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I'm in love with him but he sees me only as a friend. What should I do?
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It hurts when someone you love doesn't love you the same. But, you have to accept that if you really love that person.
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My advice for you is to not kill yourself over any man because it's not worth it. 

You're the lady here and it's the man who is supposed crave you more and not the other way around.

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I think its normal for him to act that way since he might not notice the gesture from you. Love or emotions can either be mutual or one sided. and in most cases, it occurs in between. Such that both will feel same but only one side is ready to venture into it.
I think the problem here might be that he didn't notice it since this while and if that is the case!. Then you should try to make him to understand your feelings better. Because silent will be more hurting especially if you loose him.

If then you try to push harder to make him get it. Though I'm not saying you should approach directly instead in discrete or diplomatic manner. He will voice out some day or play along.

However, pray over it except if the love is lostful. But if its genuine with good plans and positive  prospect. Both will grind together.
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Your idea is legit and I would rate it a five out of five because of the wisdom in the paragraph above.
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It is very possible to work it out with him if you are sure he is not hooked to any body yet and you have study him psychologically and emotionally if he is committed to you in a way,  it is very possible he also has the feelings but fear of rejection kept his love inside. Increase the level of your intimacy with him diplomatically,  engage him on conversations related to keeping relationships this will enable you pick points on his inner most intention.
It is not longer a big deal for a lady to work up to a guy and tell him about her feelings towards him in a very mature way that will not portray her to be irresponsible,  if the tips above did not work on him,  work up to him and tell him what you feel about him in a sincere not,  if he is responsible he will appreciate you for that and never take you for granted.
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Highly true and justifyable I made some research of my own and found this to be quite reliable.
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One thing that I have come to understand and assimilate when it comes to matters of love, affection and relationship is that intimate feelings can never be forced upon anyone, it's definitely going have to develop on its own without any extra added pressure. If pressure is applied, the feelings wouldn't be genuine and it's not going to last long unlike when it develops on its own freewill.


There are lots of things that should be considered in your situation of love and affection to the guy who doesn't feel the same way about you and is not showing the same feelings you give him. The period of your relationship with him goes a long way in determining whether or not he is supposed to develop intimate feelings for you.
If you try your best and all is not working out as you hoped for, I would advise you to look for another person to love and take him exactly the same way he took you.
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If anyone is looking for an answer to this question I mean why not just look at it from this perspective it is quite wise.
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This is a kind of scenario where we can't have what we really want. One thing that you should know on this kind of situation is that there is need to remain on the friend level and not try to push things further ahead as regards trying to coerce someone that is not in love with you to do so.

As far as I am concerned, if the person is not showing any signs of having emotional feelings for you, it is better to relax and try to find out why it is so. I have seen a lot of scenarios where the woman made the first choice and at the end of the day find out that they are only being used and nothing more. So, it is pertinent that you keep it at the level of just friends till he starts loving you as well.

I have been in this situation where I convinced a lady to fall in love with me and believe me, it was not easy to enjoy such relationships.
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This message Is quite clear and deeply thought through I believe it is a way forward for all.
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You can't force a person to love you back the way you want to be love back. Just accept the fact that you have to stay in his life as a friend. That may be hard to accept but that's the reality of life. You must set your heart free and just be happy for your friend. God has prepared a much better person for you! 
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Wonderfully presented and am sure it is based on a high level of research and understanding from you as an individual.
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You can never force love on someone, before you love, try and be the best of friends because love grows. He has his reasons for his decision so the best you can do is to keep the friendship and be open love, sometimes what we desire most does not come our way, but when not expected it suddenly appears. Don't loose hope, and don't be bothered, keep at your best , it will surely come, as long as you are ready emotionally and mentally. 
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Important and ver reasonable information that should be considered when trying to understand this topic/question.
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Dear, it will really be hard..but loving someone unconditionally doesn't mean you will get the same in return.. it's not in our control to make someone feel the same way we feel for them. Pray to God for his happiness and be happy if he's happy being with someone.Never ever feel dejected because you really deserve a lot of love and respect from your life partner, which is not him.If it's not him, it doesn't mean there's no one ahead. There's someone who would give you a lot of respect and love and may God give you all the love you deserve. 
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Brilliant facts now I understand even more this is quite outstanding,this is a brilliant consecutive idea to the question at hand.
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You see being in love with someone who doesn't reciprocate the love is the worst of all feelings, the best way to go about this is to maintain your respect for him and the respect he also have for you, always be on a defensive position when with him, sometimes it feels better and eases a bit if you give him body language which will create a clean awareness to him about your feelings for him, and I believe if he truly loves you too, has no relationship, and also never want to take advantage of you falling for him naturally without him putting any hard work or craving for it to subject you to emotional abuse; then one day he is gonna realise himself and come up to you telling you that you are his jewel and how precious you are to him.
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I find this information quite useful, indeed I share your point of view and I understand you,this is quite reasonable.
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I experienced the same situation before. What I did in that situation is I hidden my feelings and friend with him till now. Because he is in relationship with some other girl. So I don't want to interrupt him and spoil the friendship. Coming to your case, It is painful but you should accept him as a friend. Later, He may have feelings for you. 
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This is very useful information with accuracy,I find this information quite outstanding and relatively important.
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You better take time to figure out whether you could continue as friend or else you need to keep away from him for your own good. Depression, trauma develops through such relations where you hide your feelings in the name of friendship
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Very true and adequate people should start opening there eyes and seeing things this way.
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It is so hard to pretend to be friends with someone special when everytime you look at the person, all you see is everything you want to have. The longer you stay in the friendzone, the harder it isto get out.
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I would consider this true basing on the variety of options and knowledgeable points you added to this answer.
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You cannot do anything. Let the course of the universe unite together. I think it is best to stay away from him. Sometimes love is not all we can get. In time, this friendship with him will grow more than being friends. At this point in time, you cannot force yourself to him.
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This is quite true most people at times don't see it from this point of view and now I see and understand what you are trying to say.
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if you really love him, firstly tell about your feeling upon him that how much you love him. just try to get to know what his reaction after knowing about feeling & give him time to think about it for decision because love is the thing you can't force to do it, so my suggestion is to give a chance to give love. by the way love is form of different forms:

  • Friend love
  • Family Love
  • Partner Love

So, your love is precious to him so give chance to understand him and take right decision, you need to give time and wait for response. you should not do such thing which he can get irritated, if any rejection just forgive him. Love is patience & you can win a love by patience.
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I didn't know this,but now I know this is very useful information about the matter at hand.
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So if he seem as friend. So you will make friend you him and do all of the thing those he like and will try to understand to him you are in love with him. You will try again and over again. He accept you as love. 



 It is all allready happen with me and she was accept me after 18 months. So please try.

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This is quite a reasonable and knowledgeable answer and I think you are quite right considering the angle you are seeing the question from.
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Just show your real personality and give attention to him, even to a little things. He will recognize that you have special feeling to him, and also that you're a kind girl who always gives sweet attention to him. Also be a firtst person if he need help or if he find a sadness things in his life. At least you have done some efforts, if he finds comfort with you and think you're special one, he would be falling in love with you.
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Indeed this is true I am glad you see things from this perspective because this is quite right.
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Try and express how you feel to him.He might also feel the same for you.But if he doesn't you just have to let go so that you don't lose your friendship as well
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Obviously we have no choice not to because at the end of the day it's best for us,we have to be able to stand up for what is right.I share your point of view,infact I think we agree on this,am glad you see things this way because it is indeed the best.
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I think you should sat him down and talk to him and ask him if he is serious with you and you should also ask him to open up and you also need to open up tell everything you have in heart 
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Basically this point of view is very very legit and understandable let's hope people can take it in the right way.I find this article quite reasonable and knowledgeable infact most people might not see it this way,am glad you do.
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If he sees you as a friend only, forget your feelings for him. You will just hurt yourself. Continue to be friends with him so that there will be no awkwardness for both of you. I am pretty sure that there are a lot of boys at your place, you can still find someone who will accept your love, who will love you back. One sided relationship is not good and painful.
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Generally your idea is quite wise and eligible for stimulating good thinking and the right mindset keep it up.This quite a positive mindset and perspective it will change people's way of thinking because you are quite optimistic.
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You can try uponhim. Atleast he isn't playing with you he told you his real feelings. Try to communicate with him. Maybe he will fell for you.
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Generally convincing and understandable I am now seeing things in a different point of view after reading this answer.I find this article quite reasonable and knowledgeable infact most people might not see it this way,am glad you do.
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keeping your feeling to yourself wont do you any good so i advise you tell him and see his reaction, if he likes someone else you leave him to be happy if he does not win him over
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I share your point of view,infact I think we agree on this,am glad you see things this way because it is indeed the best.Generally your idea is quite wise and eligible for stimulating good thinking and the right mindset keep it up.

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