You are right, so many to consider. If the child's life and well-being are to be considered most, then the situation of the adopter is very crucial in making sure the objectives are precisely met. But I have made myself clear to them I will not meddle anymore.
The adoption was initially offered to the older sibling who was more eligible to adopt the toddler. However, her husband and son did not agree, which puzzled me the most as to why the adoption ended up to the non-eligible.
I really am not against the adoption thing. It's just how the adoption is done I am not condoning to. Prior to the adoption, I've suggested right from the start that they go through the process with the legit agencies to avoid encountering problems in the future. But to my surprise, they still went ahead with it underground anyways.
The non-eligible adopter was jobless for almost 20 years now. She is not quite physically fit and still living with her mother. But she and the other two older siblings planned to move her out to a rented house to be independent and committed to helping her as well financially.
Here went another problem after then - the lockdown, and the sudden passing of the husband of the eligible older sibling. All these problems were not expected. And now, they are all financially challenged.