How long should I give her to say yes?

Question

So I’ve been talking to this girl for 6 months now and we have literally everything in common going from liking anime to even how we talk and present ourselves. I asked her to be my girlfriend and she doesn’t really answer. She tells me she likes me and wants to be with me but she’s hesitant to say yes. I think she’s scared to commit which I can understand but at the same time I’m hurting. It sucks because she’s a long distance away so I can’t comfort her when she’s sad or simple just hold her which makes me sad. Not only that but the position she’s in right now she’s always crying or she’s unhappy a lot and I can’t help with a lot of that either. To sum it up in a short way, I wanna be with this girl but she won’t say yes which I wouldn’t mind waiting but I’m hurting from seeing her so unhappy and sad all the time and I’m not sure what to do. It’s hard to sit around and not only have someone you love so much not be with you when you want them to be but it’s even harder when they’re also far far away and is always upset and unhappy and you can’t do anything but be sad and upset as well 

Answer 1

It's a very difficult situation in which you are in love with the girl but you don't know whether she feels the same for you or not.

Now as you have told her your feelings , you should start pampering her , taking carr of her small things..sooner or later she will start seeing her right partner in you.

Comments

Women wants comfort and a good idea to comfort her while waiting for her answer. Just be patient and she will answer as long as she is sure

Answer 2

Hope you will find the answer for your question sooner.. Honestly, My words might just help you to stay strong or come out of the trauma you are facing right now.

I too had similar experience may be few years ago.I wanted to commit in a relation with that best companion of mine for which he is not prepared. I was left all alone in our City  and he is in their hometown which is 6hrs journey from my place.. Days passed waiting for the commitment and then I realized what made him to stop being in a relation and the reasons are family commitments, not prepared, career plans and so on.. 

If you deeply observe, none of his reason is related to me so why should I bother him to get in my world when he have lot much to cross in his own world..

Days passed(harder though for 2 years) and now we are the old friends again helping each other in our daily routines and not really concerned of relation.

Cheers and just focus on what could be good for both of you and take time for big things(and relation is definitely worth waiting for)

Good luck!

Answer 3

Courting and dating is not only the time to wait for her "Yes" it is also the moments where you start to know each other. The traits,habits,likes and dislikes. So that means as along as she gives you time for herself do what you can and don't be shy to ask her as much as possible 

Answer 4

Sometimes you can get an answer from her actions. But what I can tell is that just give her time if loves and you can see it through her actions

Answer 5

• Sorry to hear about your girlfriend I think you should talk to her she is clearly going through some problems it is not good to be sad and cry all the time the mind get used to the sadness then depression start, please try and seek her some help before it's too late you like this girl, make your feelings known to her I don't doubt she likes you but first help her maybe her problems are blocking you both to express your feelings

Answer 6

She's not an animal ore object to"give"her time"who do you think you are?Time for what?Yo don't have patience because you whant sex,and if this doesn't show up,what?you run to another girl? Pathetic!

Answer 7

Try asking her what she really wants and tell her how you feel about the issue. Also how far away is she is it like another country? Long distance are very difficult for sure and I would advise you to do that but it sounds like you really like the girl. I hope you get things together soon.

Answer 8

Love does not define by how long you meet. You heart decides! If you love her why wait for too long? Go!! As long you are happy with each other!! follow your heart!

Answer 9

When you have feelings for someone you express to them and tell them what or how you are feeling. There are different answers to this , wait, no and yes. And whichever answer comes be prepared and know that rejection does not mean you are a bad person. Just believe in yourself and know that there is always a person somewhere who will love and cherish you

Answer 10

A guy pursues you even if you give him no assurance. Make sure to be careful of his feelings, if you're not feeling any sense of chemistry or attachment, it ok to give up. 

Answer 11

Maybe she's scared and need you to explain to her how helpful it will be when the two of you are together, don't give up on her, because it will be very devasted

Answer 12

Once you are dating or proposing to girlfriend or any woman never force, intimidate or sway her to say yes.just let the love flow by itself .

Answer 13

You need to prove your love to a lady, and don't force her to accept you. Love comes with freedom and freewill. Let her be convinced inwardly that you truly care.

Answer 14

 you deeply observe, none of his reason is related to me so why should I bother him to get in my world when he have lot much to cross in his own world..

Days passed(harder though for 2 years) and now we are the old friends again helping each other in our daily routines and not really concerned of relation.

Cheers and just focus on what could be good for both of you and take time for big things(and relation is definitely worth waiting for)