If a person has younger brother to look after the parents and he is supposed to look after the wife's mother been she is the youngest in the family. But he is not ready to take care of this wife, kid and her mother. But he needs their money, gold and house. How to judge this person. Did what he is doing right?
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If the person knows they're not capable of taking of the wife, child and her mother and stay with them because they need the money, I don't believe what they're doing is right but i don't think they're completely wrong either. If for example they are bad financial situation and need the money to support their own family then it's understandable but if they're only doing it for the sake of money for themselves then I believe they're wrong. The best thing that person can do is accept to his wife that he isn't ready to take care of them and perhaps work at themselves to get better and meanwhile get a caretake for the wife's mother. And educate themselves on how to take care of a child, not just physically but also how to take care of them mentally. And ask for feedback from his wife on how to do things better. Get help from others to be better is the idea.
The advice from others had made your life like this. If you have a good mind and will power no need to get advice from anyone. Did you start walking, after asking any advice. No, so this advices will only creates problem. If you didnt have the ability to make decision of your own you go for advice. So you didnt have the least ability to make any decision in your life.
The idea you have cant be forced on any person. You are forcing or making others to go in the way which are favorable for you and family. You are not thinking of others. They also have the freedom to go has they like. They didn't like to follow your idea and make you rich and solve your money problem.
If someone corrects you or point out your mistakes, try to accept it and correct it. You have a feeling that what you do or thinking was correct.
The helping or expert father had told to take care of the mother, then why are your not following that advice.?
The person is so selfish from the statement that he is thinking only of his own family members financial situation. It is only understandable in your eyes.
After your marriage, your family is not your father or mother, brother or their money issues.
It is your wife and kid that forms your family.They will be only for you at the end.if you didnt take care of them. They will not look you.
You have the responsibility to look after the wife and kid. Not your fathers money problem ? Then why did you get married and spoil your wife life?
If your are unable to take care of her.why did you make kid, if you are unable to look after her needs. God will ask you why did not you take care of your wife and daughter? Did you make their life miserable and make your parents happy?
You didnt have the right to teach others how to take care a baby, did you look her both physically and mentally when she was with you,for a single day? Atleast spend 2 hours with her not by mentally by atleast physically and take care her? Then you didnt have the right to teach other? You will not spend atleast 1 hour with your kid? It was the truth. To complaint was easy, but to do was difficult. You didn't knows or understand the difficult of other work unless you do so?
You are doing nothing for you kid instead spoiling her future, whatever i do for her good you are destroying that too. You didnt have any ethics or care for her, you only have revenge. For that you are spoiling your daughters future. Talk less and show by doing something. Like your mother, she saying everything and direct everyone, but she will not do anything. If you are not spending or looking your daughter, you didnt have the right to give advice or ask to do so to other. Atleast have a shame on saying to do like this without spending any time or effort for her.
Did you have any special ability to take care of mentally? each individual has their style or way to do something.
Why are talking to me as though I'm someone who's married and isn't capable of taking care of my family?
I'm not forcing my opinion on you, I'm just giving it to you.
And like I said the husband leaving won't destroy the wife or child's life, because if the husband is leaving like that he probably would've done a lot of harm to the life of the wife and child anyway. The wife and child can live on and have a better life without him.
And I answered your questions asking "How to judge this person, Did what he is doing is right?"
I'm not forcing my opinion on you, I'm just giving it to you.
And like I said the husband leaving won't destroy the wife or child's life, because if the husband is leaving like that he probably would've done a lot of harm to the life of the wife and child anyway. The wife and child can live on and have a better life without him.
And I answered your questions asking "How to judge this person, Did what he is doing is right?"
The person is so selfish and no consideration and feelings towards other people. So never expect anyone their for such selfish people. It is better to have a look back at your past life which makes the person to do or feel like this. The reason for the harm ness was he himself and his selfishness, activities and no consideration. May god will not punish him back for his cruelty.
Okay, sure
There are many reasons why one might do such a thing in addition to their own selfishness.
But clearly you aren't here to hear opinions from others you're only here to fish for opinions that validate your own .
Honestly I don't even know if you're actually reading or understanding a word I'm saying.
The person will not understthe difficulties that the child should face from the society due to lack of his father and having a family unless you have experienced it. You are only thinking of your happiness. If you once experience it you will understand the pain and sadness that the kid will face. You have no concern on other persons sadness. You are the person with less life experiences and not ready to accept the truth or reality. Sure one day you have to repel for your greedy attitude.
The advice from others had made your life like this. If you have a good mind and will power no need to get advice from anyone. Did you start walking, after asking any advice. No, so this advices will only creates problem. If you didnt have the ability to make decision of your own you go for advice. So you didnt have the least ability to make any decision in your life.