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Yes, when we love it is expected that we got to get hurt. It's part of it, it is true too that the person we love the most is the one who will hurt us more.
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I once read a phrase that said "If you love something, set it free.  If it comes back, it's yours.  If not, it never was.  author unknown.  I have let 3 boyfriends go.  The 3 never came back.  I am so tired of looking for the "one".  Men are either gay or married.  
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If being hurt by loving someone, you need to give time to heal than being hurt. It is up to you when the feeling will stop the bad feeling. The best part is to love yourself first before sharing your love with others.
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That's wonderful.

Love is not a bed of roses just as many things in life.

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I remember the time that I was in a situation that hurt me so much but I just could not find a way out. I knew no God at that time. I lost my mind, frankly. I knew myself as somehow being able to plan ahead of time. Things used to flow to mind easily, that if I do this or not, this will happen. But that time of my life, I was really clueless about the road I was in.
Then time came, that i went to God. I asked for forgiveness and asked if he could save me. I was suicidal that time. Few months later, I started to have hope. I was able to go away from that suffering. And later realized that you have to respect yourself first, before you can be able to live again. If you feel hurt, there is something wrong. We are human, God created us with emotions so that we may feel if we are in danger or not. If you feel hurt, this is not the right time for you. You will feel exhausted and just do whatever that is gives you instant gratifications, even though later you will feel hurt. Just give your self a time to listen to God, and a time for you to self heal. After that, if you are still willing to love and trust again, go for it. Anyways, with love, you will still feel hurt. It is just normal, but not to the point that it is all hurt and less love.
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God will show you the right person so if you're hurt because of what happened in your past then ask Him to guide you to the right one
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That's nice.


Nobody is perfect in this world and that's why we love and get hurt but we forgive and we get healed.
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Love hurts because of our expectations. True love should be unconditional. Rejection or betrayal in love hurts a lot and you almost lost faith in love. But remember that love is not just an emotion. Love is our very existence. Can you imagine a life without love? Don't invest your emotions so much that you get scarred for life. But at the same time, do not hold yourself back from loving. I believe in the law of attraction. Whatever you give to the universe, returns manyfold. If you give love, love will flow back in your life in some form or the other. Don't get stuck with a person. Let him/her go. Go with the flow. The one who is destined for you will come in your life sooner or later. Be loving and in gratitude for all that you are blessed with.
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That's a beautiful advice.

True love is indeed unconditional.

Because of that, we should not count the wrongs that people do us.
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Why would anyone subject his or her self to such abuse. How can love and hurt be in the same sentence let alone allowed to happen in real life. How do one love when the person you love is hurting you.

Well,I have always believed in the biblical definition of love and that's has always been my standard for love.The Bible records that love never hurt,love looks out for the good of one another and to a very large extent anything that doesn't resembles and dwell on this  can never be love.

I think the problem most people have is getting into all sorts of hook ups and terms it relationship and love.I think the bible standard for love is what should be followed and we will really know when we are deluding our selves and get out fast from any self killing relationship.
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Love someone when you're ready and not only just for flirting. The real love ended with marriage
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That's true. True love does not hurt.

People have different views on what love means to them.
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YES. If I got your question right, then I think you are referring to the kind of hurt you experience when the love you are giving was not reciprocated by the person to whom you gave it to. I do think that love is a risk, and that no one has ever loved and has never been hurt in the course of it. No relationship is perfect, and no two people are 100% compatible. Hence, there will come a time when you will be hurt by the arguments, the decisions, and the demands and expectations brought about by being in a relationship. I think it is high time we stop feeding ourselves with the ideal kind of love and start looking at real life scenarios. There will always be heartbreaks. There will always be compromises. But what matters most is how you use these things as basis of your growth.

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Exes were just part of your process. When you already achieved the lessons that you must learn and now fully grown up, God will make a way for you to love someone you deserve 
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Love is something pure, beautiful and natural. Love shouldn't be the reason why you are constantly hurting. That isn't love. That is unhealthy and damaging to you. Love is unconditional and it brings out the best in you. You are slowing sucking yourself deep into a hole whene you hold on to such love.
Everyone needs to be loved right and when you always hurt instead of getting back the love you deserve, it is time to pack up and leave. That is not the way the universe works. Leave so that you can still be able to love someone again before you hurt yourself way beyond.
Learn to love and respect yourself first. When you equip yourself like that, the right people for you will definitely find their way like a magnetic attraction to you.
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Just like in your dreams, you may not achieve it today if you haven't worked yesterday, same as love. It will come when your hardships is done
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Love shouldn't hurt. If you're hurting right now, that's not love anymore. You are hurting because you are expecting too much from the other person. And if you truly love, if what you feel is really love, there shouldn't be any expectations set from the other person. Because love should be unconditional. I am not a religious person but i think i now get why they say "God is love" or "those who have known God, knows how to love". According to the bible, God loves us unconditionally, and even if we didn't reciprocate His feelings, He still gave His only son to pay for our sins.
I know it's a little too much to quote scripture but if you think about it, it does make sense.

There was one time my roommate and I were talking about boys and then she told me about her one great love. It made me realize what true love is.
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Against all odds you just have to keep loving whether in good times or in bad times. Love shouldn't be something you place a condition on because if you do so it means it was never a genuine love. There's ambivalent side to love whereby sometimes you feel hurt by it while other times you're joyous about it.

More importantly, love has been wrongly be interpreted especially in this present age we are in. Look around you, you would see many people selling out due to false claim to materialism and lust, all in the name of love. Their primary motives of going into relationship from the onset has already be predefined. That's why they keep getting the unexpected from it. But once you're not the fair weather love seeker, you would be more passionate and enthusiastic about it regardless whether you are hurt or not.

As for your case, try to look for those things that are hurting in your own kind of love and see if they're as a result of fake love. If you figure out they are not stick to the relationship but if they are, work out of it because sooner or later it going to wear you out to the point you would be left hot and dry.
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Yes, you need to continue trusting hoping that he'll change one day. Quitting can never be an option unless you've really endured the person for long and he's reluctant and he's threatening your life.  Not all relationships will be perfect all along although they might have started well.  Or maybe the person is suffering from some stress which makes him hurting as means of reducing the stress. I have seen ladies endure such a circumstance but in the run get what they've always yearned for.

On the contrary, if you've waited for long for the person to change and you're not seeing  any future with him, then the only way out is to quit such a relationship because you'll be losing your own time. But before quitting, make him aware that you're quitting.
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Yes of course because even though you are hurting now, perhaps because someone has betrayed your trust, not every relationship is the same. After my first love went off with another woman I thought I would never be happy again but many years on he is forgotten and I am with someone I trust implicitly.

Once you have recovered from the pain you will be able to move on and meet someone who will treat you as you deserve to be treated. You might find it hard to love again at first but if this person is right for you he will be able to reassure you that he will not hurt you in the same way. However, if you are still in a relationship with someone who continues to hurt you perhaps you should think about whether this person is right for you,

Emotional pain is something most of experience in our lifetime, it's devastating and it takes some time to recover but don't give up because not everyone is the same and eventually you will meet the person who is right for you,
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Part of loving is hurting. If you will not hurt, you will not appreciate true love. If true love doesn't come in your life, then you will not be really happy, you cannot compare the love you will have again and you will not have a long relationship because you keep on jumping and jumping on a new relationship until you thought, you found one. For me, yes, you need to continue loving even it is the reason of hurting because it makes you a better person. Mistakes, problems and challenges in a relationship makes you a better person, suited to the right person you are having in the future. Hurting means you need to change your ways, you need to adjust your decisions and attitudes and you need to accept that there is no perfect love in the world. Those love that are more challenged and painful are mostly true love.
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No, it is better to focus on the people that wants to focus on you.
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There is a story of a young man who dall in love with a sicking lady on campus. He made his intentions kknown to her but she declined with the believe tthat no man will love her genuinely wwith her predicament. But the guy insisted, so they decided to give it a try. One day while they were both gisting. The lady had a usual attack and it was not funny. So the guy was advice by her friends to pee on her head. He did and she got back but with much disappointment tthat the guy had to witness the disgusting tthing.
They decided to seek orthodox medicine and the conditions were critical but not detailed to the guy, he was only told he will have to marry sacrifice if he truly love her. He aggreied and took all the sacrifises. Later after then, he lost his mom and his two legs as prices to pay by the orthodox doctor. All he was hoping is to still have the lady as his own. But guess what!

She abandoned him and left for a rich guy who just return from abroad. The guy was sad and lost faith in Gid and love.he started drinking aall sort of alcohol and the lady got married with the rich guy. Her mother was in full support.

One day, the guy felt bad and went back to the native doctor to help him win her back.and the man said the only condition isvti return the sickness back to her. The guy didn't want it but he still want her. Knowing fully that once the sickness is back she will search for him. Within that period the one keg guy found another woman who so much love him.

The native doctor returned the sickness and the abroad guy couldn't cope with his wife. So he decided to divorse  her . she started looking for the one leg guy again. But before she could find him. He was already married with a more loving spouse. And did I forget to mention that he already threw away the antidote to cure the Lady in a deep river because the doctor ggave it to him. You can see that, love hurts and conditions might seems tough, but atvtge end; loce still found the guy.
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Love is an unconditional affection that exists between two people or more, however love is positive and interesting naturally when it is true and genuine.
The moment you are hurt then love is gradually drifting to be negative and when it continues it leads to hatred.
Love is naturally unconditional but the moment you are getting hurt in it every day,  it will definitely be affecting you physically,  mentally and emotionally which is very dangerous, in this case it is better you call your partner to settle things with him or her.  It is even understandable if both partners are being hurt because such situations can be settled amicably through intervention but if is one sided honestly it has serious psychological implications that requires intervention and if it can work it better to quit so that you can have a focus, definitely there will be pain but over time you get over it instead of getting hurt daily without the end date.
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Now, the question is why would the love which you are into be causing you so much hurt? Are you sure that you are in love with the right person? Are you sure your lover doesn't value your relationship with him or her? There are so many questions that you need to ask yourself and once you have come up with reasonable answers to all of them, then I'm very certain that you would be able to discern whether that love affair or relationship is worth your still being in it or not, then you can easily make your decision.


It's true that relationships always have its ups and downs. It's not a always a joyous ride because there are bound to be frictions somewhere along the way but it wouldn't be 90% unsteady association and 10% loving moment. When you both don't coexist well, it's better to call off the relationship.
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Each loving experience should teach you one lesson or the other. This is a process that we have all gone through and it's something that I don't feel that it is cool for us to keep pushing on. I have lived my life at that stage where I was hurt because of love and that made me to start understanding things in life.

I am always of the opinion that when we love, we should do it with our head and not with the heart. When you love with your head (logic),  you will always see signs that you are going to be hurt and as such, you take the necessary precautions to ensure that you stay clear. I believe also that anyone that is falling in love should understand that there is need for them to take the good and the bad that comes with it. In most cases, love is never bed of roses.
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Oh where to begin? I do believe you should never give up on love. As Much as it may hurt at times, I do believe its worth believing in. I for one would never dream of giving up on finding love. It may seem impossible due to some circumstances, but still its gonna be the beat rewarding feeling when you finally get it right. And like you said, the person who you love the most is the one that probably hurts you the most. It's also a fact that the more you love the more likely you are to get hurt. Buy I don't think that should be a reason for us to give up on love. And believe me when I say, just when you are about to give up, that's mostly when you are almost to the finishing line. So don't you ever give up on love no matter how much it hurts today.  I know I ain't.
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This depends on where you really are in love at the moment. We normally say Love is a tricky affair. At times we feel like we really know what love is about, but the truth is, we don't know half of what it entails, we are always surprising ourselves with stuff that comes up every so often, and we do not know how to deal with it. To answer your question, whether or not we trust love, there will always be a disappointment, where one party will be rejoicing while the other party hurts, that's just the truth about love. We can never be sure what to expect. I can tell you, continue to trust love and it will surely show you the mistakes you made and how to correct them in the long run. be open minded, and learn to deal with the disappointments. You cannot stop trusting because your hurting, that's part of loving, you hurt from one person and learn to love another and that keeps going on and on until you are mature enough to understand and accept that it is part of life.
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The person we love most is the person who hurts most. If it hurts you continuously without any solution, then get out from your relationship. If you continue, it will affect your mental health.
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Love they say is blind, to me one has to keep trying till he/she finds the right love, if it does not work now, it does not mean it does not exist. Also sometimes the best is preserved the last, after going through several heart breaks, finally the best will turn up. 
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The reason people stay in hurtful relationships is our belief in what we call "unconditional love." People often asks what unconditional love means, unsure whether we still have to love someone if they hurt us because we can't attach conditions to love such as refusing to tolerate abuse.
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Love is patient, endures and also its the cause of our hurting most of the time. You should love and also remember to have self love for yourself. 
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