Keeping it short, me and him are best mates and he evolved to become a ladies man, on the good looking tall side, its as if, he keeps getting laid every other month, especially with older women.More recently, hes become flirty with my younger sis.Shes finishing her High school and to be honest has become a pretty girl herself, so yes i can understand shed gather attention, but i was never worried as such, as shes a good girl.Now given me and him have proximity and he frequents our common circle, they both interact alot.All this while, shes been seeing him as her bros best friend(like a brother only) and hes been seeing her as his own sis.But right now, since hes laid quiet a few women and since shes become pretty, i,m having this "complex" of not allowing them to speak since i feel the tone of conversation is bordering on flirting and shes opening up. I dont know why i feel this way, maybe i am insecure?.Maybe not!.
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Hey buddy. Are you dumb or what!?
Even after knowing the whole damn situation you are just watching them. Goooo help your sister, you are her brother you should protect her and let me tell that friend of yours he's not your friend at all if he would be he would have shared things and never ever could've looked at your sister with bad eyes. But he's doing it and that too by using you in front you. Atleast save your sister she's a naive child. And if needed break up friendship from that dumbass to protect your sister and warm him to stay away from her.
Even after knowing the whole damn situation you are just watching them. Goooo help your sister, you are her brother you should protect her and let me tell that friend of yours he's not your friend at all if he would be he would have shared things and never ever could've looked at your sister with bad eyes. But he's doing it and that too by using you in front you. Atleast save your sister she's a naive child. And if needed break up friendship from that dumbass to protect your sister and warm him to stay away from her.
Your sister will soon be a victim and you will have aides in her feeling that way. You have to stop the bond before it becomes somthing else because that guy is really not good for your sister. You have first hand information about this, use that. Warn him, di whatever it takes to protect your sister, it's your duty to do so.
It's definitely weird because you didn't know the purpose of you're best friend when He is around you. Is it for your sister or for you? I don't have a sister but I have closed friends whose a guy and a girl that flirts in front of me, even though they're not my sister and brother and it's still awkward to me
In many relationships, it's common for people to experience a mix of emotions when spending time together. It's important to be attuned to your own feelings and needs. If spending time with someone consistently leaves you feeling more drained than relaxed, it might be worth considering whether the relationship dynamics or the activities you're engaging in need adjustment.
Communication is key; discussing your feelings and finding a balance that works for both individuals can help create a more harmonious and satisfying interaction. Remember that it's normal for relationships to have ups and downs, and understanding each other's boundaries and preferences can contribute to a healthier connection.
Why do you feel insecure? Obviously because you may be. Have you considered that you may be a little jealous and anxious that if and it's a big if that you're worried the flirting you're seeing is actually indeed flirting, which if it works they may fall for each other? Or at least begin dating and that you're real insecurity is more with the possibility of you no longer feeling like you're "1st" in either of their lives if things work out. My best advice to you is, that if both are really two of your favorite people and you have no underlying romantic attachments to either, that you just let nature take it's course between your two grown friends and do your best to support their decision if they do decide to pursue a healthy adult relationship. No disrespect meant, but while they may be your friends, you have no real business when it comes to them making adult decisions. I know change can be painful in a group friend dynamic, but as the saying goes, "3s a crowd". I think you may need to be supportive of any budding relationship and tread lightly with your own opinions when it comes to them. If those two are meant to be together, then you need to keep out of it. Unless you want to find yourself minus two friends. My other advice to you is that you seek help or at least do some deep inner reflection to find the underlying cause of whatever is causing you to want to interfer with what could be love.