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Is it good to stick to your preference or ideal partner until you find him/her?
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In my opinion, if you are bent on waiting for the perfect partner to come before you get into a relationship, then you are most likely going to remain single all your life.

There is nothing like a perfect partner. 

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It could really be tiring in trying to find a partner that possess the qualities and attributes you have in mind. We all have preferences in life depending on how individual likes. And our likes could make us to wait longer than expected because we always want the best for ourselves. Sincerely, it won't be out of place for us choose to work with this mindset because if we don't things could turn out counterproductive.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong in me enduring a long wait all in the effort of trying to get the woman of my dream. I won't because of whatsoever reasons compromise the expectations I have about getting my preferred partner. I would rather wait than hasting things up impatiently to get into relationship that won't favor me. I am very much aware of delayed gratification in waiting for whatever you desire in life. It might seem it's never going to come but when it does it going to worth the time for the long waiting.
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Indeed the process may be quite tiring and someone is encouraged to keep an open mind so as to avoid mental fatigue.
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Preference like not smoking and eating vegetables are just some of the things that I would want for a person since I really can not breath when some one smokes a cigarette and that I am fond of eating vegetables. There was one of my admirer before, who really could not eat vegetables. It was not a big problem for me, but somehow, I could not ask him to eat vegetables.

But sometimes, being strict on your preference makes you not see the right person for you. Or in some cases, when that person fits to your preferences, then you would think he/she is the one but really not.

When having a preference is not bad, sticking to it too much is some what likely bad. Be open and enjoy being with some one. If you feel at home with that some one, then maybe he/she is that one for you.
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Indeed partners who avoid unhealthy acts and keep all healthy is quite the way to go whole choosing a partner.
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It is not bad to stick on your preference or ideal partner because everyone have desire and ambitions. But it become uneasy or unreasonable if one is too rigid about it. Because imperfection is a fundamental aattributes of humanity.

In light of the topic, I wish to share this short story titled "appearance" with you. There was this young lady with her dad. The both have being stating together alone, since her mom died. The father decided to remarry. They both agreed, so he brought a woman home. The daughter never liked the woman and complained about her appearance to look too flashy and promiscuous. The father adhered and decided to get a low level lady. The low level lady was accepted by the daughter and life continued. Till when the low level lady started demanding too much and eventually stole a huge sum of the father's money band ran abroad with her real husband.

In summary, nothing last forever except perseverance and contentedness. Find your desire but not to get it all in a person because perfection is only in heaven. Did I remembered to say; the madam they rejected was later there saviour?.
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No body is perfect for sure but again they should choose a person of good character so as to have a long lasting relationship.
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My question is what are the ideal parameters for measuring the perfect partner in any kind of love and romance relationship? Personally, I don't think that there is anything like a prefect partner in relationship because human beings are not even perfect within themselves, so what makes you think or believe that they are going to be perfect when they are coming out for relationship association with someone that they never knew in their lives at all?


The conclusion of the matter is that such thing as a prefect partner doesn't exist anywhere in the world and it never existed in the past times.


What you do in relationship would be to build and mold your own partner the way you want him or her to be and call the individual your prefect partner.
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The earlier we realize we are all imperfect being the better for us.Nobody will ever be perfect for anyone.The only perfect being is God and that's the only person we should expect perfection from. If we lived to have a perfect person then where is the place of tolerance, endurance and patience in a relationship. Nothing in life is ever easy not even finding a good partner.

I think the most important thing is finding someone that we are compatible with and we can live with not looking for a perfect person . It will be like looking for a needle in a haystack. I'm not advocating that we go for anyone we see but it good to take time and choose a lesser evil, one person we can love and tolerant their excesses and not waiting for a perfect being anywhere.
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Stick with the one who supports you no matter what. No ideal partner, just show who you are and he show who is he and if both were satisfied then He is the right one
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If you already have an ideal partner, what are you still searching for? I think if am not wrong,people get into relationships so that they can get an ideal partner for marriage, otherwise why are you in a relationship? When you are with that ideal partner you shouldn't be looking around for someone else so that you find that perfect person, if your still searching then you have not found what your looking for, don't call that person you are with an ideal partner because he or she is not. That is just a friend so you should stay open and say you are searching. It's like saying i have a fiancee but am looking for someone who i can take home as a wife, does that really make sense? Of course not. So my answer to your question is that don't waste someone's time when you know you will not commit your either ready or not.
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No. It's not good. when it comes to relationship, no one is perfect. But one can try to make a relationship happy and perfect. It depends on our mindset. It is not good to stick on your preference. 
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There will be no perfect relationship but most of them are the happiest. Don't look for wrongs and look for great moments tho.
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Have what is ideal for you, but sometimes the ideal does not come our way and we have to make do with what we find. You can build your relationship to the stage you want. Don't give up but be open.
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Choose someone who displays Godly characteristics not just in the good times, but in the bad times as well. Marry the person that is willing to get down on their hands and knees and intercede on your behalf when you are down in the pit. Marry the person who is going to go to war with you.
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That person who is believing in God will be granted to you if you also show interest in serving Him.
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Perfectionists never exist even Jesus recognized God as the only holy person. Hence we should not wait for the perfect partner as no human being is free from default. 
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Majority of partners nowadays are not caused by an ideal person. They love through their hearts and not their standards. Don't depend on the looks,wealth,educational attainment or whatever, If you feel something different for that person then go for it and love Him/Her.
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Yes it is good because you are following your hearts desires,bit again it is not good to stay Regid and not keep an open mind you might loose some opportunities of getting a good partner for yourself.
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yes i think so there is somebody for everyone its great that u know what u want that is a good direction to go in sometimes if u stop searching u can see clearly and it happens
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If I a person is so idealistic, he or she can wait for this ideal partner. In a real-life setting, it does not happen sometimes. But then, it is best to have the right person at the right time and place.
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But you should date someone you like or have someone that shares the same feelings. Alot of people just fate because they want to be with someone or they are just after their money. 
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It is a gamble either way, and the odds are not in your favor. If you wait, odds are 75% against you that you will ever find someone that meets all your requirements, and should you do, the odds are even worse that you will meet all his/her requirements. If you settle for someone, the odds are like 15% you will meet your ideal mate, and be unable to do anything about it. So if you are playing the odds, not waiting for your ideal partner seems the best bet, but there is risk either way.


My advice is to take a honest assessment of yourself, and what you bring to the table. If you are a '6' on a scale of '10', don't aim higher than a '7'. If you are a '9' on a scale of '10', don't accept lower than a '8'. The operative word is honest. Way too many egotists inflate their market value, which cause them to aim too high, and end up alone.

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Ideal partners value the other's interests separate from their own. Choosing a good partner can have a major impact on your well-being. Find someone who can connect easily, shares a lot of common interests,s and respect each other.
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I believe in judging a person's personality above everything else. Sometimes we focus on a lot of things that end up not mattering in the end. You will be looking for someone tall, with muscles and a cute smile. You get that but he treats you like garbage. But you stick with him because he's what you want physically. First and foremost never compromise on how a man treats you, ideal look or not, because if you end up spending you whole life with him, those ideal looks will fade and you will be left with a man that respects you, treats you like a queen and adores you rather than faded looks and crappy behaviour. Choose wisely. 
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If you are looking for the partner that will posses all the qualities and features you want then you will wait forever, love, money and true friends are things you should not look for.
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It can be good to stick to your preference or ideal partner until you find them, but it is important to recognize that finding a partner is a process, and you may have to compromise on certain things in order to find someone who is a good fit. It is also important to stay open-minded and be willing to consider people who may not fit your exact ideal, as you may be pleasantly surprised.
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