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I thought becoming a parent is easy but as time passes by, it isn't.

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I always thought so too until I started having them and I appreciate our parents more now for holding it down with all our mischievous and stubborn behaviour.

From my experience the first thing is to be friends with your kids, I realize that I get more words from them when we are in the playing mood and I get to know what they did previously and what they will be up ,one just have to move ahead of them to stop any activity they have in their little heads that might not be right.

Improve on both relationship and life skills.This will help one to understand the kids better and see things from their own perspective too.

Dump comparing them with others instead develop their innate abilities and help them be unique and creative. That way you will showing smartness.
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Thanks Jerry, such nice tips from you. My daughter is 4 years old and a bit delayed in speech. At this time, I am doubling my effort and time so that she could catch up. Most of the times, I really think of things if my parenting is really good. Thanks a lot!
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Parenthood is a challenging experience and no two families are ever the same, but research can give you a few pointers on successful parenting strategies. A few highlights:

  1. Avoid praising children based on results; focus on the effort they put in instead. A child who gets praised for being smart all the time, for example, will avoid anything that challenges their intelligence. They end up limiting themselves, since their whole identity was based on figuring things out easily. And when they do experience setbacks, it can be catastrophic for them.
  2. That said, don't give praise too often. If we only work based on rewards, we don't develop the resilience we need to work through frustrating situations without someone else guiding us all the way.
  3. Make sure children get regular and sufficient sleep. Good sleep hygiene is important for everyone, especially children.
  4. Don't lash out when they tell you the truth. Encourage honesty.
  5. Set rules and enforce them consistently, but don't be too strict and restrain their freedom.
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THANKS Tomah. i have a daughter who is exceptionally different from other kids. Sometimes, I just stop and think if I have done things the right way.
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To be a smart parent, you just need to provide for your child's welfare. You need to take care of them, give them the best healthy foods, take time and bond with them and just be a parent you should be expected. As they are growing, their brain starts to develop. They got to meet different kinds of people. Once they are asking questions, or talk about anything, you just need to be there to give them the clear answer. Explain them the things that are vague for them in a manner they will always remember. They will start to make mistakes. Explain to them that human beings are prone to making it but the purpose of that is to learn from it and help others to understand it once they had done it too. If your child is well guided, I think that is smart parenting already.
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I don't think there is a standard way of being a smart parent to a child than living by example. I am of the school of thought that if parents really want to be smart in parenting their children, they must have an exemplary lifestyle worth emulating. Realistically, you can't be a parent and you're not practicing what you are teaching your children. Children tend to learn faster by what their parents are doing.

Unfortunately, present day parents have lost touch in how to be smart in giving proper upbringing to their children. And that's evident in how this children are behaving themselves in the outside world. We now have parents living lives that they wouldn't want their children to live. You'd see some lying, smoking and drinking and committing all manner of unacceptable atrocities in the presence of their children.

On a personal level, I would like to be a smart parent to my children that would inculcate good morals, manners and all kinds of good qualities in them, so that they can be good ambassoadors of my name anywhere they are in life.
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It definitely isn't as easy as we imagine it's going to be.  I think before we have children we have these preconceived ideas of how we are going to bring them up not realising that all children are different and what works for one might not work for another,

I had two children who were so different. One was easy to manage but the other was extremely  difficult and remained that way until this day. I don't think we can ever be fully prepared for the problems we are going to face during parenthood.

All you can do is your best. Love them, care for them, help them through their little problems in life and hope that at the end you will have raised a decent human being, It surely isn't easy but rest assured that you are not the only one and there will be many facing the same or similar problems to you.
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The easier way to deal with kids is to be their friend and at the same time a parent. You don't have to be their best friend but just have a friendly relationship with them where they can talk to you at all times and not be scared. You also need to take the time to understand them and their individuality. Do not expect what works for one child to be perfect for the other. People differ and it begins from childhood.

Don't spare to correct them always when they are wrong. It is easier to instill discipline in them even as toddlers than when they grow older. You must never forget to remind them of your love by your words and gestures. That is most of all the most important. They should know that whatever you do is out of love and in their best interest.
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Parenthood is never an easy task on every parent want to their children excel in life,.it requires a whole lot of commitment,  creativity,  time and patience.

It is very difficult to knows the challenges in it fully until you upgrade to that stage,  to be  a smart parents to your child simply means you also  want your child to grow up smartly, this also requires you to always appear neat and smart to your child almost all the time.
You need to do a lot of things like inciting their names in good and moral oriented  songs,  enforce discipline as much as possible especially when necessary,  be there friends and always be free to them so that you can easily know their feelings when you need to do,  always fulfill the promises you make to them and never level to them nor to someone in their presence.
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It's a good prevelige to become a parent and the happiness that children bring into our life is priceless. But children aren't that perfect, sometimes they can be hard to handle with or easy as. To become a parent I think there is no formula in it, it will just come naturally as a human. Being there with your children, guide them and protect them and show them love everyday. Acknowledge children when they ask or say something to you.

As a parent myself, it wasn't that easy for me as nobody says it was just easy. nobody told me what should parent will do, it will just come natural to me raisng two boys is harder than I thought, I thought it would be fun for them to be with together and grow up together. But, not all the time so in times of trouble, as  a parent we should guide them through.
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For sure there is no manual of how to take care of a child, there are new challenges everyday. There are parents who have felt like they are failures in how they bring up their children, because of the way their children have turned out to be. But the truth is we learn something new everyday. I don't think there is a way of being smarter than your children. They can sometimes out smart us when we least expect it. I guess the best thing to do is try to bond with your kids, know what they are about, in short, get involved in your child's life and that way you will know how to deal with them. You will be a step ahead of them, if they try to play tricks on you, you will already be in the know how. When you are not involved in their lives they will take advantage of you not knowing what they do or like.
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Becoming parents can be easier but becoming smart parents may be challenging. Parents should be caring and affectionate to their children. This is the first and foremost condition for becoming smart parents. At the same time they should be watchful to the activities of their children. Parents should always appreciate their children for their small achievements. In case children are having problem on certain matter,parents should come forward immediately.
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Parenting is one of the most important aspects of any adults. These skills are one of the most important guiding tools for your children. They are different types of parenting styles. Few of the skills you require for parenting are


  • You must communicate truthfully with your children.
  • Stay consistent with your child.
  • Take interest in their day to day life and what they are trying to say.
  • Keep open communication with them.

It is also important that you stay positive with the children. Positive parenting can help in encouraging positive development in them.
A high-quality parent-child relationship is critical for healthy development for your children
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Parenting is a role which needs certain skills and help in order to achieve it. 

Being a parent and also a friend to your children. 

Being understing and also communicative this will help your children talk to you on any matters affecting them without fear. 

Setting reasonable goals with your children. 

Loving them and providing them with thier necessities. 
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Resist the temptation to coddle. Set boundaries/rules, and enforce them with actual punishments for infractions. THE most important life lesson you can teach is that choices and actions have consequences, and bad choices and actions have bad consequences.


That said, don't be an authoritarian dictator, ruling with an iron fist, nitpicking for reasons/excuses to punish. Pick your battles carefully. Your goal is to instill self-control and commonsense...not mindless conformity and obedience to authority.

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To be a smart parent you should be on the right way in life or a balanced way of living in order to be good parents in disciplining their kids. No matter how hard their life they can still manage to guide their children in bringing them up well. Teaching or molding their children good morals and right conduct at a young age. Have strong faith in God all the time.
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I think you need to keep on learning new things. Try to be a good parent as much as possible and never give up on raising a child and be a role model to her or him.
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The best parent you can be to your child or children is to be real to them make sure you are there when they take any step in the lives and correct them when necessary.
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Let make them happy and play with them. Listen and spent tine with them,read books for them. Do activities with them etc are the few things a good parent can do.
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1. Set boundaries: It’s important to teach your child the difference between right and wrong and how to make wise decisions. Setting boundaries helps your child understand the consequences of their actions and helps them to develop a sense of self-control.

2. Show patience: It’s important to remember that children are still learning and growing. Showing patience helps your child learn how to handle difficult situations, and teaches them to take responsibility for their actions.

3. Be a good listener: Listening to your child’s thoughts and feelings will help them to trust you and feel more secure. It also helps you to understand what’s going on in their world, which will help you to respond in a way that’s appropriate for their age and stage of development.

4. Provide structure: Giving your child a sense of structure and routine is important for helping them to feel secure and in control. A good structure will also help them to develop good habits and a sense of discipline.

5. Show appreciation: Acknowledge your child’s efforts and successes, no matter how small. This will help them to feel a sense of pride and accomplishment, which will encourage them to keep on trying.
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Being a smart parent to your child involves a combination of various factors, including effective communication, setting boundaries, providing a safe and supportive environment, being a good role model and promoting learning and growth as well giving emotional and spiritual support
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There is a lot of information out there about how to be a smart parent to your child. Some things that you may want to consider include: being aware of what your child is up to, following a smart parenting routine, learning about smart technology devices, and becoming aware of your child's mental health. Additionally, being aware of your child's physical health, potty training your child, and electing to use a smart home can help you become a better parent.
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