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What is your preferences in choosing lifetime partner? Characteristics or appearance?

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answered by LEGEND (6,404 points) 6 13 36
Both of them matter to me. For appearance, I'll obviously need someone who I can be comfortable walking along with. It won't be fair if I have someone whom I dislike people knowing of. Someone whom am proud of and him too should be proud of me and both of us should feel freely introducing each other to our friends. Also, someone's characters on the other hand matters. You might find someone has got good looks but when it comes to characters he's very pathetic. He does unimaginable things. Mostly, this usually comes when you move in with them or decide to stay together for some time. You'll see all sorts of manners and you end up regreting. No one is perfect, its just a matter of enduring each other and coping with the situation at hand.For me I think I'll cope with someone whose got good IQ level plus character as well.
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answered by ELITE (3,008 points) 4 13 28
When it comes to making a choice of who to marry, I must say that it is one of the most sweetest thing yet difficult to achieve. The reason is that human beings as we know will always have a reason to do one thing and leave the other which is also understandable as we have reasons for behaving in different manners when an action is taken.
To me, I always ensure that I study how understanding the lady that I am going to settle down with is before making any decisions on that front since this is one of the things that I will always have in mind even while we had kids. Conflicts is always inevitable when two persons are involved, but trying to find a way out of every situation is one of the good attitude that I desire. Also, she is going to be someone that is ready to build a family with me and not one that wants to spend only.
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answered by LEGEND (6,086 points) 3 27 50
I prefer to consider both. When it comes to his physical looks, that person should look like he is taking care of himself. I am not a judgemental but appearance really matters. He need to look like he can represents his whole life for me. He should be smiling all the time and take life easy despite the hardship. That kind of attitude should reflect on his face. On character, I want a person that I can depend on. Someone who is listening to my problems and will tell me what is right. He should be God fearing and inspires me positively. I want a good person that will be a good influence that will push me up and will be there for me until I meet my success. I hope to meet my future bestfriend/soulmate in the future. I am not sure if this will happen but I know God will give me something that i need.
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answered by (658 points) 2 6 24
Choosing a life partner is a very important decision to make and one that must be done carefully or else you will live the rest of your life regretting. I must confess, this is a hard decision for me to make, I am too choosy. Sometimes I find myself looking for physical appearances in a man instead of the moral characteristics.

In choosing a life partner, I will consider the following in a man;

1. The ability to understand.
The quality of understanding is a very important trait in any relationship. Without it, it won't stay long. I need a man who understands that I am a woman with varied emotions. Sometimes I will be so moody and messy.
2. Fatherly nature.

My mother taught me that for a relationship to be long lasting, I should look for a man that is comparable to my dad. A man who I look at him and see my dad in him. This man is guaranteed to take good care of my children and I.
3. God fearing man.
A man who fears God, respects a woman. This man knows the goodness of being faithful and caring. All the good qualities are enhanced in him if he fears God.
4. Fun loving man.

I don't need an all time serious man. I need someone who understands the goodness of having fun. Going out on vacations, celebrating birthdays  and anniversaries, going to parties and taking a second honeymoon.
There are a lot more qualities, this are just but a few. They all require patience for a good man to show up. I also need to work on myself so that I can meet his requirements.
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answered by ELITE (4,082 points) 7 26 72
At first when we don't know someone I think we are all attracted to the physical appearance, it is our first impression of someone. After that we get to know them and it is their personality which becomes more important. I remember when I was young I dated some very good looking guys but they didn't come to much because some of them were not warm friendly and humourous which are characteristics I look for in a partner,

I think good looking people don't have to try so hard to make an impression because they know people are drawn to them whereas those of us who are just average have to work harder. I know that some people who at first did not seem attractive to me became that way because their personality shone through. A good character is far more important than good looks.
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answered by VISIONARY (9,009 points) 7 16 67
I love inner beauty and that was what I had always looked out at for, when I was still single. Nothing beat a person with good inner character like showing love,being caring,a friend to be closer than any  parent, a person with the meekness of heart and a comforting spirit.

Beauty is good but it can fade away anytime, what remains  is the character of the person. I have a woman that is more than what I have just mentioned and I'm glad it was just or it turned out as expected.

So I chose my life partner based on her character not beauty.I didn't need a daunting beauty and one I can't live with but one I cannot live without.
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answered by LEGEND (6,082 points) 7 21 49
First of all, I will go for someone that's God fearing. Because I know that the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. And with wisdom comes good behavior, humility, respect and honesty. If all these things are missing is somebody you will see that it will be difficult to live with such a person as a partner.

Secondly, if I am to choose a life partner such person must be resourceful. A person with sense of purpose in life. Someone that knows where she's going in life not one that is led by what friends are doing. She must be willing to make sacrifices when necessary in ensuring we have a loving and peaceful home.

Lastly, although this might not be as important like the others but it will be a add-on to them. She must be good looking. She must have that natural beauty not one that is enhanced by cosmetic makeup. I should be very proud in walking with her in public as we make the onlookers fall head over heel about our compatiblity.
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answered by LEGEND (6,021 points) 6 13 26
Character and appearance is good since different individuals have what they consider to be their best choice. For me, character is more paramount than appearance. Appearance is volatile and change easily change but character on the other hand is who a person really is. Some people have a very good appearance but with the worst of characters. I can't stand such people.
Nobody is perfect but you should not also settle for less. Pick someone that compliments you. Someone that makes you happy and the person you can be proud of regardless what people say. Those people with the best of character are the ones that make the world a better place. You can always have the full package of character and appearance.
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answered by ELITE (3,054 points) 8 35 66
Both matters to me. Physical appearance do matter at the beginning of the relationship. However, I do not consider that as a major determinant on whether or not I should date a person. What's more important are the values that a person possess. We all engage in relationships in the hopes of finding someone we can be with forever. Thus, the character of the person is far more important than just having the looks. After all, looks wither while values last a lifetime.

For instance, if I am to choose between a mature person and a good looking one, I will always choose the latter. I will never trade the chance for a healthier relationship to something that will only be for fame and attention.
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answered by (708 points) 4 13 52
I have many preferences when it comes to choosing my partner. I tend to look at many and different factors before choosing. For instance, how she looks at things, is she a positive thinker or not? is she matured enough already to think what is right and what is wrong? I also look for her attitude, It is important to me that the woman I will choose is humble, have a submissive heart, knows how to respect others, and most especially knows how to mingle with my family. I want a girl who can understand me and the way I think but not necessarily she should know everything about me, and Lastly, I want a girl who can accept me for what I am.

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