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Im 14 yo boy and i have a sympathy, a girl same age as me, and she is like a lil bit famous(about 2000 followers on instagram) and she knows me and we were friends but we are not in so good relationship anymore... I dont see her every day and its about 6 months since i met her and im cant find any other sympathy... She changed since then 2 bf... I dont talk to people too much so I dont have any special social skills to find new one...
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I think the best thing you can do is work on building your social skills and confidence. If you don't feel comfortable talking to people, start small. Talk to your family, friends, and classmates. Ask them questions, make small talk, and try to be more personable. Then, once you start to feel more confident and comfortable, you can start talking to girls that you find attractive. 

If you don't want to focus on finding a new girlfriend right away, you can also work on building new hobbies, interests, and skills. This can help give you something to talk about and make you feel more confident when talking to new people. 

Finally, if you still want to stay in touch with your old crush, it's totally fine. However, try to focus on improving yourself first, and then see if things can go back to how they were before.
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I think the best way for you to start finding a new sympathy is to start talking to more people. Start by introducing yourself to people in your classes or in your neighbourhood. Ask them questions about themselves, and be genuinely interested in learning more about them. Talk about your interests and hobbies. This will help you to build friendships and relationships with people. 

You should also try to get involved in activities and clubs in your school or in your community that you are interested in. This will give you the opportunity to meet new people who share the same interests as you. 

Finally, don't be afraid to put yourself out there and take some risks. Don't be afraid to ask people out and don't be afraid to be rejected. Over time, you will become more comfortable in social situations and will be able to find someone special.

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At 14 years old, worrying about finding the right girl should be the least of your worries. You have much growing up to do yet. Finding the right girl to love and to spend the right of your life with just isn't going to happen at just 14 years of age. Enjoy school, be with your friends, spend time with you family. A girl will come along in the future when you are old enough.
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I agree, teenagers nowadays should prioritize their studies and not finding a girl.
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As you said, he had more time to find a right girl. It's age is to study and enjoy with friends.
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He is a very young boy and has so much to enjoy in life as compared to having to worry about having a girlfriend. In fact me at that age I didn't know anything about relationships that is having a boyfriend. 
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At the age of 14 you're really young and you need to focus on your life.I bet you're a student just shape your life first,you still have 4 more years and you can freely engage bin relationships.

Make hay while the sun shines,you're a student,focus on your school work and ensure you performe well in your academics. There's time for everything and the Bible is very clear with that.
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He should focus more on his academics, that is well said. There comes a time for that but of now, he's still a teenager and should have time to be doing other things. 
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You are very young to worry about finding a girlfriend right now. As a teenager, your life will change so much in the next few years. It is best to enjoy it while you can Because later on life can get very complicated and you'll find yourself in all kinds of different relationships during this time. For now, hang out with your friend, go places, meet new friends, play sports, and hopefully travel if you can. Because once you're out of school, you won't have much time to enjoy all the simple things in life like now. You'll be off to college, then getting a job, and hopefully getting married and having a family. You still have plenty of time in your life right now to find the right girl to be with. If this girl has had 2 other boyfriends after you, then she isn't the right girl for you. You will meet a nice girl soon and you'd be surprised because you won't be looking for her, but she will just appear. Have fun and enjoy your life while you can.
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Good advise. It's the right age to study and enjoy with the friends. Thanks for your answer.
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I'm sorry you are feel down about this girl but you are very young and even though you think she is the only one for you someone else will come along, someone more suitable for you, and love you in that special way.

I think when we are in our teens we all fall in love with people we can't have, it's normal, and although it is painful at the time you will find that it hasn't worked out because there is someone better for you waiting round the corner. I remember when I was school being obsessed with a boy in my class but he never looked at me and that made me so sad. Later on I got talking to another boy who liked me for who I am.

Even though you are not interested in anyone else at the moment you will move on and find someone else, someone who thinks you are special and only has eyes for you.. Just be a little patient,
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Come on. You are just 14 Years old. In this age, you should enjoy your school life. Concentrate on studies and enjoy with friends. You have more and more time to find a right girl.
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At your age of 14 you are still young and Ned to grow. You have so much to explore as a young star. You need to find more friends, enhance your skills be it writing, soccer, swimming and all shall be well. As time goes by that is years you will have grown and the right girl will come. It is the least of your worries for now. 
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What i would say is that your focus and attention have been stolen by that girl so don't let it happen again, forget her and focus on your studies, you are too young to think about relationship.
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One suggestion is to start talking to other people more. Try to join a club or group that interests you, or find a hobby that you enjoy and start talking to people who have similar interests. Also, practice talking to people in everyday life, such as classmates, friends, or family members. This will help you get more comfortable with talking to people and make it easier to find a new sympathy. Good luck!
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If you don't want to focus on finding a new girlfriend right away, you can also work on building new hobbies, interests, and skills. This can help give you something to talk about and make you feel more confident when talking to new people. 

Finally, if you still want to stay in touch with your old crush, it's totally fine. However, try to focus on improving yourself first, and then see if things can go back to how they were before.
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