There are persons i know that they are selfish towards their needs. A person who is married should give consideration for their partners preference, instead he is selfish to make his own wishes and her mother wishes to make TRUE by spoiling his own kids life and happiness. He and his family is also thinking for their wishes to come TRUE by harming or destroying peaceful life and wishes. The kids have to right to live with both the parents and to get the love and care of both of the parents. After having kids, we have to gibe importance for their life, happiness. No to fulfill your own wishes. If you didn't look after your kids wishes when their time comes, they will go after their wishes, finally you will not have anyone.