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During my school days I had some infatuations but I was afraid to say I love you to them. I don't know why. Then all the girls got in love with other boys in my school. Now I am thinking of a love story again. How can I talk to a girl without any fear? I need an expert answer @sil @Nicky @Vilma
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In school, you have a lot of peer pressure and it makes a person shy to speak to a girl or a guy. You are afraid of being laughed at or even rejected. This is all part of growing up. Now that you are no longer in school you still have the same fears as before. In order to overcome these fears, it will take time. 

To gain confidence in speaking with a woman you should start off slowly. If you two have the same interest and like the same things this should make it a bit easier to talk with her. You can start off by introducing your self or do like some guys do. You see her sitting there studying, reading, or just watching the sunset, take a seat next to her. Start off by asking her what she is reading. You can say something about that sounds interesting or what is it about. Just make small talk at first. The rest will come as you sit there and chat. The hardest part will be to start the conversation. Even if you really like her and you feel you are in love with her, don't tell her this right away. Go slowly and build up a friendship. You might want to ask her if she'd be interested in having a cup of coffee with you now or another day. Get to know her slowly and build up a friendship. The rest will come naturally as the time passes. 
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Hi! Thanks for considering me an expert. I picked this question because it was interesting, and then I saw my name there (even though I never got a notification that you marked me there...so sorry if I am late).

I believe you do not have to be shy to talk to people. I know it is easier said than done, but I am a shy person myself and learned to be outgoing and now am not really afraid of talking to anyone.

It is super cool that you are from korea, I am learning korean actually! I love the food, the language and the culture, would like to go to the country someday! (See , this is one example on how to make talk with a person!) Anyways, back to your question. If you have interest in a person try to start a conversation with something basic, asking out, asking random questions. Saying I love you right away might scare people. In fact you need to better get to know each other first so you really find out if that person interests you! For example, sometimes you admire a person because he or she is attractive on the outside, however the personality of the person might be annoying.

Sometimes we also get into relationships that we think the person will change and be what we think he or she is, but do not waste your time, people never change, we cannot change others, they are the ones who can change themselves.

Now, go ahead and dont be afraid to talk! You can start with small talk>invitation> and then if you think the person was nice you can keep talking to them. A tip is, do not throw on the table that you have a love interest at first, as the person should also get to know you better!

Good luck!
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I was like you, but i realized that fear from talking girls it's a bullshit

What will happen if we talk a girl

We will die?  No it's a simple talk let's do it

Be confident from yourself

Maximum if she don't want to she will tell you i don't want to talk to you and okay this is not a problem there's other girls who wait a word from you 
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It's completely normal to feel nervous when talking to someone you're interested in, but it's important to remember that confidence is key when it comes to starting a conversation. Here are some tips that may help you:

Practice makes perfect: The more you talk to girls, the more confident you will become. Start by striking up conversations with girls in non-romantic settings, like in class or at a social event.

Be yourself: Don't try to be someone you're not. Be authentic and genuine in your interactions and let your personality shine through.

Start with a simple hello: Sometimes the hardest part is getting the conversation started. Start with a simple greeting and go from there.

Ask open-ended questions: Ask questions that require more than just a yes or no answer. This will keep the conversation flowing and show that you're interested in getting to know her.

Take an interest in her interests: If you know what she's interested in, ask her about it. People love talking about their passions, and it's a great way to show that you care.

Remember, rejection is a natural part of life, and it happens to everyone. Don't let the fear of rejection hold you back from pursuing what you want. Just be confident, be yourself, and go for it!
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I am a girl and I have fears of talking to guys too but I already overcome it. If you want to talk to girls or a specific girl, might as well know her first so that the first trial of talks will not be awkward. I know the feeling of being rejected by a guy because I don't know what I am saying while talking to him. A little hello will not hurt the both of you. Try to have a greeting with a sweet smile. Think a conversation that will not make her bored, like asking about her dress or what she loves to do. The part when you already have some little research about her will lead to a long and good conversation. If a girl find something in common with a certain guy for sure she will stay and talk to you. If you even apply a certain good humor, like saying a joke, sharing some mistakes and you look funny while sharing it, it will lead to something good. Once a girl laugh at your joke it means you are comfortable to be with and for sure another conversation will strike once you see each other. 
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I think we always have this problem at a younger age and I had it too and as I grow older I knew it just takes us conquering our fears and facing it head long.

First you just have to build  your self esteem,pick it up and tell yourself you can do it.walk up to the person involve and let out your words,you wouldn't believe how easy it can be,even if you are snubbed don't mind,because it part of building up your self confidence,you need to be brave in the face of tensions or heat.

You could walk away the first time and repeat the circle again and again until you kill the shyness.Remember practice makes perfect so keep working at  it to raise your confidence.
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1) Be yourself and don't worry about what others think.

2) Keep your thoughts positive.

3) Focus all your attention on the person you are talking to. 
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Be yourself and not pretend to be someone who is not you. If we do this, then how can we convince other people if not showing our true colors. Let me share what I do in knowing someone. First, I need to observe a person's ways or behaviors. So that I may not offend her at any angle. Next, be vocal and be expressive. Last, you just need to take the course of considering the get to know stage.
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You can talk to girls with more confidence by not being shy around and u can stop doing any bad habits that make ur confidence low.
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Confidence can be built by starting to accept that you are shy and ready to change to becoming a confident person. Look at the mirror and start practicing reciting a poem or delivering a talk. Also be talking to girls even by greeting them and have slight conversations about general topics
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Always believe that men are naturally superior to women no matter her class or age .be bold as a man,dont be shy and you must not be afraid of insults,it is not wise for a woman to insult a man who is trying to express his feelings for her.
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The best way to start building more confidence to talk to girls is to work on yourself first. Start by focusing on the things that you like about yourself and look for ways to improve your self-esteem. Take some time to identify your strengths and weaknesses and focus on ways to improve or develop those areas that you feel need work. Once you start to feel better about yourself, it will be much easier to approach and talk to girls. 

Additionally, it can help to practice talking to girls in situations where there is less pressure and no risk of rejection. For example, start with casual conversations with female acquaintances or friends. This can help you to gain the confidence and experience needed to approach and talk to someone you may be interested in. 

Finally, remember that everyone is unique and has their own individual preferences and interests. Your approach should be tailored to the person you’re talking to and be authentic to who you are. Don’t be afraid to express yourself honestly and openly and to be vulnerable. With practice, you will gain more confidence and eventually be able to talk to girls without fear.
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To build confidence in talking to girls, focus on being yourself, finding common interests, & being open & friendly. Practice positive self-talk & remember that everyone has flaws & insecurities. Start small by engaging in conversations with women in a comfortable setting.
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You can still have fear in your heart when you want to say something to a girl and that is okay. You can go through other activities or processes to calm your mind and prepare yourself for anything. You are still capable of saying something to a girl when you are ready.

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