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In summary, there is a guy who tends to glance and look at me a lot which I often notice out of the corner of my eye, with a sort of serious expression. However, when we have to talk he acts bored, irritated, as if he dislikes me, and cold in subtle ways. Not really flirty, playful teasing but more of a slight rudeness. It's hard to say how he does it when we talk to eachother. He's nicer to everyone else but is very cold and serious towards me. Also as if he feels the need to shorten the conversation. I don't understand why someone who hates you would bother often looking at you? I've had other guys look at me and I've been told I generally have a nice appearance. I'm quiet and reserved so I'm not really the type to make people hate me that much. I get told I attract guys but being quiet and reserved I don't really notice. I feel strangely uncomfortable in confronting him. I think he looks attractive but I don't like him... Ive never experienced this before and it just feels odd. Have you guys acted like this towards a girl before? Why?
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It is a reverse psychology. He acts as irritated for you to feel that he really don't like you but the truth is, he likes you but he is just shy at you.
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I will speak from a guy perspective. I think he is into you it just that maybe he trying to conceal his feelings from you. Or does not really know how to put it out to you that he likes you. I will suggest maybe he is trying to play serious mind games with you which you're not use to. I think it all about who wants it the most. If you are so bothered about his behavior towards you why not confront him about it and see what would be his response.
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May be there is something deep in his mind. You have to probe his mind and try to talk to him.
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One thing for sure is that he's definitely interested in you. Whether it is to irritate or he's into you. If he's into you, then his ego is trying to mask his feelings. A way to lure your interest as to know why and I think he is achieving that.
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Stay away from this type of people because in real relationship they will do the same even if they love you inside.
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I think this is the case.Some people works with reverse psychology.Act as if you don't care when he or she cares alot.ignore the person and see how it goes
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He may just be the shy type of person that doesn't have the confidence to express themselves. 

If you like him that much, approach him and talk to him. 
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looks are deceiving, it doesn't mean that when someone looks at you with a serious face he hates you or wants to end a conversation so fast. sometimes it may not even be about you. He could be absent minded, or maybe he is trying to understand you in a way only he can explain. so many questions could be going through his head about you, but he cannot face you and ask. you just need to relax and play along, if he stares don;t be bothered as such, when he gets his grounding he will definitely approach you when you least expect.

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That's very weird but it happens.From my side, I think he's just attracted to you but he's trying to cover it up with his weird behavior. The best option is to let him be and don't show any concern. Maybe he's just trying to figure out a way on how he should start telling you about his feelings for you. On the other hand, there are these kind of people who like starring at things but there minds are in another world. He's probably thinking about something else whenever you find him gazing at you.

Another reason could be, maybe you are always doing some unimaginable things or he's heard some stories about you and can't believe. So every time he gazes at you,he's still shocked, how. I think the best way out is mind your own business ad let him be. If he's interested in you he'll approach but at the moment let him be.
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Yes,acting as if one doesn't even notice it,is the best.just blank him and act ignorant he or she will come around alone.
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He may like you and shy to tell to you. It is just guess. But If you get a chance to talk him in private place, do ask him directly without any hesitation to clear your doubts. 
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I am not sure if the guy is mentally stable. As I read your passage, it seems like he likes, but he cannot show it right. Moreover, you need to be careful when being with him. We can never say if he has some hidden agendas towards you.
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The best thing to do is to try and keep it reserved. Take your time and as it's said time will tell if this continues you can have the guts and ask him. From there you will know. 
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It's like a reverse psychology and quite common here in the Philippines. In fact, there  is  a song that is dedicated to it which is titled "PASULYAP-SULYAP" by Tootsie Guevara. 
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Mixed emotions. He may think you have know interest. Who are you around ? When he acts like th at! Where are you? Working at school maybe with friends. Just ask him even online may be easier. 
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That guy likes you, maybe he is just hesitating because he can't understand why did he fall in love with you. Maybe he's speechless when you're around and can't do anything but to stare at you when you're near him.
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It is difficult to say why this particular person is acting this way towards you without knowing more information. It could be that he is interested in you and is unsure how to express his feelings. It could also be that he is intimidated by you and is trying to protect himself from getting hurt. It is also possible that he is just a naturally aloof and distant person and is not intentionally trying to be cold to you. Whatever the case, it is important to remember that you do not have to confront him about his behavior if you do not want to. It is perfectly acceptable to just remain polite and friendly with him and keep your distance if that is what makes you feel most comfortable.
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It's possible that the guy might be interested in you, but is unsure of how to approach you, which is why he's acting cold and distant when you talk. However, it's also possible that he simply doesn't know how to interact with you in a friendly way, or that he's just not comfortable around you. In either case, it's important to remember that people's behavior is complex and can be influenced by many factors, so it's difficult to know for sure what's behind someone's actions.If you want to understand the situation better, you could try talking to the guy directly and expressing your concerns. Be honest and straightforward, and let him know how his behavior makes you feel. This could help to clear up any misunderstandings and can lead to a better understanding of each other.It's also important to remember that not everyone will have the same personality or interests as you, and that's okay. If the guy's behavior is making you feel uncomfortable or upset, it's okay to distance yourself from him if that's what you prefer and focus on finding people who treat you with kindness and respect.
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It's difficult to say exactly why someone might act cold but still look at you a lot, as there could be a variety of reasons for this behavior. However, some possible explanations could include:

Shyness or nervousness: If someone is interested in you but feels nervous or shy around you, they might struggle to engage with you in a warm or friendly way. However, they might still find themselves drawn to looking at you frequently as a way of admiring you from afar.

Mixed feelings: Sometimes, a person's behavior can be inconsistent if they have conflicting feelings about someone. For example, they might feel attracted to you but also be wary of getting too close, leading them to act cold at times and then warm at other times.

Social norms: Depending on the cultural or social context, some people may feel uncomfortable expressing their interest in someone openly. As a result, they might avoid being too friendly or affectionate but still try to maintain eye contact to convey their interest.

Lack of interest: It's also possible that the person is simply not interested in you romantically, and their behavior reflects this. However, they might still look at you frequently for other reasons, such as curiosity, boredom, or a desire to learn more about you as a person.

Ultimately, the best way to understand someone's behavior is to communicate with them directly and ask them about their thoughts and feelings
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No, there is no history of this kind of behavior before. It seems to be some sort of challenge or challenge of hers. He seems to be trying to win her over, or at least make her to feel small and insignificant. When she is difficult, he has a way of making you feel small and alone, as if you are the only one who matters. He is also veryIRT to her, which can make her feel insecure and alone. If you want to fix this issue, you will need to talk to him, even if he becomes angry and rude.
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Whatever the case, it is important to remember that you do not have to confront him about his behavior if you do not want to. It is perfectly acceptable to just remain polite and friendly with him and keep your distance if that is what makes you feel most comfortable.
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Once you have established someone’s baseline, you can look for some of the typical gestures people make with their eyes, outlined below. If you see one of these clues, and it is different from their baseline behavior, you know it is a red flag, and you have to dig a little deeper.

 
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He is an INTJ, search it up and learn about his personality, I act almost the same he does, and it´s not because he hates you, rather the opposite, only, guarding his feelings to not get hurt in a stupid way.
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Individuals can show a large number of ways of behaving, and somebody seeming cold while regularly seeing you could demonstrate different things. They could be modest, independent, or uncertain how to communicate their sentiments. It's essential to consider their general way of behaving and correspondence to more readily figure out their goals. On the off chance that you're keen on them, transparent correspondence can assist with explaining their sentiments and aims.
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