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I am lonely. How do I find a girlfriend for me? I am a shy guy and need some tips
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Where is it laid down that if you are lonely, you have to find a girlfriend? There are other activities too to keep yourself engaged.
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You need to practice being friendly. If you are not friendly then some girls will think you are a snob or much more than that. Be nice when you are with girls. You should start from this to stop your shyness.
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What I would tell you is that nobody was born with boldness. It's something everyone of us learn as we grow. You just have to find a way to build your self confidence in being able to approach a girl boldly without being timid.
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Finding a girlfriend can be a challenge for shy guys, but it is possible! Here are some tips: 


1. Start by making small talk with people you are interested in. This will help you get more comfortable talking to them and can be a great way to start a conversation.


2. Try to join a club or group activity where you can meet other people with similar interests. This can help you make friends and get to know people better.


3. Reach out to people you already know and let them know you are looking for a girlfriend. Ask them if they know anyone they can introduce you to.


4. Try online dating. This can be a great way to meet people without having to put yourself in uncomfortable social situations.


5. Put yourself out there! Make sure you go to events and places where you can meet potential dates. You never know who you might run into.


Good luck!

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Relationships and finding a partner is not an easy task. There are some people that are very shy like you and find it difficult to meet the right person. You basically will need to go out with your friends more. In the past, people found their partners in nightclubs. However, today they seem to like going online to dating sites to find the perfect partner.

You should try and go out more to a cyber cafe, join a gym, or join a co-ed sports team. These are all great ways to meet women and get to know them. Otherwise, if you have a dog, take it to a dog park and spend a few hours there with your dog. The dog parks are friendly and people will get to know you slowly. The more you go, the more people you'll meet. I take my two dogs to a dog park 4 times a weeks and have met so many really nice and interesting people. I was asked out for coffee on several occasions.
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People do think relationship is easy. But it is wrong. Be called love is fleeting because of that.
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It was also my husband's problem before. All you need is a mobile phone or laptop. You have to join on different dating sites in order for you to have interaction even just virtually. Chatting or texting through mobile phone will help you practice your skills as a real brave man. Nobody's going to laugh at you and no one's going to tease you.
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Relationship isn't an easy task and you just can't wake up one morning and say that you need a lover.Take your time first analyse what you want in a relationship and which kind of a relationship you want.

When you get that someone, analyse the person.You know what he is(kind, caring and loving), If he's that kind of a person who can still remain faithful to you and will stick by you in times of trouble.If the person has those kind of qualities then he's your perfect match.

The most important thing is are you ready for relationship?
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As my older friends told me tha maturity is one big secret before you enter a relationship. Because it is the time when you are ready to know other people because you already knew yourself and what you're capable with
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What I can advice you brother is that to take your time when it comes to girlfriend relationships. Most of the relationships don't easily work for most of my friends, they all end up breaking up without a proper reason. You are not alone I am also a shy one, but that does not mean none of them have not approached me, they have. Try always to know what they like most and what they like to do also.
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Being lonely is not an excuse for you to find a girl friend, there are other things that will give you enjoyment and recreation. You might find someone as your girl friend but later on of it gets boring, you will just say to yourself that "I am lonely. I want to be single." Just take your time. Enjoy being single first if you are not ready for a serious commitment. 
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Yes I agree to that mate, Having commited to someone is a burden. Date to marry and not only date to flirt
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Get into a sport Stay fit, fix your style to make it meet the times and join some clubs and watch some videos on how to use pick up lines in the right way.
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If you are want to find a girlfriend, just because you are lonely is not correct. Love should come from our heart. Try to be social. Try to make conversations with friends. This could avoid your loneliness.
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The best thing you can socialize with women. We can do this by going to a bar or a party. Being shy will not give you something. You know what I mean. Try to break free from being like this.
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Confidence is a key to court someone. Show them that you're a man with sense and can do such things
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It is so hard work in the our life so  please like any girl so first give it to her time then she focus on you and wait also don't  do the mistake in your relationship.after that then she will make your friend then you will help her most of the time after that.those time like at that time will share your feelings  front of her I think she will accept that.but first give time to her...

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You say your are shy, and the first thing is to try and build up your confidence. You can do this by starting to talk to people in your neighborhood or school or in the work place. Also practice being a friendly person, maybe your loneliness is brought by you being too self to yourself. Get out and interact with others slowly you will build up your self confidence and start the journey of looking for a girlfriend. 
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Nothing beats a confident man, that is one of the turn ons for a woman in my opinion 
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Having s girlfriend is not always an answer if you are lonely or longing for love. Befriend with people and tell them some things that sorrows you and let them share thoughts to you for you to be ready to handle a friendship and then after that you can now find yourself someone to love.
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Meet me people and try going out more, you will surely find someone whom you will like and love. Am also shy in a way and I totally understand how things are tough for you but you need to overcome it you know just try talking to new girls and you will find one that rhymes with you. Just keep on pushing don't give up on yourself, am also trying to build my confidence and am getting a hold of it. 
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Try chatous app, or something 

Or try instagram

Or just wait until you meet the love of your life

She must bee waiting you either 
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I don't think it's a good idea. Just because you feel lonely you need a girlf friend, this type of relationship can only make you happy for a temporary period of time, but at the end you will end up feeling more like a mess and lonely. 
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you can find your partner or a girlfriend online from the dating apps like tinder and muzz there are many other dating sites also
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I have never had a girlfriend before but i would say you try to be as much as friendly as you can, try making the girl you like laugh and happy, be there for her when she needs someone.
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Go out and socialize: Attend social events, join clubs or groups that align with your interests, and take opportunities to meet new people.

Try online dating: There are many dating websites and apps that can help you connect with potential partners.

Be yourself: It is important to be genuine and authentic when looking for a relationship. Be open and honest about who you are and what you are looking for.

Take care of yourself: Make sure you are in a good place mentally and emotionally before pursuing a relationship. This will help you attract a partner who is a good fit for you.
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You need to spend sometime to make friends with more people especially with girls of you category. Sometimes you may experience some setbacks due shyness but keep going and get better soon as you proceed.
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You can ask help from your friends, especially the guys to guide you on what to do even your other female friends or family members that can also help you may be to find a partner that they can match to you. The important thing is that you need to have the strength and courage once your family and friends introduce you to some women. Their help to introduce you to a future partner will not be a successful if you don't do your part as a guy to become closer to your future partner. No matter how shy you are you need to prepare yourself and build your confidence to be able to make these things materialize.
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Girlfriend is not the solution for your loneliness. I think you should try to do something that will boost your self confidence and make friends. Widen you networks and hangout. 
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