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How long should I wait to hear an Yes from the girl I love?
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It is really depend on a woman you are courting with. Maybe sooner or later than you expected.
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Just find the way to her heart and make her extremely happy. 

As long as she loves you back, she will definitely say yes. 

Good luck mate. 

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I don't think there's a defined or predetermined length of time or amount of effort necessary for a girl to give you a yes.

From a woman's perspective, though, we don't say yes immediately, as we want to make sure that we are making the right decision. Being in a relationship is a serious thing; hence, no one should engage in it halfheartedly. If a woman sees that you have genuine intention, and that she's really into you, then she will say yes even if you think you haven't given your best effort yet.

If you are asking this because you are getting mixed signals. I think both of you should talk things over and decide whether there's really a chance that you can take that friendship into a higher level. Because if what you want isn't what she wants then that's the time for you to make a choice whether you will pursue her further or you will stop. If she tells you to wait, it's still your call to decide.

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The yes is normally like expensive oil poured from a jar. In order for a lady to give it, she has to see your worthy. She should know if you are financially, emotionally and physically ready.
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7 years just like Jacob in the bible Lol just kidding though.But seriously what  kind of work are you referring to,because I know love is about two people and everyone involved should work at it. Why work alone and wait for a yes,this is more of a Boss and employee kind of relationship and not love.

I always say that love is like a partnership where all partners involved work at it from the very beginning to have a solid foundation. The two involved will always discuss their plans,aspirations, visions, dreams and all of that together before any proposal.

Don't be shocked when you propose she says No, because it might be you were the only person in the relationship and she wasn't part of all the plans.So to get the sweet Yes you should first strike a balance, define the relationship and leave everything open for deliberation.Duration should be how ready you are so take your time to get it right first.
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Wo 7 years hehe, that is treay true love if a man can wait. But  if a man really love the woman he can wait no matter how long it is.
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Wow, 7 years hehe, that is really true love if a man can wait. But  if a man really love the woman he can wait no matter how long it is.
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Good advice here. It takes two people to tangle. They should both work at the relationship. I think that way, the consent may come more quickly
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I have learnt from experience that you can never get the direct sweet yes from a girl if you are waiting for it. The more you keep expecting her to tell you yes the more it becomes impossible for her to do so. Girls are not wired like that.

The best way to tell if a girl is down with you is for you to get your perceptive abilities in intact, so that whenever she is giving you the much anticipated green light, you can from there discern that she is reciprocating how you feel about her. This could be from her gaze; generally are body language will give her away.
Love is like a perfume, its fragrance scent can't be concealed no matter how hard one tries except it's not there. It's now you responsibility to grasp it presence in the eyes of the girl you are wooing.
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One should be quick and witty to read the signs and cash out on them. From the lady's actions one can tell if the time is right to go on one knee and ask the one million dollar question, will you marry me?'
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Am guilty i must confess. Guilty of what you might ask? Well, you asked how long to work and wait in anticipation of that "yes" you so desire to hear from someone you"re willing to give your commitment, emotionally, right?

Those weren't the exact words you used, but it is at least exactly the way i felt before putting in two years in the pursuit of love, that was my first relationship and gosh! I was in love. It didn't matter the amount of effort and how long it took for her to come around the idea, all that was of concern to me was getting that opportunity to continually express my undying love for her. Unfortunately, it ended a while ago. I still have some certain amount of feelings for her in a way a brother does even though we're continents apart.

Just like @greencrayon stated below, there's no defined or predetermined length of time expected of a person to put in effort in the pursuance of the one they love. It is of your personality. Regardless of their feelings, some folks lack the patience, some have egos and some might just have a certain feeling of embarrassment everytime they get turned down. It is only normal for people of such personality to back down in such situations.

Anyways, love is not a feeling that sparks at first contact, it is a process, an act of true emotional expression that needs to be found, built from within the heart, nurtured and maintained in the best way possible. In saying so, time shouldn't in anyway stand as a draw back when seeking a yes from that person who grips your heart as feelings grow stronger by each passing moment.

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There is nothing as magical as love. You understand each other even without words. You will know the right time and she will know too.
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The more you wait, the more waiting game will happen. Why not give her the best of your love and you might get the Yes that you never expected. You need to work hard. What kind of Yes, or for what reason she will be saying Yes to you? Is this a proposal of marriage or being her boyfriend, or something like a date? It should always work when you are still making her feel like a princess. Girls loves to be pampered and if we always have your attention we are always happy. Make your girls happy first. Be the reason of her smile. Do not give her the reason to say NO. Not a single reason if I were you. Girls are easy to change their mind. Sometimes even if she said Yes already, she will just turn you down and reject you for the reason that she realized she is not ready at all. It is hard but we should respect her decision.
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From my experience with woman, I can very well tell you that they are the most complicated human beings ever. When you think that you have mastered them very well in order to exploit the relationship to your advantage, they would turn in a split second to surprise you with how they change immediately.
But don't get me wrong, they are very easy to get when you have the keys to their tender heart. All you need to do would be try as much as possible to discover what makes your woman feel happy always and keep doing it on a daily basis without any compromise or asking for something or anything in return and believe me when I tell you that in no distant time, she would say yes to any manner of proposal that you might have for her because they always like being happy.
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By "waiting and working", you mean asking how long you should woo a woman before she finally says yes right? You should know by now that people are wired differently. It really on normal circumstances, doesn't take long before you realize when a lady is interested in you. At the least, then you'd know that there's something worth waiting for.

It is the same way that you can tell when someone isn't in the least way interested in you. If you try to be convincing and it isn't yielding, you know best than to hold on.
In my opinion, the green light a woman gives you tells you that you can still hold on much longer and pursue your love. Since it is usually positive in the end. However, if you notice hesitation, do not be too positive about the outcome.
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I agree, if you love the girl then keep waiting for her answer. Just always stay by her side and let you he closer and prove her that you can wait for her
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This will really depend on your age. Different people get married according to their age, or their maturity. when you are ready to marry there is no saying whether it is the right time or not, you just go for it. You know when you are in your early twenties there is really no rush to get your girl to say yes, because you are in your learning yeras, maybe she wants to work on her degree so you give yourselves that time to pursue your careers. when you get to your late twenties then you can start being serious about the relationship, talk about marriage stuff, and what you want to achieve by what age, Look at each other's dreams and aspirations and work together through them. It's only through that, that you will know wheteher you are ready or not. you can wait for one or two years, or even three months that entirely depends on you as a person and where you are AT in your life. no one can make that decision for you. COMMUNICATE YOUR INTENTIONS TO HER DON'T LET HER GUESS.
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Love they say is chemistry so as long as there is that chemistry between the two of you, and as long you keep being your best to her, for example checking on her, sending her gifts, talking to her, motivating her, those actions registers in her mind. Marriage comes with responsibilities so you must be ready and proof to her you are ready both mentally, financially and emotionally.
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It depends. There is love at first sight and you will get your yes Immediately. In others you may take years. Circumstances may either shorten or prolong. There are those still studying. There are those whose hearts were broken and may take time to consent.
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Time may tell if you're really meant to be and be sure to that girl if you truly love her before asking that word
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It depends on the depth of your love. If you feel like you won't live with her then you should wait for her. Make sure she is not in love with another guy. 
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Just show yours as you are. She will steadily respond your love if she like who you are. Meanwhile, if in 2 or three months she didn't give any signal yet, she doesn't like your real personality.
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Be confident to show the real you, in that way you can make her like you if she saw something that she's looking for
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It depends with the way and how long you think the courtship should take place. Also it depends on whether you both have plans for taking the relationship to the next step. 
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It depends on her expectations and your patience.

If you truly love her then your patience will be high but practically even after waiting for long the chances that she will accept you are still low.

If you know her expectations and if you fit into that or you achieve that then you just need to approach her through a proper channel and way.

Think about it.
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There is really no exact answer for this one; anytime could be a perfect time. Just need to consider that this will definitely depend on the woman of your dream, if she is already willing to settle. Also, asking her is basically the best choice just pick a moment that you are comfortable and anything is settled so that you will get it.
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Yes there's no perfect time. But if you feel something that she may answer your courtship then go for it
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We all have different woman in our lives, different character and different feelings. We may ask her "Yes" if we are responsible enough to our commitment with her, not only by sweet words they hear from us or the gifts we gave. Ask her if you are sincere and ready to face the world with her
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Courtship should be based on the ages and level of understanding, be direct and honest, and tell your attention. If you love that girl, you are willing to wait, if you want to pursue your love for her.
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It's not productive to think about how long you should wait for a response from someone you love. The best thing you can do is to be honest with your feelings and let the other person know how you feel. If they love you too, they will likely respond in a positive way. However, it's important to respect the other person's feelings and boundaries, and to be patient and understanding if they need time to think about their own feelings. It's also important to remember that love is not a competition and that it's not about "winning" or "getting" someone to love you. It's about forming a mutual
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You need to cool down. Get to know this woman. Be sure she has the characteristics you want in a partner. Be sure she is in it for the long haul. Talk to her. Divorce is just too easy if you should marry her and then down the line find she isn't what you wanted after all. Give it some time and I think you will be happy that you did.
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The answer to this question is impossible to answer as every situation is different. The amount of time you should wait to hear a yes from the girl you love depends on the dynamics of your relationship, the level of commitment you both have, and how she feels about you. Ultimately, it is up to the two of you to decide how long you should wait to hear her answer.
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