How to figure out if someone is being spiteful?

Question

Some people are in your life for a good time or the bad times to get revenge how would I know if someone close to me is being spiteful and around to make my life miserable.

Answer 1

First, you should always consider the past, if there were some conflicts in past, there are more chances that the person could harm you anyways some day. Apart from that, the person could try to hamper your image in front of others by saying something bad about you but in sugar-coated manner (examples- you know X is such a foodie that she even doesn't care about her chubby tummy. It was a humorous way but impacted your image. The other person get to know that you are foodie and eat all the time). The person could try to put you in trouble every now and then possible, but the troubles like there are some guest coming, so your sister says mumma X cooks so well, let her cook this-this and i will prepare the salad. So these are some of the behaviors where spitefulness is evident. Hope it help. 

Comments

I agree. Your friends around you won't be able to harm you in any way if you have shown them the right respect.

Answer 2

If that person is acting or speaking, with the desire to hurt, bother, or infuriate you then they are definitely being spiteful.

Answer 3

People can get around you for various reasons. Mostly one would pretend to be closer to you so that they know how to approach you and hurt you easily. I prefer being distant with such people also from thier talks you would easily know that they are upto something. People who also talk ill of others with no good reason be careful with such characters. 

Answer 4

I do not want to be with someone who is a user. I cannot stand being with him or her if just in happy times. That is not considered a real friendship.

Answer 5

Some people feel that person is being thouless and should be punished for their actions. They may feel regret or guilt because of the pain that was caused. This may make person act dismissively of other people or make them feel like they are not worthfriendship.

Answer 6

To figure out if someone is being spiteful, look for signs of intentional harm or malice, such as mocking, insulting, or sabotaging behavior towards the target.

Answer 7

Apart from that, the person could try to hamper your image in front of others by saying something bad about you but in sugar-coated manner (examples- you know X is such a foodie that she even doesn't care about her chubby tummy. It was a humorous way but impacted your image. The other person get to know that you are foodie and eat all the time).