No matter how I try to remain nice and calm, there are still people who just make me lose my patience. I don't know if pissing other people off makes them happy or anything, but I do hope they'll realize that what they're doing won't do them any good. Recently, these people just keeps coming at me. I am not good at confrontations, and I do not want to engage in unhealthy arguments. What do you think should I do?
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I stop being kind when I see that my kindness is taken for granted. You can be so good to some people and they end up being bad to you and expect that you will continue being good.
When I've had enough of a person taking advantage of me. I am a kind person and I do so much for others. But in the end, it is always me who is left out and feeling betrayed by the ones I help. It seems that some people will take advantage of you all the time and always want from you. They will yell at you and treat you badly, but when they need help you are the first one they run to. I had to finally make a decision that I would no longer accept this in my life. Now if a person yells at me and wants something afterward, I don't do it anymore. I stop being kind as you put it.
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I can understand how you feel. I know that sometimes people get in the habit of doing that without realizing how much it affects and how much they are hurting others. Other times ,they know perfectly well what they are doing and it is really their goal to piss you off. When I notice such people, I just try as much as possible to ignore them. I do not react when they expect me to and they become disappointed.
It is a bit tough because you are in a work environment. I would have said to pretend like they don't exist but that's not possible. When they get the hint that you are in bothered and you could careless about what they do, they will definitely have a rethink.Just never stop being kind to others and do not let the sins of some people rub off on others.
It is a bit tough because you are in a work environment. I would have said to pretend like they don't exist but that's not possible. When they get the hint that you are in bothered and you could careless about what they do, they will definitely have a rethink.Just never stop being kind to others and do not let the sins of some people rub off on others.
Being or acting kind is a standard behavior that every rational person is expected to exercise often. The human psychology attributes the act of kindness as a good character judgment for a person. But being kind doesn't always pay off in my own opinion.
A kind person is the type of person everyone likes because he/she can always be relied on in certain situations. But as we all know, everybody has their different types of personality and character. Some people are considerate while others are selfish. A kind person who does dealings with selfish people might always end up displeasing he or herself to please the selfish one. This is an example of a typical situation when you need to stop being kind.
Another instance will be situations when the act of kindness can lead a person into making irrational decisions. You might think doing constant favors for a friend or loved one is being kind, but in reality, the said persons might just be using you to get what they want since your kindness sometimes clouds your judgment. I've seen situations where kind people helped other people out by ending up doing the wrong thing which gets them in trouble. This is another situation where the act of kindness needs to stopped.
But we need to understand that people who are genuinely kind do so because it's in them. They can't just decide at one point to stop being kind. Most of their kind acts are done subconsciously.
A kind person is the type of person everyone likes because he/she can always be relied on in certain situations. But as we all know, everybody has their different types of personality and character. Some people are considerate while others are selfish. A kind person who does dealings with selfish people might always end up displeasing he or herself to please the selfish one. This is an example of a typical situation when you need to stop being kind.
Another instance will be situations when the act of kindness can lead a person into making irrational decisions. You might think doing constant favors for a friend or loved one is being kind, but in reality, the said persons might just be using you to get what they want since your kindness sometimes clouds your judgment. I've seen situations where kind people helped other people out by ending up doing the wrong thing which gets them in trouble. This is another situation where the act of kindness needs to stopped.
But we need to understand that people who are genuinely kind do so because it's in them. They can't just decide at one point to stop being kind. Most of their kind acts are done subconsciously.
I don't really think that there is a particular time that I will look at stopping being kind as this world that we are living in is the type where it is not always easy for us to see people that are kind and honest. There is something that I am looking at that can make me to think of stop being kind to those that are around and they are.
1. When those that I am showing this kindness start gossiping about the way that I am treating them. Then, I won't have any other option than to take away the kindness that I am showing to them as it will be stupid of me to continue.
2. If I am unable to continue to show the kindness because of one factor or the other. There are times when I may not be able to repeat a kind attitude all because there are constraints that is involved. So, when I noticed that I am having some financial issues, I may not be able to continue being kind.
1. When those that I am showing this kindness start gossiping about the way that I am treating them. Then, I won't have any other option than to take away the kindness that I am showing to them as it will be stupid of me to continue.
2. If I am unable to continue to show the kindness because of one factor or the other. There are times when I may not be able to repeat a kind attitude all because there are constraints that is involved. So, when I noticed that I am having some financial issues, I may not be able to continue being kind.
If you have ever been stabbed in the back before and your trust betrayed, you will stop being kind to people. Personally, I have had lots of horrible experiences with more than one person whom I trusted in my life in the past but they all ended up disappointing me on both short term and long term basis.
I had a very good friend whom I lend my hard earned money with the promise that he was going to be paying me back the money in full in 6 months time but when he was supposed to pay me, he completely refused to pay and told me that we are friends, so I should not expect him to pay me back. I really so bad about the whole thing and regretted ever helping him out when he was in need of financial assistance.
I have also had some people who never appreciated the good things I did for them, so I gave up on being kind to people.
I had a very good friend whom I lend my hard earned money with the promise that he was going to be paying me back the money in full in 6 months time but when he was supposed to pay me, he completely refused to pay and told me that we are friends, so I should not expect him to pay me back. I really so bad about the whole thing and regretted ever helping him out when he was in need of financial assistance.
I have also had some people who never appreciated the good things I did for them, so I gave up on being kind to people.
Kindness is a virtue to start with. you can never stop being nice, but endeavor to continue being nice no matter the situation. That is what the bible teaches us, we should never react, or answer back with a harsh word. Yes people can sometimes be a pain or a thorn in the flesh, but that should not stop us from being the good person that we are. in fact, it is only supposed to make us better people. it is through conflicts that we get more bold, courageous and humble. that way you can weigh your anger and know how to respond to people who will constantly annoy you. I am a perfect example, am usually the quiet type, i don't like arguments i would rather let you have your way other than argue. So long as i believe in what am saying, it doesn't really matter whether you agree with me or not. so just be kind, and somehow the person who annoys you will finally come to realize their mistakes and come and seek advice from you one day.