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Why do people want their children to get married even though they don't have a good marriage life?
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Because a happy marriage is an "ideal" and every parent wants their child to be happy.  However, maybe I'm different from other parents.  I do not want my child to get married if they don't want to be married.  There's nothing wrong with being single.
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It doesn't mean that if your parents had a bad marriage that yours can't be good. your life's happiness does not depend on them, you are the writer of you destiny, you decide what you want to be and the way you want your life to look like. of course all this is through the help of God he's the one who directs your feet.
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It is weird to me too, I think people should stop thinking that marriage is a must. You can survive without getting married and even have a better life compared to someone who is in a toxic or messed up marriage. For example those women who get married as the third or second wife. You can't be happy living in such a marriage or family since you won't feel the affection from your partner.
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You can survive without getting married and even have a better life compared to someone who is in a toxic or messed up marriage. For example those women who get married as the third or second wife. You can't be happy living in such a marriage or family since you won't feel the affection from your partner.

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fact there are failed marriages does not mean that there are no wonderful marriages. Furthermore, it is not automatic that the children will follow the same path of life as their parents. People want different things. There are those who enjoy companionship while others want a totally independent life. A child from a broken home may want to have a married life and they should be given all the support needed to make it a success. Generally, parents want their children to have a much better life than theirs. In this instance a parent must be open and admit to their children the mistakes they made in their marriages so that the children do not repeat the same mistakes. Furthermore they must emphasize to their children that a good marriage begins by getting married for the right reasons.relationship between two people most probably of the opposite sex. Marriage was given to ensure a perfect man marries a perfect woman to beget perfect children. When the first parents disobeyed God is when imperfection found a way into marriage. There are disturbed marriages yet we need our children to marry and get married
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In summary, I can say that divorced parents know that it is possible for marriages to work and the fact they themselves failed in this regard does not in any way mean that their children's marriages are cursed and doomed to faill
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Parents are very careful to their child, that's why the pain or the mistake they've had must not be felt by their children. Marrying is a happy moment for everyone that means they want their child to be happy in the near future
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Most people think marriage is a must and they just don't want to go against the expectations of the society. People just have this idea that you just need to get married that's why you find desperate people who want to get married. This is a major reason why some marriages fail because they did it to meet the expectations of the society. Some people even preserve  in a bad marriage because it looks bad to get a divorce.
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I think that the children are seeing the parents' broken life. so it may affect also the kids. so it is better didn't force them to marry. it should be their choice to marry or not. mostly if the kid gets married.
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If your parents love you for real and still want you to get married, even though they themselves do not have good married life then I can think of only one valid reason " they don't want you to need up alone, they want someone to take care of you in times of problem" expecting good thing even going through it's opposite in life is something very common. I have friends whose parents have admitted during the normal conversation that they want their daughter to settle down after marriage in front of their eyes so that they can die in peace and that their daughter is in good hands.
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Just because my marriage isn't working doesn't mean everybody else's marriages won't work. Marriage is a very beautiful thing. Everyone should get the chance to experience it 
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Because the purpose of marriage biblical is companship.

So there's is no reason whatsoever my children will remain single because I don't have a good marriage life.

Who knows that my children may be blessed by God because marriage is God's divine plan and enjoy good marriage lives. Everyone has their own grace and life portion.
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They want their children to get married so that their parents will not worry about their children in their life and parents have many illnesses and not capable to care of their children later in life. Their children will have the family of their own and their children's families will take care of their children once they get old or sick later. 
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Perhaps it is because they want their children to marry while they are alive so as to guide them in order for them not to make the same mistakes.
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Even if your parents have a bad marriage doesn't really mean that they should prevent you from getting married but atleast the parents can give their children some advice on how to have a good marriage and also what red or green flags in a relationship from their experience.
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These type of parents who usually have bad marriage encourage their children to let go of a marriage when they can't handle it again, so they can be free.
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There are many reasons for that but some of the main reasons for that are:

1.To keep the family reputation

2. To take away the responsibility

3. Some think they are protecting the child.
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I live in India and here it's so mandatory to get married by 25. If by fault you are 30 are still aren't married then according to the society you might have some default and that is why you are not being able to get married or something like that.


According to Indian parents, a person is born to either get married or be saint but if neither of them then you must be dead.
 
90% of the marriages are not happy marriage but still people get married because that's how life work. It must be probably because parents want to see their children live a happy life and only another person can make them happy and that is why they want their kids to get married even tho they know that is not true 
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There can be many reasons why people want their children to get married, even if they themselves have not had a good marriage experience. Some possible reasons include:

They may want their children to have the same sense of commitment and stability that they believe marriage can provide.

They may want their children to experience the joy and happiness that they believe can come with marriage.

They may believe that it is important for their children to have a partner to share their life with.

It is also possible that people may want their children to get married because they believe it is what is expected of them socially, or because they feel that it will bring them joy and fulfillment. Ultimately, the reasons for wanting one's children to get married can vary greatly and depend on the individual circumstances and values of the parents.
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People want their children to get married because they may want them to experience the same joy they had when they first got married. Despite the fact that they may not have a good marriage life, they may still value the idea of marriage and want their children to have the same opportunity to experience it.

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We are designed to get married. Even though the idea of marriage was not introduced in the old life, Human beings are wired to be entwined with the opposite sex. Even though if no one asked you to get married, you yourself cannot deny the fact that it has crossed your mind and has been looking forward into doing it. Because we are made to want to get married.
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Many people want their children to get married even if they don't have a good marriage life because they believe that marriage is a lifelong commitment that can bring love, companionship, emotional security, and stability to a relationship. They may also feel that marriage will provide their children with a sense of responsibility and help them to mature. In some cases, parents may also be hoping that their children can learn from their own mistakes and find a better partner.
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There are a few reasons for people wanting their children to get married. Some reasons include wanting to find a way to be a part of their parents' life, finding joy in the act of being a family, or finding hope in the prospect of having a family of their own. Additionally, some people want their children to get married because they want to find a way to be a part of the global family model. Others may simply want their children to be happy and have a life without the stress of a full-time marriage. Additionally, some people want their children to become model citizens.
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Some parents force their daughters to marry just get dowry and reduce expenses in a family which is not good idea.Gods time is always the time.
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