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I had a very heated argument with my neighbour over her daughter and my granddaughter. We were both being protective and said some terrible things to each other. We got on so well in the past but now we don't speak at all. Is this repairable, what should I do?
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You both can always solve the problem. It is but normal for two person to have issues. Just swallow your pride band start greeting even if the person doesn't reply. There is popular saying in my tribe"one person must be fool while other is wise for peace to rain"

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Considering this is really bothering you right now and it is very upsetting, I would reach out with a kind jester. Making her a cake, some cookies or even giving her a plant can break the ice and get the two of you talking again. You have explained the problem so well here in your question, I feel like you can use this to start the conversation with her. 

You can knock on her door and offer her a kind jester and explain how bad you feel over the argument that you had. Let her know that you are a bit overprotective of your granddaughter and you are so sorry that it got in the way of your friendship. Let her know how much you miss talking with her and how you wish this could all be put behind and you could be friends again. 

I'm sure she will have a real soft spot in her heart when she sees that you have brought her a cake or even cookies. She might even invite you in to have coffee with her and share a piece of cake. 

I had disagreements with good friends and even though I was only defending myself and they got angry, I have reached out to them with a kind jester so we can talk again and it is a good icebreaker. 
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I was about to write the same answer but i found that you have answered the same and in a very perfect way , thanks a lot brother for your help.
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I was about to write the same answer but i found that you have answered the same and in a very perfect , thanks a lot brother for your help.
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Yes you can be friends again.Neighbours are very important people. What you should do is, go to her first then ask for forgiveness even if you're innocent. What should avoid is bringing the whole drama up because she might get irritated, just stick to the point of apology. Even if she's not in moods to talk to you, am pretty sure she'll forgive you because both of you have calmed down.

After some days start by greeting her and if the converse goes on well, you can start with stories if you're a fan.Within one month, things will be back to normal. But if she's persistent and does want to forgive you.You should keep on pressing hard and she will finally give in.

The most crucial thing here is saying "sorry". Most people end up ruining their relationships because of the word " sorry".

Neighbours are very important people in our lives.Remember, no man is an island.
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Time is the best healer of all. If you had have a good relationship with your neighbor, the sourness will eventually diminish. Plus, the argument started through kids, so with all possibilities, it could end up with their initiatives.  

Children are less egoistic. Hopefully, your granddaughter will forget everything after a few days. She will again start communicating with your neighbor's daughter. Thus, it will work as an initial icebreaker, and it would be easier for you to patch up than onward. You might get surprised to know that your neighbor was equally eager to fix the situation. 
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I think you need your neighbor more time to process this situation. We can never push something if things are not being realized. I am sure the incidence will fade away. Then, reconciliation will patch up the loss of time for not being in touch.
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This is a question I asked some time ago. We are now friendly again. One day we passed each other in the street and just started laughing as we realised we were acting like children.
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It does happen in a real-life situation. We do not need to push things hard because friendship will still there in perfect timing. However, if the situation is so severe, some people choose to end it, move on, and not to look back.
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Just be quiet for some time. It will avoid further arguments that lead to fight. Time will heal every pain and wait for some time. After that, you can start to speak with them in a polite manner. 
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These things happen every day around us, to fix it we first have to swallow our pride and go that neighbour and apologise to bring back peace even if you are not at fault
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past is past 

talk to them in calmly manner and put things aside 

have a coffee with them or tea 

Offer them and talk and sit 

and look on the brighter side 

You have to make a move first so because you know to yourself that you want to have a peace in there 

it is good to have good relationship with neighbors 
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The best way to repair your relationship with your neighbour is to apologize for your part in the argument and express your regret for how it escalated. It's also important to be open and honest with them about how you feel and to express your willingness to work on the relationship. It may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation about what happened and to talk through each of your perspectives. Offer to compromise and to move forward in a positive way. It may take time, but it's important to remain patient and recognize that it's possible to rebuild the relationship.
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There is no need for a to keep a grudge against your neighbor, the best way you Will repair relationship is just by talking with them the cause of ba mistake and solve it 
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To repair your relationship with your neighbor, start by acknowledging any mistakes, listen to their perspective, communicate respectfully, and seek solutions together.
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The best way to repair a relationship with a neighbor is to take the initiative and apologize for any hurtful words or actions that may have been said or done. Try to have an open and honest conversation with them, expressing your regret and desire to put the situation behind you. You could also try to find common ground by discussing shared interests or activities, or by offering to help them with something they need. Additionally, if possible, it would be helpful to try to resolve any underlying issues that may have led to the argument in the first place.
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We were both being protective and said some terrible things to each other. We got on so well in the past but now we don't speak at all. Is this repairable, what should I do?
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Well it is really normal for people to have misunderstanding sometimes because we are different and have different opinions towards something so you need to work up to her and try to make peace with her
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