you are extending to a needy person is wise and precise, or foolish and out of character. There are a few factors you can consider that may help you make this determination:

Your own personal resources: Are you able to offer help without compromising your own well-being or financial security?

The person's needs: Is the help you are offering addressing the person's immediate needs, or is it a Band-Aid solution that does not address the root of the problem?

The person's willingness to accept help: Is the person open to and willing to accept the help you are offering, or are they resistant to it?

The potential long-term effects: Will the help you are offering have long-term positive effects, or could it potentially create dependency or other negative consequences?

Ultimately, it's important to be thoughtful and considerate when deciding whether and how to offer help to others. It may be helpful to consult with trusted friends, family members, or professionals to get additional perspective and advice
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They are the ones who will face consequences for being deceitful and taking from other who truly needed the help they received and didn't need. 

For example: If you give $5 to a man on the road who says he is hungry even though you know he may actually use it for beer or cigarettes, you still give believing it will help him eat. You will be blessed
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 If I am going to help people, it does need in the form of tangible things. I can extend my helping hands in teaching them soft skills that they can have their own livelihood. That's more feasible than resulting to dole out
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Determining the wisdom of helping a needy person involves assessing the impact and considering the long-term implications. Evaluate if the assistance addresses the root cause, empowers self-sufficiency, and aligns with your values, rather than enabling dependency or going against your principles.
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Recognizing when your help may be turning into foolishness involves being attentive to certain signs and assessing the overall impact of your assistance. Consider the following indicators:

1. **Lack of Appreciation:** If the person consistently shows a lack of appreciation for your efforts and doesn't acknowledge your help, it might be a sign that your assistance is not being valued.

2. **Dependency:** If the individual becomes overly dependent on your help and shows no initiative to address their own challenges, it may indicate a problematic pattern.

3. **Repetitive Issues:** If you find yourself repeatedly helping with the same issues without seeing any positive change or effort on their part to address the root cause, it could be a sign of an unsustainable situation.

4. **Resentment or Frustration:** If you feel increasingly resentful or frustrated about providing assistance, it's essential to reassess whether your help is genuinely making a positive impact.

5. **Disregard for Boundaries:** If the person consistently crosses boundaries or takes advantage of your willingness to help without respecting your limits, it may be a red flag.

6. **Negative Impact on Your Well-being:** If providing assistance is negatively affecting your own well-being, either emotionally, mentally, or physically, it's crucial to reconsider the situation.

7. **Enabling Destructive Behavior:** If your help is enabling destructive behavior or preventing the person from taking responsibility for their actions, it may be counterproductive.

8. **Unrealistic Expectations:** If the person develops unrealistic expectations about the extent or nature of your assistance, it's important to establish clear boundaries and communicate realistic limitations.

9. **Communication Breakdown:** If there's a breakdown in communication, and the person is not receptive to feedback or guidance, it may indicate a challenging dynamic.

10. **Personal Growth Stagnation:** If the person does not show signs of personal growth or improvement despite your assistance, it might be worth reevaluating the situation.

It's important to periodically assess the dynamics of the helping relationship and communicate openly with the person you're assisting. Setting boundaries, encouraging self-reliance, and promoting mutual respect can help maintain a healthy balance in your efforts to help others. If the situation becomes unsustainable, it may be necessary to reconsider the nature and extent of your assistance.
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My assistance usually involves providing information, guidance, or support tailored to the person's situation. Determining the appropriate kind of help involves understanding the specific needs of the individual. 

To ascertain the most fitting help, it's essential to:

1. **Listen:** Understand their situation and needs by actively listening to their challenges.

2. **Empathy:** Put yourself in their shoes to comprehend what could make a significant positive impact.

3. **Assess Needs:** Analyze their situation to identify what would benefit them the most, whether it's financial support, emotional guidance, practical resources, or knowledge.

4. **Respect Autonomy:** Ensure the assistance aligns with their comfort and autonomy, respecting their choices and preferences.

Matching the help to their expressed or evident needs often involves a mix of support—whether it's financial aid, mentorship, emotional support, or practical assistance—to make the most meaningful impact.
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