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I have dated men younger than myself in the past and although I wanted to believe it didn't matter in the end it did. Some people do make it work though. What do you think?
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Age does not matter when it come to dating though, most men dated older women maybe because women mature early then men. Mature men not by physical but but their decision making.
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Our choice differs from one person to another. So, it's all about what someone likes and nothing more than that. 

I think that some go for older women because they have better sense of maturity. 
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I think it has become the new trend nowadays for men to date older women. I don't know whether its by choice or by circumstance. Way back it was the other way round when men would date younger women. Anyway i think roles are changing and it has been embraced. I don't see anything wrong, it all depends on an individual if you feel right about it, why not go ahead. But it also has its pros and cons. Sometimes later in the marriage, that is if they got married, conflicts start coming up on who is the disciplinarian, who's the custodian, who has a say on what matter and so on. In most cases you will find the lady take up most of the roles because she's probably the one running the home, thus making the man feel inadequate and disrespected. That's where i would say it wouldn't really be a good idea, but if you agree you can stay together well.

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Age has always being a number to me what matters more is an individual attitude in a relationship. It doesn't just about the age in most cases I'm not ruling out the point that some people act their ages but they're also older people that act so immaturely so everything boil down to one's understanding.

I have dated both younger and older partners and I realise that maturely isn't about age but about,if one really want to grow emotionally, psychologically, financially and otherwise and learn about life's coping skills than throwing tantrums. Unless one just have preference for younger partners but if one finds love with an older woman,the shouldn't be a problem with them,there should be more insight into it than just age.
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I think there is nothing wrong with men dating older women, after all, being in this set-up is a mutual decision. However, this type of relationship may face some troubles due to issues on maturity and generation gap (if in case the gap is really huge). I have a friend who is dating a guy younger than her. She told me that there are times when their humor won't meet each other. That she had to explain to him that she was just joking or being sarcastic about certain things, and vice versa. Women are often viewed to be more mature than men; hence, in their case, when it comes to some instances requiring major decision, she often takes the lead. Although such is the case, both of them do embrace their differences just like any couple. They also get to learn a lot from each other, as they both have different perspectives in life.

One thing that kind of makes them worry is how and what other people will think about their relationship. Sure they get a lot of negative opinions, and they do admit that such words affect them and their relationship. But what I liked about both of them is that they are very vocal about their feelings and how they would want their relationship to proceed.
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I cannot recommend such a relationship even if the age difference is 1 year. According to science,  ladies tend to mature more fast than men. In fact its not even recommended to marry your age mate because you'll be unfair to him, according to science. When you'll be busy thinking about the future he'll still stuck in the present, partying and etceteras.
A very good age difference is  between 3 to 5 years  past that it's something different. Although what matters is love, you still need to consider other factors especially when it comes to marriage especially for  a lady. It reaches a time when you feel like you really need to find someone as young as you. Making decisions like those aren't easy and you need to ask first before going ahead.
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There's nothing more to it than the traditional type of relationship. It may look and feel weird to many people in the society as it is not normally seen everyday. Nobody really raises an eyebrow when a girl dates an older man. This is because society has always placed men above women regardless of age. So no matter the relationship, the men are expected to take the position of lead.

Drawing from that, logically it shouldn't matter the age of the man in a relationship since he should be accorded with the same respect any ways. Further more, maturity comes with age as well but age isn't a determinant for maturity. You could be dating an older man who is just a grown baby.

Having said all that, what matters is that both couples are on the same wavelength and level of understanding, carry each other along. After all, a person can only meet you only as deeply as they have met themselves.
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We only get insecure or the feeling uncomfortable will only starts once the prying eyes of public keep on looking at both of you. To be real, there is nothing wrong with men dating older women if both are single. It means they can have relationship to people they want to be with. Some of the people are judgemental and they will start assuming even if you start explaining. For me, as long as both are not tie up in a relationship with someone, nothing should they worry about. Older women likes younger man because they feel younger again. Younger man are funny and interesting. I think it really depends of what you prefer, older than you or younger than you, as long as you are truly happy with them and they are single, nothing should stop you to pursue each other. However, if the older woman is like 80 years old and the younger is 30 below, then I guess I will raise my eyebrow.
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Age doesn't matter. It's the relationship between them. No one can comment on it. People should stop judging people. Everyone has a different story. 
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In my opinion, some men date older women because they are more mature than young ones. It is also the other way round. In fact, one of my uncles dated and married a woman 10 years older than him. Age is not the basis of loving someone. 
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I can't judge, since there is freewill that exist before two people who come together for the purpose of love. Anything outside love can be regarded as selfishness. Some younger men target the wealth of these older people instead of love.  
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For me I do think it's not possible to date with younger age since the love will be based on material acquisition in most cases. It is advisable to have someone in love of almost the same age as yours or a man slightly older than you. 
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A guy explained this same situation to me last time. He choose to love older woman because He is childish and badly want a mother material type of girl. He thought that dating an older woman can make him a spoiled child like boyfriend
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According to most african traditions it is not advisable for a man to date an older women, it is an insult to you as a man, but nowadays we seen it every where.
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The answer to this question may vary a lot, some may find it okay, but some may find the idea disgusting. Well, it depends on the person's point of view. I am okay with small age gaps but if the age is huge for example almost half or more than that than I do find it uncomfortable irrespective of gender.
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Most of young ladies are more expensive to date, majority are always after money and material things but older ladies have settled they have money they want only love.
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I think it depends on the situation and the individuals involved. It can be a positive experience if the couple is compatible, has similar goals, and both parties feel respected. It can also be a negative experience if there are power imbalances, age-related expectations, or other issues that arise. Ultimately, it's up to the couple to decide if they are a good fit for each other.
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I think it does work in the sense that it allows for a greater understanding and common ground between the two individuals. It can also be exciting for them both because it gives the idea of an age difference. It also depends on the individual, but I think it likely does happen in some form or another.
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But it also has its pros and cons. Sometimes later in the marriage, that is if they got married, conflicts start coming up on who is the disciplinarian, who's the custodian, who has a say on what matter and so on. In most cases you will find the lady take up most of the roles because she's probably the one running the home, thus making the man feel inadequate and disrespected
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Dating dynamics can vary widely, and relationships between men and older women are becoming increasingly common and socially accepted. Here are some aspects to consider regarding men dating older women:

1. **Maturity and Compatibility:** Age doesn't necessarily determine maturity, but individuals at different life stages may have varying levels of life experience and perspectives. Compatibility in values, goals, and interests is crucial.

2. **Emotional Connection:** Emotional connection and shared interests often play a more significant role in the success of a relationship than age alone. Healthy communication and understanding are essential.

3. **Life Experience:** Older women may bring a wealth of life experience, wisdom, and stability to a relationship. This can be appealing to men seeking a partner with a broader perspective.

4. **Independence:** Older women often have established careers and a sense of independence, which can contribute to a more balanced and equal partnership.

5. **Common Interests:** Shared interests and similar lifestyles can foster a strong connection, regardless of age. Common goals and values are vital for a successful relationship.

6. **Social Acceptance:** While societal attitudes have evolved, age-gap relationships may still face certain societal perceptions. Open communication and mutual support can help couples navigate potential challenges.

7. **Communication:** Clear communication about expectations, life goals, and the direction of the relationship is crucial. Being transparent about desires and concerns fosters trust and understanding.

8. **Physical Attraction:** Physical attraction is a personal preference, and individuals are drawn to various qualities in a partner. Age alone doesn't dictate attractiveness.

9. **Supportive Friends and Family:** Acceptance and support from friends and family members can positively impact the couple's experience. Open communication with loved ones can help address any concerns.

10. **Navigating Life Stages:** Couples with significant age differences may need to navigate different life stages, such as retirement or children from previous relationships. Open communication and understanding are key.

It's important to approach relationships with an open mind, recognizing that compatibility, shared values, and emotional connection play pivotal roles. Each relationship is unique, and the success of a partnership depends on the individuals involved, their communication skills, and their ability to navigate challenges together. Society's evolving views on age-gap relationships reflect a more inclusive understanding of diverse relationship dynamics.
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For both men and women, dating an older person can be rewarding and positive. It frequently infuses the relationship with a variety of viewpoints, experiences, and maturity. In cases where there is mutual respect, understanding, and common interests, age differences shouldn't be a barrier. It is essential to communicate openly regarding long-term objectives, expectations, and societal perceptions. Regardless of age, the compatibility, communication, and sincere connection between the people in a relationship are ultimately what determine its success.
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