The people make a serious mistake in thinking that you give to those whom you love, and the fact is you love those to whom you give. if i give something to you then I've invested myself in you. since self love is given, everybody loves themselves, now that part of me has become in you, there's part of me in you that I love. True Love is love of giving, not a love of receiving.
Just imagine that, Young man & Young Women fall in love that means he saw in this women someone who he felt could provide him with all his physical and emotional needs, she felt in this man somebody she feels that she can write that was love, but each one is looking out for their own needs. its not love for the other. the other person becomes a vehicle for satisfaction of a desire. an external love is not on what I'm going to get but I'm going to give.