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Should I give up if a girl say stop?
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I can share with experience that it's so very tough but we should move on. No benefit in convincing A Girl who is no more interested in you. 
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Personally, I have learnt that once a girl tells you that it's over, don't waste your time trying to win her back. Simply ignore her and move on with your life. 
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Yes, once a woman says no, you have to repect that. Ypu cannot insist a person if she don't want to.

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Like I said before, only two people can make a relationship work. If her heart isn't in it then you'd be in a relationship with yourself. If she says no, she probably doesn't love you anymore. The best way for couples to solve their problems is communication. Before you give up, have a good talk with her. She might just be upset about something. Sort whatever reconcilable differences. while doing that, we need to know the difference between fighting for love and begging for love.
If she's still adamant and she wants to let go. Don't force it, respect her feelings and move on. You are probably not the right one for her and holding on for longer might hurt you because she'll never offer you the love that you deserve. Sometimes the things we want aren't things we really need.
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This is very simple you can't force love and this is just the truth.I wonder what a courtship looks like with the other partner not bulging and never want to be with you.

The same way people are not willing to do anything they are not comfortable with,it the same way it will be in a relationship no matter how emotional one can be.

Instead of one wasting time on relationship that will go no way ,why don't one just get the message even from the lady's body language to quit, the signs would always be there is just that people always want to turn a blind eye.

Summary is it wouldn't augur well trying to force a horse  to drink water. The girl say I'm no longer in a courtship with you,no beating  around the Bush so just back off.
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The first paragraph says it all. Never force love because it will be more painful if didnt took seriously
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Yes. You stop being the person who expects something in return. You cannot force her to love you or to feel the same way if she really doesn't. After you have made your feelings known then you can either stay by her side or leave her be, and these entirely depend on you. If you choose to stay, it should not be as if you are imposing yourself. Be there for her, but as I said, do it because it pleases you and not because you want her to do the same. On the other hand, if you choose to leave, I think it'd be best to explain it to her because as much as it is hard for you, I think the decision to reject your feelings has also been tough for her.

Bottom line is you need to talk things through, as this will lessen the conflict and resolve any misunderstandings.
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Agree to stay with her but don't expect in return anymore. But to avoid pain, let her go
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When a girl says stop and she really means it then you should stop, it is so hard to change her mind if you know that she has made a firm decision. You can know that she has made a final decision if the relationship ended after giving you a good reason for example she cannot put up with you cheating or she does not love you anymore and has moved on with someone else.
On the other hand, do not give up on her just because you had a quarrell and she said stop while you were fighting. Chances are that she made a rush decision and she will regret later and ask for forgiveness. When this happens, give her time to get over her anger before you can solve the issue together. Also, speaking as a lady, I sometimes pretend to end things with a guy just to see how serious they are with me. A non serious guy will walk away without caring while a serious guy will be closer trying to dig out the reason for a breakup and sometimes apologize for nothing. So before stopping, find out the reason and be more caring, maybe she is just testing you.
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To be honest, it really depends if the girl like you. If the girl like you, when she said stop courting her, it means a challenge. If she said that, you can rest for a while but find the right timing to open your heart for her again and court her again. Just do it slowly. If the girl doesn't like you, then you should stop. She will be very irritable once you keep on insisting. Different girls have different attitude. If she is no longer replying to your messages or when you see in person and she doesn't notice you or pretend to not notice you, then she is giving you the cold shoulder and it means you should really stop courting her. Some girls knows already if whatever that is happening between you have a future. Of course, no one wants a time to waste so we all need to do a decision.
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There are trying times in every relationship,  sometimes a lady might just try to test your faith and level of commitment to the relationship you both keep.  If you are very sensitive you will know the difference between when. she test you  and when she is mean. That is why communication and love language is necessary in every relationship. You sensitivity will help  you judge the situation as to whether you should quit or call for reconciliation.
The believe that there is " a better replacement provided you are just" should always be your watch word. If you discover the interest of building the relationship together with you is not longer in her , don't press harder,  respect her feelings and part away quietly, humbly and decently from her.
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Obviously, it won't be an ideal thing to do to just chicken out if a girl resists your advances in trying to woo her for yourself. I know it takes two tangle but one thing is certain here since you're attempting to make her yours, you don't have to quit on her like that without making her feel valuable and desirable.

I've come to discovered an important secret about the female folks that they like being chased by the males. They see it as the only way you can take them as expensive somebody, and not as cheap as a street hooker.

My advise to you is don't relent in going after her. If you like her and you feel there's reason for her to reciprocate your love for her, then keep at it. Be patient with her, don't try to rush things up with her, that might chase her away. Show her how much you care about her by being gentle and chivalrous towards her.
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Yes you should give up on her. She is basically telling you that she wants to break up. If the girl doesn't love you anymore, why beat yourself up over it. Just get over her and move on to another girl you fancy. I say do a complete break. Don't call or text her unless she initiates. If she was the one she wouldn't be second guessing your relationship with her. If you still love her but she doesn't love you then it's a unhealthy relationship still and you should get over her. You can't force a relationship that fizzled out over time, just try again with a new girl. Work on yourself, do hobbies, activities that you like to do with your friends. Meet more people of the opposite sex and you might find yourself being attracted to one of those friends.
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Sincerely, I can't say you should just give up but you should first seek God's guidance over your relationship affairs. Some things doesn't last not because they are totally bad. But because there is a better purpose in your life. I understand your pain and I trust to know how it feels. I was once in same shoe, when the lady I was dating actually said same thing; on that very day, I became shocked and disbalanced. We actually met sometimes around 2008 and love started and trust me, it was fun that I never want to miss a moment. Suddenly she started giving attitudes and distance, I tried to check but she always refused me, did I remembered to tell you I was actually into a relationship before I met her. And I had to plead with the first girl I was with to let me go since she was not actually serious with me then. So it working fine with us, till she started acting.
As at when she told me she want to quit, 8 thought I could still buy her heart back.but I forgot that "no woman quits for no reason, its because she get new guy". All my efforts and prayers were in vain. I later gave up.

Few years after then, she got admission into my school and she started hearing my name everywhere for good.  Then she started by sending text requesting to see me. We met but by then I was already into a better relationship relationship. She started feeling jekouse and bad about her past. I encouraged hher to move on. It was until this time that I knew what God actually took away from my life in the past which might be being my forever regret till today..

So, if you try your best and it didn't yield, please let her go.
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Seriously, to love and be loved back exactly the same way is very hard to get and if you are very lucky to have someone love you back the exact same way you loves the person, then you are absolutely blessed.
Now, it's very wrong to try and force your love on anyone for any reason whatsoever, it's never the right thing to do and on the long run, that forced love would turn out to have you exhausted and completely disappointed even when it means that you have already courted the particular girl for so long, the moment she opens up and tell you that it's over, I would advise you to do the following things before making up your mind that the relationship is over.
Try as much as possible to find out the reason why she wanted to end the relationship, if it's your fault, try and correct it but if you can't, learn to accept it and move on.
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Never try to force anyone to love you leave alone like you. That is one of the biggest or worst mistake you would have done when it comes to relationships. Love is something that comes naturally, and if it doesn't, then it's automatically not meant to be. i have seen in instances where people have done things or schemed just so that they can have the person they claim to love to themselves. That is just wrong, what are you really trying to achieve? anyway if you profess your love to someone, and they do not respond back to you the way you anticipated or expected, just let it go. if you push it further you are likely to be the one to suffer the consequences later. getting hurt is not really a good option when you can avoid it. denial will not stop you from living, life still goes on and there are many people out there who are also looking for love you will always find another person who will make you happy.
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When a lady says stop, then respect her feelings. You step down to friendship zone. When you do this it shows you respect her, and on a second thought she may consider you. 
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Yes you should stop. Learn to accept loss because that is a good trait to have. How you may able to find a worthy woman if you don't respect other's decision? We cannot insist a woman to love us if we cannot honor her decision? sorry for the answer
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I am sorry to hear this. If the woman said it sincerely and seriously, we need to stop the idea of courting her. Sometimes women are bluffing us not to figure out real their real feelings towards men.
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It's important to respect other people's boundaries and wishes. If the girl you're courting has told you to stop, it's important to listen to her and respect her wishes. It's not healthy or appropriate to pursue someone who has clearly indicated that they are not interested. It's better to move on and find someone who is open to being courted by you. It's also important to consider whether your actions and behaviors may have caused the person to feel uncomfortable or unsafe, and to take steps to change those behaviors in the future.
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No, you should not give up if a girl says stop. You should respect her wishes, but also respect yourself. Talk to her and try to find out why she said stop and if there is a way to resolve the issue and move forward with the relationship.
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It's important to respect your decision and see what the girl's opinion will be. If she feels happy and content with her decision, then you may want to keep going. If not, then you can give up.
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Never force love or courtship at any given time once someone has told you to stop it means she has lost faith in you and she doesn't want you anymore 
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Before you give up, have a good talk with her. She might just be upset about something. Sort whatever reconcilable differences. while doing that, we need to know the difference between fighting for love and begging for love.

If she's still adamant and she wants to let go. Don't force it, respect her feelings and move on. You are probably not the right one for her and holding on for longer might hurt you because she'll never offer you the love that you deserve.
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Well in this situation I will say if the girl says no and you know within yourself that you really love that what you have to do is for you to at least try to understand what her reason is does it means that she doesn't love you or just try knowing what the problem is and within the two of you should sort it out.
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