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I went out of town for some family reasons for 6 months. And when I came back, I saw her with someone else. We were togather in livin for 7 years but suddenly she cheated on me. Any suggestions for future?

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Yes. If you have moved on and, a big NO if you only wanted to have like a substitute. You need to be free from old attachments before proceeding to another relationship.
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Great advice buddy and great move by leaving her with somebody else. You don't deserve a cheater. :)

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Obviously we have no choice not to because at the end of the day it's best for us,we have to be able to stand up for what is right.I share your point of view,infact I think we agree on this,am glad you see things this way because it is indeed the best.
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It depends on what you want. If you are still want to try to make it work and move on from the fact that she cheated and be able to trust her. Then you should stay. Cheating is not an easy thing to leave behind and move forward, so if you are questioning yourself on if you should stay. It's time for you to get up and leave this behind. 
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I share your point of view,infact I think we agree on this,am glad you see things this way because it is indeed the best.Obviously we have no choice not to because at the end of the day it's best for us,we have to be able to stand up for what is right.
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In a long term relationship, it will be hard to just move on. You should talk to her when you are ready to clear things out between the both of you.
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This quite a positive mindset and perspective it will change people's way of thinking because you are quite optimisticI.I share your point of view,infact I think we agree on this,am glad you see things this way because it is indeed the best.
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You should not search for a new Gf. You will automatically get attracted to someone once you completely move on. Trust me, searching a partner exclusively does not work. Don't search for a partner just because you are alone. Work on yourself. Go n treks, listen to good music, paint, meet your friends, relax, eat good food, exercise and involve in self care.  
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Generally your idea is quite wise and eligible for stimulating good thinking and the right mindset keep it up.Obviously we have no choice not to because at the end of the day it's best for us,we have to be able to stand up for what is right.
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I would suggest you to talk to her as I feel you have known her for 7 years, so talking and knowing about the reason why she cheated on you will stop you from taking any decision instantly. Accepting cheating is never easy but talking can help and give you answers you're looking for. Maybe, after knowing the answers, you can forgive her and you both can start a new journey with different people. 
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Basically this point of view is very very legit and understandable let's hope people can take it in the right way.Generally your idea is quite wise and eligible for stimulating good thinking and the right mindset keep it up.
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Yes, move on life doesn't end there. Someday you will find a better person. Hence don't be upset just move on hoping a better life.
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This quite a positive mindset and perspective it will change people's way of thinking because you are quite optimistic.Obviously we have no choice not to because at the end of the day it's best for us,we have to be able to stand up for what is right.
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You should not search for a new girlfriend if there is someone for you you will definitely meet her without searching.

So you need not to search for a new girlfriend as a substitute
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Important and ver reasonable information that should be considered when trying to understand this topic/question.Wonderfully presented and am sure it is based on a high level of research and understanding from you as an individual.
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You should move on. She can do this again. I suggest you to find a loyal gf. If she beg then you can give her a second chance but not third or fourth. Best of luck.
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Indeed this is true I am glad you see things from this perspective because this is quite right.i understand what you are trying to say, keep it up
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Cheating in a relationship is so bad and you should move on already if she have done that. I guess that if she is not yet satisfied with your relationship in that long then she would be cheating with other men on the following seasons.
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This is quite true most people at times don't see it from this point of view and now I see and understand what you are trying to say.i understand what you are trying to say, keep it up.
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Move on get a new girlfriend and involve yourself with someone better. But this should happen only after you have moved on because it will be bad  having a girlfriend whom you don't really love. If you can forgive her it is also not bad since it's good to give people second chances since you have been through alot for those 7 years.
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Wonderfully presented and am sure it is based on a high level of research and understanding from you as an individual.Important and ver reasonable information that should be considered when trying to understand this topic/question.
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Forget about her, work on yourself, and make looks-maxing your top priority. Try not to let cheating to get to you, and stay focused on your life. Part of the question of looking for another girlfriend is obvious, and you should get one as soon as you can. 
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Brilliant facts now I understand even more this is quite outstanding,this is a brilliant consecutive idea to the question at hand I find this information quite useful, indeed I share your point of view and I understand you,this is quite reasonable.
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She already showed you she's not worthy of your trust or love so I don't 9it will be wise for you to take her back. Just move on with your life and now more experienced and lesson learned and don't repeat the same mistake. 
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First of all, it is importan to know if when you left they agreed to wait, or leave things each on their own.

Second, your partner failed to be honest, to tell you that he was dating someone else, to clarify that he would not wait for you. But by not doing so, he only realizes that she isn't a good person, therefore you shouldn't suffer for him. Life is responsible for giving each one what corresponds to him, she was not for you, she did not care about the 7 years together, so do not feel bad, give yourself your time, heal inside and the right person will arrive without you looking for her.
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Yes you should it will help you get your mind off her and make you happier because right now am sure you feel kinda gross,so find something to pass time with.
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seven years is a long time i think maybe u should just give your self time to heal properly how ever long it takes u will know when u are healed u will feel an iner peace and satisfaction within your self
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I think it is best to heal your heart after the break-up with your ex. It is not cool if the new GF will feel the rebound effect of the relationship.
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It's okay to move on in life, but if that relationship was real and true I don't think you should just get in relationship with anyone just because you are not in a relationship anymore. Give yourself sometime to heal move on with life not with person, invest in yourself and during this journey if you find someone genuine, true and feel that she is the one then go for it.
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I think that first you should planely check what made the both of you break up or you coa come back together better but if not possible at all then i will advice you to look for another one.
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The question i should be asking you is she begging, if yes and you love her i will forgive but she is not move on and don't look for a girl to substitute her, but a girl you love.
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If you have been an involved partner in a relationship and are feeling down about your girlfriend, it may be helpful to search for a new GF or partner in the past. It is possible that your girlfriend has cheated on you in the past, and it may be better for her to forgo the relationship and new partner. Thank your feel-good stories of how you two spent co-worker time together and other In-Person/ social media experiences for she feels better.
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