To understand how we can deal with anxiety, we have to first understand what anxiety is, and why one experiences anxiety.
Anxiety is associated with fear as to the outcomes and consequences of one's actions, which interferes with one's daily activities. This fear manifests itself through a negative or pessimistic attitude to life in general, erosion of one's self-esteem, depression and even suicidal tendencies.
Anxiety usually stems out of one's pre-conceived expectation of a bad experience. For instance, Glossophobia or the fear of public speaking is a common form of anxiety, which is believed to affect upto 75% of the population. One's first experience of presenting a speech before an audience is bound to be a nerve-racking ordeal. People shiver and stammer in fear on the podium. People experience brain fades. Why does this happen? It happens because we fear being adversely judged & mocked by the audience. This is an imagined expectation of the outcome of the speech even before delivering it.
Another common example is exam anxiety - almost every student experiences it. Why? We imagine the experience of failing or scoring poorly in the examination. How would my parents react? Will my friends consider me inferior? Will the teacher humiliate me before the class?
Based on the examples quoted above, we can infer that anxiety is a figment of one's imagination. It stems out of our pre-occupation with the future or the memory of our past. We lose focus on the present and this enhances the probability of a bad experience, which augments anxiety and fear.
I believe that staying in the present is the key to tackling anxiety. But this is easier said than done. The mind has to be controlled to force it not to dwell in the past and anticipate as to how the future will unfold itself.
At this juncture, I intend to re-emphasize two words that I used to define anxiety — 'consequences’ and ‘outcomes’. We pre-occupy ourselves with the consequences and outcomes of our actions, because the environment of our upbringing has only valued results and not efforts.
If we intend to stay in the present, we have to our re-orient ourselves towards our processes and methods rather than the results that they generate; and making this switch requires one to acknowledge that results involve a number of uncontrollables. We can only commit ourselves to do everything within our sphere of control [processes and methods] to the best of our ability, while the result will be shaped by our destiny, by the almighty. It is equally important to prepare yourself to accept any result so as to prevent anxiety. Also, we have to understand that our efforts do not entitle us to a favourable result, it only enhances the probability of a favourable outcome.
The mind can be forced to think on these lines through re-iteration. The next time you are to deliver a speech or presentation, tell yourself that you will prepare for it well and deliver it with sincerity and enthusiasm; you don't control about the perception of your audience. The next time you are to write an exam, tell yourself that you will study the syllabus with focus and write the examination with concentration; the results is not within your sphere of your control.