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There are people that I have seen who are afraid of getting married. What some might be because of true rising divorce cases, others might be because of how the partner changes once they marry. What do you think is the greatest fear for marriage?
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I'm afraid of getting married before I achieve the financial stability I need in my life. Love comes like a cloud and covers your mind and thinking. I don't want that. I want to get married with my head straight and held up high. I'm confident in myself that I have the ability to sort any problems and make things work. 

When you are totally dependent in a relationship, it makes the man tired and drag and fall out with you. This is very common around here but I am not about to contribute to that narrative. When you both are totally dependent and interdependent as well, it makes better sense. 
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One of my greatest fears in marriage is realising that you got married to the wrong person and you need a divorce. I am fearing that he could be acting Angel now that we are dating then he shows his true colors of a devil once we are married. 
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My greatest fear of getting married is the uncertainty that comes with it. Marriages are no longer what they used to be. There tends be infidelity of all sorts these days that probably leads to divorce. The truth is I don't want to experience unfaithful in my marriage. I am happy being single than to get into a lifetime affair that would bring me close to an early grave.
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I know marriages these took like they follow a definite regular pattern but I like to think that it is really what you make of it. You can tell your story in a different way. 

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I was married once and it didn't work out so one of my my biggest fears would be another failure. When my marriage broke up my children were young and this is what I worried about the most, the thought of them being upset by it. Thankfully  although they were confused at the time they adjusted very quickly and life was more harmonious for them.  Now they are grown up so that wouldn't be an issue although I am bringing up my granddaughter and she has had enough disruption in her life so I would not want to cause her any more.

I am quite independent now and like being single so another fear at this stage in my life would be losing that independence so for that reason I would not want to marry again. I have a partner but we don't live together and I like it that way. I like being able to make my own decisions and not having to answer to anyone. It's a case of once bitten twice shy for me,
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I am really proud of yourself. Being a single mom is not easy. Thanks for your answer. 
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Everyone has a story. I know a friend who don't want to get married because she saw what happened to her family. Her dad always beat her mother. Her mother went out of their house because of that. They saw their mother after 10 years with different family. She even saw the same situation with her Aunties and closed relatives. She said that she believes that fail marriage is in their blood which I think is incorrect. I think marriage depends on people. On how strong they are to their promise of loving each other despite the difficulties. There are people who are relying their life on someone's else life which is wrong. Marriage is both happy and sad. It is a promise, a vow to God that through thick and thin, you should be together because in the first place you've decided to be together. The love should be strong so that the decision should be too. 
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I have a feeling that all men are the same.I have seen several marriages breaking up because the man cheated on the wife.Most men are heartless and find it hard sticking around with one wife.These kind of relationship usually has got its consequences and one of them might be contraction of sexually transmitted infections and HIV. Lots of women end up contracting this diseases from there spouses.

My other greatest fear is being divorced. You might have a little misunderstanding or maybe the man's parents don't love.They'll hence incite the man to leave you.This is usually hurting especially if you have kids. You'll hence have to struggle day and night for your kids.
I have always loved to have a family with man on my side to help me in decision making and etc.Marriage isn't an easy thing you jump into with making good analysis.
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My greatest fear of getting married is leaving my parents alone and should adopt new situation. 

And about the character of husband. 
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I don't have the fear of getting married or be married. I know how to be a responsible person in having my own family. The other side of the story is I am not married yet. When the time comes, I will be the happiest man in this world. Regardless, if it did not happen, I can still embrace the singlehood. With this matter, it is my fate not to be married.
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My greatest fear in marriage that If I'll do arrange marriage then I think, I never can be give her Honor of a wife becouse I'm leaving a relationship and never can be accepte to any other beside her.
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The greatest fear can be will be whether the relationship is faithful or not. Marriage is an life long agreement. But some will give more importance to money than relationship. Better not to marry. Marriage is the end of ones personal choices.
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My fear regarding marriage before are the possible responsilities to face,how to manage a family or can I really provide their wants and needs,or how to handle problems that may goes along but whether single or married person,We always facing struggles and problems,the importance is how to deal and overcome every situation that may arise.I'm 14 years married and thanks God everything is fine and hoping it will last forever by Gods help. 
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My biggest fear about getting married is the fear of divorce, i don't want my children to suffer, because kids who stay with a single parent go through alot of emotional trauma.
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I'm afraid that I may not give the life my future wife and future kids deserve. That's why I don't have a girlfriend yet because I'm not yet ready to face consequences and commitments regarding that.
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So, I don't like the idea of ME getting married. I respect marriage and all but I just don't see myself comfortable with it.

Maybe it's just my own experience with my family that I have a fear rooted deep inside my heart. But even without all the trauma, I am a socially awkward person, the first relationship I had was on the edge of toxic. (On the edge since I felt suffocated but he wasn't necessarily a bad person. Just that, in the rush of fixing me, I lost the real me.)

So yeah, I am afraid of marriage since I don't think I know how to behave with a person and his family whom I have never met my whole life. I am afraid, they'll judge me, mock me and not understand me. 
I am kind of a people-pleaser, I go to great heights to make sure I am doing everything I can for the person ahead to like me and if I go in a place where no one loves me, I'll go crazy...
Apart from that, I am asexual, I feel no sexual attraction which is another rift in a marriage.
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The greatest fear in marriage is when start to change yourself and commit to your partner fully without any complaints or regrets. Getting married is accepting your partner whatever differences you have for many years. Having a fear that you will discover more of your partner's attitudes or the differences between the partners once they settle for good under one roof for years.
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My fear of getting married is realising that the person I thought I married to was all along pretending.

Another fear is the fear of divorce like you said.

I just want a happy marriage.
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My greatest fear of getting married is the potential for my marriage to fail. The idea of putting so much effort into building a life with someone, only to have it end in divorce, is a daunting one that I've had to confront. The thought of losing the person I love due to a lapse in communication or a major disagreement can be intimidating. Additionally, the potential for financial strain and emotional stress on both parties is something I think about often, as these factors can be difficult to navigate. Marital failure can be an extremely painful experience, one that I hope to avoid.
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I think the greatest fear of getting married is the fear of commitment. Committing to a long-term relationship with another person and giving up your freedom to make decisions without consulting your partner is a huge and intimidating step. It requires a lot of trust and faith in the other person, and the thought of that commitment can be daunting.
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My greatest fear in getting married is the fear of getting married to a person not destined to you or will i say getting married to bad person.Getting married to a bad person is hell on earth
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I believe that the greatest fear for marriage is the change that comes with being married. People can get divorced, and there will be changes that come with being married. Some people may be happy with their relationship, while others may not. I think that the fear that people have of change is because they may be underestimating the power of marriage.
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The greatest fear of getting married is 

1. Fear of extra expenses and responsibilities 

2. Fear of financial instability 

3. Fear of break up and divorce
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My greatest fear to get married is not having time for my self after having children and not able to live a perfect and free life the way I usually do.
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Betrayal and being controlled , I know I can't say that it happens every time but I have saw it so many times around me that now I am really afraid. 
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